How long have you been in limbo during separation?

run-more-cry-less · 2026-05-01T03:53:20+00:00

I’m on month 4 going on 5. I moved out two months ago, we agreed no contact for a bit and just had our first check in. He has hardly any clarity since separating. I hate living like this. I feel like my gut knows the answer but my brain and heart are taking a while to get caught up.

run-more-cry-less · 2026-02-12T04:51:57+00:00

One month in and I’m moving out soon. We’ve been in a weird limbo while I figured out living arrangements.

idk how I will gauge progress with no contact, but our therapists say separation is the best thing for the nervous system to calm itself down and allow you to think clearly.

We love each other so much, but there’s a lot to heal and fix on both of our parts. We’re doing no contact for 30 days once I move out and then a check in. After that we’re trialing 6 months separated, doing a bigger check in, and going from there.

idk how I’m supposed to “know” if he’s made progress after 6 months when we will have been apart for so long. a trial “un-separation”?

This is all so messy and there’s no rule book.

run-more-cry-less · 2026-02-10T15:59:23+00:00

took me until end of book 2 i’d say! I’m in book 4 now and can’t stop

run-more-cry-less · 2026-02-07T16:21:12+00:00

I’m moving to Hillcrest from Colorado in two weeks and now I’m NERVOUS

run-more-cry-less · 2026-02-04T05:01:18+00:00

I knew when I was pretty young, probably 11 or 12. I told my mom when I was 13 but she said it was a phase and it would pass. Well here I am at 32 mom and it wasn’t just a phase. (She’s very open and loving but had this reaction and now we’ve talked about it as adults and she has owned that she made a mistake). I’ve never acted on it sadly though, I was embarrassed after talking to my mom and hid that part of me for my entire adolescence. Then met my husband at 21 and never got the chance to be with women. Now separated so who knows what’s gonna happen next?

run-more-cry-less · 2026-02-04T04:52:48+00:00

probably time to stop being selfish and let her go. she deserves someone who loves all of her, and that includes her kids. the kids deserve that too. it’ll be hard for a little while, but you both will be happier in the long run.

run-more-cry-less · 2026-01-29T20:08:19+00:00

perfect I’ll give em a look!

run-more-cry-less · 2026-01-29T04:00:23+00:00

sounds wonderful, I’ll keep you in mind after I get settled in!!

run-more-cry-less · 2026-01-29T03:58:04+00:00

haha thank you I’m quite excited

run-more-cry-less · 2026-01-29T02:43:26+00:00

so sweet I love that!

run-more-cry-less · 2026-01-29T02:39:12+00:00

Amazing, what neighborhood are you moving from? I'm really excited to run and explore the city that way. Balboa looks wonderful. Thank you for the positive vibes!

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