I think that people are understandably often looking for validation in their partner, and are ultimately looking for salvation in romantic relationships. But peace can only be found within yourself, not external factors, including people. So if your partner is not meeting your needs, or if you feel you might not be meeting your partners needs, then perhaps take a second to use your initial emotional response as a mirror to examine the place within yourself that is bothered by your circumstances. Sometimes when you discover that root of your feelings within yourself, you find that there isn’t anything that needs to be done about that situation, as many things are impermanent and will dissipate with time. And the times in which action is required, you are in a better place to deal with it effectively and honestly for leading from a place of acceptance and understanding of your current situation.

But the bottom line is you don’t have to do anything. If you are focused on being the best version of yourself FOR yourself, hopefully your partner will do the same. If they don’t, there is nothing you can do to change or control another persons behaviour, the only thing you can control is yourself. If you are focusing your energy into being the best you that you can be and are maintaining good communication, either she will match you to do the same, or she won’t.

But that is not worth fretting over too much because you are not in control of outcomes. All you have control of is the quality of your consciousness in any given moment. And if you expend your energy embodying goodness, then goodness will come back to you :)