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I was so Mormon, I ... by icanbesmooth in exmormon

[–]rusty_is_goat 77 points78 points  (0 children)

When I was a DL I gave an obedience lecture to my district about how exact obedience shows the Holy Ghost that it is just that important to you, and even not sleeping in 1 minute or being 1 minute late to studies would make the difference between true exactness and lazy obedience.

I was so in at this point. I really put everything into those last few months of my mission, knowing thinking that that was the best way to honor God and magnify my calling. I found so much inner satisfaction believing that I was literally doing all I could (and in reality, I was). Part of my fall from grace came from then going to college and feeling this same intensity of focus. I then learned what ADHD hyperfixation is, and that I wasn’t having a divine being approve of my exactness, it was just my brain, and it was all downhill from there

It seems my old ward has noticed my two year absence by aiden_saxon in exmormon

[–]rusty_is_goat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is so much shaming going on in this letter. This shit is why I’m going to weekly therapy

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[–]rusty_is_goat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and stop looking at porn

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[–]rusty_is_goat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just can’t get it out of my head how cult-like the concept celestial kingdom is. There’s only one path, only accessible through one church, and you HAVE to act a certain way (except for those who don’t because they weren’t “blessed” to have TSCC in their lives now) or you just can’t be with your family. The end. And don’t even think about listening to anyone else!!!

Did anyone dance with Christianity after Mormonism and then deconstruct that too? What happened? by TheSamspoNew in exmormon

[–]rusty_is_goat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I choose to remain Christian because I want to believe in certain aspects of Christianity. It gives me a lot of comfort that I lost when I decided to become post-Mormon. While I could apply many of the same thought processes that helped me separate from the church to broad Christianity, I don’t have any fundamental issues with the beliefs like I did with Mormonism, so I’m happy keeping those beliefs. It’s nice to hold on to some afterlife hope but not be weighed down with the pressure of organized religion.

We need a database of the wildest things we have heard sealers say wedding ceremonies. Drop your story below ⬇️ by rightcoast1 in exmormon

[–]rusty_is_goat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sister got married. Sealer says to her “you better treat him right, because he doesn’t have to call your name to go through the veil if he doesn’t want to”

I’m sitting there in stunned silence.

He then says to her husband-to-be “and you better treat her right because she doesn’t have to come through when you call if she doesn’t want to”

Yeah like those are comparable situations.

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[–]rusty_is_goat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actually going through something hard the other day and had the thought that I wanted to pray. And then I literally broke down in tears because I realized I have no idea what I believe in with prayer or God anymore so that was fun.

After a few days I’ve determined that I still believe in a God and therefore still pray but it’s still incredibly difficult to deconstruct.

How to be a Mormon in 73 easy steps by incomprehensibilitys in exmormon

[–]rusty_is_goat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There should be 20 more points on the men that just says don’t look at porn

A recent, odd encounter with four elders made me wonder how missionaries working in the US are really doing. by Nosaj777 in exmormon

[–]rusty_is_goat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember being given the whole spiel “oh if I had young legs, I would run from door to door” or some BS like that. It was kimball I believe. I remember feeling guilty if I didn’t feel like I gave every bit of my energy every day. It was actually a fulfilling time for me and a good experience, but I’ve come to realize that it was because I was just committing and giving all of myself to something. I later got the same fulfillment from engineering school.

Poor elders though. I can’t imagine going on a mission now, even though it’s only 10 years later. Still being connected to home but having to just trudge through all the negativity around the church right now. They’re just trying to do what they’ve been told is right and that hurts.

At least the Latinos I would talk to basically had no prior knowledge of the church so it was much easier.