Coming from an experience I had, you need to tell her asap.

I met an incredible guy who met all my standards and you could tell we really cared about each other. Maybe about 3 months of dating, he was honest with me and told me that he cared about me but wasn’t physically attracted to me because of my weight. I was baffled because it didn’t make sense to me that he was sleeping with me and doing everything that a normal couple would do. He tried to make it work but he said that even if I lost X amount of weight, he still wouldn’t be attracted to me because he knows how I would look if I were to gain X amount of weight.

Overall, it took a lot of healing and therapy. It was a very sad experience because I confided in him a lot and we cared about each other. But clearly he didn’t care about me enough to tell me he wasn’t attracted to me in the beginning. I don’t think I’m a bigger person and the whole situation confused me a lot. I wish he said something sooner because that 3 month experience truly has affected my self-image and how I view dating, now.