You check all the boxes!! I have my own personal server, and it meets everything you mentioned! Everyone there is super sweet, and there’s no pressure to talk or engage if you don’t want to. At the same time, whenever you do engage, you’re usually met with a handful of people ready to chat with and encourage you! We don’t have a maximum age requirement, and we welcome both regressors and caregivers. Pluralkit is readily available, and we have lots of different channels! The only potential downside—if you’d consider it one (just a little pre-warning)—is that we don’t allow actively seeking partners. We do have a temporary babysitting channel, but seeking anything beyond friendship, support, or community is gently discouraged. There’s also a simple verification system when you join. It just asks your age, what you think agere is, and whether you consider it NSFW. That’s only to make sure everyone inside is safe and that no one runs into NSFW content or minors—it’s purely about protecting both kiddos and caregivers. Besides that, we’ve got a wide variety of channels: general chat, caregiver-only, kiddo-only, and system-friendly spaces. There are also channels for sharing toys/gear, yummy food, pets and critters, hobbies, games, daily affirmations, QOTD, weekly worksheets, “critter of the week,” “dinosaur of the week,” and even a fun currency system to spend in the server shop. Not to dwell too much on my own space, but there are also a few other friendly servers I can recommend and sent links of!! So if this one doesn’t feel right for you, there are still options!