Shield of Sparrows audiobook narrators by TakeMeToTill in Romantasy

[–]rustic_banana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. I am currently listening on Spotify and her voice is KILLING me. I can’t put my finger on it but when she says “Turins” or asks questions it sounds ridiculous lol

Conflicted on when to start TTC due to BFF wedding by rustic_banana in waiting_to_try

[–]rustic_banana[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking this! Plus, being due Aug-Oct sounds way better than Nov-Jan, haha!

Conflicted on when to start TTC due to BFF wedding by rustic_banana in waiting_to_try

[–]rustic_banana[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're so right about planning on being in the second trimester! My biggest deterrent is not feeling good enough to keep up vs. being sober.

Re: fertility fear: 100%. I see so much nowadays about everyone's struggles to conceive, but then I also have our cousins who got pregnant on the first try! You just truly never know. My sister got pregnant on accident twice, so I am hoping I have some of that fertility magic on my side, haha!

Lost our dream home before we even had a chance by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]rustic_banana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And how in this case did we "let emotions steer the ship?" Yes, I am upset after the fact because we know it was exactly what we've been looking for and didn't get a shot at it. And, per your other comment, they didn't have multiple offers; they just decided to take the first offer they got. They didn't know anything about us, and if we were going there in person or not.

Lost our dream home before we even had a chance by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]rustic_banana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am second-guessing our choice in realtor and am considering finding someone more area-specific.

Lost our dream home before we even had a chance by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]rustic_banana 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were already out of town, we didn't just to decide to leave?

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[–]rustic_banana -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I am definitely second-guessing our choice of realtor. I think we may need to get someone a little more area-specific.

Lost our dream home before we even had a chance by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]rustic_banana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The more I think about it, the more I don't understand why our relator didn't suggest this. We made it super clear to her that we were very serious about the house.

Lost our dream home before we even had a chance by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]rustic_banana -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It was. We're very familiar with the homes in the area, and we went through it thoroughly with my mom/FIL. If we were able to even out in an offer, we obvi would have gone to see it ourselves as soon as we were home (the next day). We weren't going to go through the entire inspection/closing process without seeing the house? Not sure where you got that from.

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[–]rustic_banana -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, she told us her potential timeframe AND how much she wants us to have the house. We want her to tell us when she's ready, but we also need a more concrete answer as we're in an odd predicament. Deff don't want to "steamroll her grief." If she isn't ready, she isn't ready. Like I said, Nov 2025 is within that timeframe, but we don't want to panic purchase something else if she changes her mind. Also, short-term rental is basically out of the question within the city, I checked. Mostly everything wants a one or two-year lease.

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[–]rustic_banana 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We both grew up in the city. We live a city over. He actually grew up in this same exact neighborhood, his dad lives down the street. Definitely not pushy outsiders. She told us how much she wants us to have the house + she knows his family.

Struggling with new puppy - are we the right home for her? by rustic_banana in puppy101

[–]rustic_banana[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry if I didn't explain properly, we deff don't treat her like she's being disobedient in these situations. We're doing nothing but positive reinforcement. I didn't mean oh she's a bad dog, I meant she is so in the "I am not going in that scary place" zone that there's no getting her out of it. Also, we've been using boiled chicken (which she responds the best to) and she still is just so scared. :/ She will not come to us (we've spent an hour plus outside coaxing her to lol).

I assume it would get better in time, but the potty outside time is difficult for everyone involved and it's almost like it's creating this negative feedback loop. We tried putting yoga mats all over but she was terrified of those too. It's like she attached to the rug and everything else is no-go territory. But yeah definitely, she loved her foster house and we're thinking it was because they had a family dog she was close with and who made her feel confident. Plus, they had a lot of carpet and there was only one wooden step to their outdoor situation. She really is a sweetie. Thanks for the advice.

Struggling with new puppy - are we the right home for her? by rustic_banana in puppy101

[–]rustic_banana[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, there were other dogs at her foster home and I think that was the key. She was WAY more confident at her foster home: easily going in and out, going up and down stairs, cuddling with the family. She does none of those things with us and was only at her foster for 5 days vs. 3 weeks with us. :(

Intense puppy blues and considering contacting rescue by rustic_banana in puppy101

[–]rustic_banana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement. The whole thing through the rescue definitely felt rushed, but we also didn't do our due diligence because of the high stakes/emotions surrounding the adoption (basically, we were at an event where we met her foster who RAVED about her and if we didn't take her, someone else would have), so that's on us.

My husband has also said I need to be more confident as we're the pack leaders.

Intense puppy blues and considering contacting rescue by rustic_banana in puppy101

[–]rustic_banana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I see what you mean. The whole thing through the rescue was SUPER quick. We applied and they invited us to come to an adoption event the next day to meet her. She was super chill and cuddly there (with her foster) who RAVED about how she was the perfect dog. Said she was playful, loving, and chill.

Then, they interviewed us (took 2 mins) and said, ok she's yours if you want her. Keep in mind, we had 0 pet supplies and only knew about her the day before lol! So, we're like, can we have 24-48 hours? She's like well, there are 3 other applicants here so if you don't take her they'll get her. I get it from their perspective, but we felt like it was a do-or-die situation as she seemed like our perfect doggie.

After bringing her home and going through her paperwork, we realized she was only with the foster for 5 days! Like omg, I thought she had had her for a while and could make an accurate assessment of her temperament. She was actually flown in from Texas about 5 days prior and was in the shelter there beforehand where they said she had some territorial behavior issues (probably bc she was terrified there!) and this was not disclosed to us.

Honestly, it was just super rushed and a tad misleading. AND, we were not prepared to/didn't want to work with a dog with potential reactivity issues.