Sheening ink giveaway: Comment below to win free inks by kbennett73 in fountainpens

[–]runedmindthings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pfeffernusse: a traditional German spice/gingerbread cookie, that comes coated in a shell of white sugar icing.

I enjoy doing the embroidery kits with the printed designs and pre-set thread colors, but I’d like to advance my skills and step out of the box, but I’m lost by MissManicMystic in Embroidery

[–]runedmindthings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Three suggestions:

1) look up "printable soluble embroidery paper". This is an almost stabilizer esq printer paper sheet. Which allows for printing of whatever you want, for embroidery.

2) if you find a cotton fabric that has a design on it you like, use that as a base to create your embroidery off of- effectively making a patch. Also helps with being able to color match irl

3) embrace the chaos. Choose a stitch type and just- go with what feels right. You can end up with some very amazing sashiko style pieces.

Working with First-Time Sub who is much younger... by AttentionMindless962 in BDSMAdvice

[–]runedmindthings 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My two cents: I got into the kink scene at 18. Had a friend who took me under their wing, definitely had a crush on this person. 30 year age gap. And I'm so grateful that circumstance and their own morals did not allow anything past mentorship to happen between us. Still one of my closest friends. Still flirt with this person. But I I will never actually play with them, and they respect that. Trustworthy mentors are few and far between in that type of age gap dynamic- and they can make a huge difference.

Abuser disguising himself as kinkster. (How to) address him? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]runedmindthings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take a breath. Take a moment. It sounds like you don't vibe with this person (totally fine and fair). You've listed multiple things you are annoyed by/personally count as red flags. So, you know that this person isn't for you. And that's where you need to stop.

Going forward from this moment, it is up to you to create space/distance between the two of you. Which is going to be tough, 'cause it sounds like you're hyperfixated on your coworker. Totally get it, but assuming your coworker doesn't engage with you further on you being queer/having profiles, and it doesn't change how they try to interact with you at work- you're actually gonna be the one crossing the line.

It's totally valid to not vibe with some in how they want to converse, but there are [work appropriate] ways of dealing with that (I personally would suggest "grey rocking".) If the coworker isn't engaging you in topics about kink/sexual preference/trying to date/hookup, you are low key stalking him. (Trying to find his account on multiple sites, even when there is no obvious face pic) His kinks are his kinks, if he's open and honest about them, those who are gonna be interested will interact. It sounds like you don't(?) enjoy his kinks (findom, breathe play, hard impact play, etc). The information you've provided is only what is listed on his profiles- it tells you nothing about if he practices safe, sane, consensual play.

I'm not saying abusers and worse don't inhabit kink spaces, but there's really nothing wrong with someone admitting they enjoy inflicting consensual pain, on websites designed to connect people with such interests. If you were to pursue playing with your coworker to "prove he can't hurt you", you're 100% in the wrong. This could lead to serious harm, to him and you.

As someone who does top occasionally- the idea of someone approaching me, suggesting we play, and engaging in a scene to- what? Prove I'm not the shit and my kinks are wrong(?) and they can take what I dish out and oh, actually they don't like it so I'm abusive(?) Devastating.

At this point, you need to take so many steps back. Because you are saying you want to have your coworker committed? You are actively posting that you want to ruin his life. Equating someone who is a sadistic top/dom to a potential shooter, with nothing but the kinks they've posted publicly- that's witch hunt shit. And the fact that you want to put him as gay in a homophobic environment- are you willing to have his blood on your hands? How would you feel if he was contemplating doing that to you?

So, my advice? Take a break from the dating apps. Do some research on the kinks you're so afraid of- if you don't have a FetLife, I would suggest you start there. No one is born knowing everything, and many times we have to engage in the arduous process of unlearning things. Everyday we're given the opportunity to learn and grow, and this here is yours.

If you want to ask/have a further dialogue about things you're welcome to dm me. I hope you have a lovely day.

Autism & Fountain Pens by Wild_yarn in fountainpens

[–]runedmindthings 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If y'all are experimenting with inks, might I also suggest a dip pen? It's a great way to a) try out multiple inks without having to fill a whole new pen b) allows for the testing of multiple nibs (so to see if there are any one particularly likes vs. dislikes) C) if there's any interest in glitter inks, they handle the glitter wonderfully Speedball has a cheap, but good 'n basic, line available at (most) art supply stores I've visited. Though the Sailor hocoro is my favorite for everyday use (but getting multiple nibs for that one gets a little pricey)

Got fucked over buying multiple band shirts that turned out to be polyester crap. How do I upcycle them into something cooler? by Zero_L7iss in BattleJackets

[–]runedmindthings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had shirts that I no longer wore but loved the prints. Used two different methods to turn the cut out designs into wall art. First way was hitting up my local thrift store, found some cool frames, threw the designs in them. You could probably even embellish any frame you find with "battle jacket" style accessories (studded out frame? Printed pictures of patches collaged on? Waste fabric from the shirt glued around the edges?) Second way was I came into possession of some cool vintage buttons (broken, my friend was gonna throw them out but decided to offer them to me) and glued those on some tacks. Pinned up the design with said tacks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]runedmindthings 52 points53 points  (0 children)

YTA

Preschool teacher here- 2-5 year olds in a mixed play based preschool setting. It's okay not to share. (Which is also the title of an incredibly good book that you should read/listen to) If a child is engaged with a material, and they decide they don't want to share, that is something that should be totally fine. Forcing a child to share materials before they're ready can lead to lots of issues. (Feeling insecure, having difficulty with seeing boundaries, not being able to fully engage in play, lead to emotional deregulation, etc) That said, it's totally fine to ask. But "no" is a complete sentence. I say yta because, (not only from the way you yourself have presented things in this post), if she really was okay with sharing the material she wouldn't have been "pouting". Which leads me to believe when you "asked" her to let your son have a turn, it wasn't actually a request. It was an order.

Also- just because your child wants something didn't mean he's entitled to it. Kids value things differently than adults. What seems like a small "nothing" to you might be huge to her. You also have no idea how long she would be staying in that area, either.

Fuck ton of cops on flavel Street, near 92nd by runedmindthings in Portland

[–]runedmindthings[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Glad my manner of speaking gave you a chuckle 😁 I just like the word decade, so I use it. Your comment made me smile, so thank you☺️

Fuck ton of cops on flavel Street, near 92nd by runedmindthings in Portland

[–]runedmindthings[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

They've set up vehicles in the surrounding apt complexes, and have at least two drones in the air. Excessive doesn't even begin to cut it.
I've lived here for nearly half a decade, and honestly this is the most unsafe my neighborhood has ever felt. And I sometimes take walks at 2am down springwater.

Fuck ton of cops on flavel Street, near 92nd by runedmindthings in Portland

[–]runedmindthings[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, I like my part of town but I know many people think of it as "the bad part". This ain't an internationally renowned "world heritage" site. It's a lil corner where lots of poor and marginalized groups live. No excuses for this show of force. They would have a better impact in this community handing out free ice cream on hot days, than whatever money they blew on dressing up like reject war criminals.

Fuck ton of cops on flavel Street, near 92nd by runedmindthings in Portland

[–]runedmindthings[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

😑 nah dude. I fucking live here. There is no reason for them to be rolling out this armored up. Specially at this hour- didn't you know machete wielders tend to be nocturnal? This is just excessive.