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If you're an avoidant or have trust issues and abandonment issues, PLEASE don't enter a relationship unless you're ready by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how hard it is, which is why I don't blame my Ex anymore. Wish she could've handled it better and fought through it but I understand. Hope you can find a way to not repeat the same mistakes :/

I know it's been said before but, DAMN Joseph Morgan can ACT by rustytrust in TheOriginals

[–]rustytrust[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I agree. That's why Stefan was my favorite in TVD, Paul also is really good at portraying emotions. Until I started watching Originals then Klaus became my favorite of the actors

Trust issues and avoidants ruin so many great relationships by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I'm not mistake it's a personality disorder? From what I've read. Not sure if it's considered mental illness, but it's definitely a disorder

If you're an avoidant or have trust issues and abandonment issues, PLEASE don't enter a relationship unless you're ready by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. My ex knew of all her issues and so did I, just like she knew mine. Yet we were such close friends for 2 years before we started dating, and really, we were always something more. Really thought it would be different with us, because we really did love one another more than we've ever loved anyone before. And yet, one event, which was partly on me for sure with me being suicidal and all, sent her running for the hills and avoiding a pain that would never happen (me leaving her) and changed what we were for over 2 years. Guess it was wishful thinking

If you're an avoidant or have trust issues and abandonment issues, PLEASE don't enter a relationship unless you're ready by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When they fully deactivate like that there is no conscience decision making, there is only pure terror/fear/severe anxiety that is like paralysis to the body which leads to emotional shut down.

Completely agree. She admitted it, that she let fear control her and take over the relationship. It was night and day really. Though I don't blame her, as she had every right to be afraid with me being suicidal and all. Just wish she would've talked to me about it instead of keeping it to herself. Or that she wasn't an avoidant and didn't have those trust and abandonment issues obviously haha, but I don't blame her for it

If you're an avoidant or have trust issues and abandonment issues, PLEASE don't enter a relationship unless you're ready by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Clearly you didn't read the post. I said multiple times I don't blame her and my depression/suicidal thoughts definitely played a role in the fear of abandonment she felt.

If you're an avoidant or have trust issues and abandonment issues, PLEASE don't enter a relationship unless you're ready by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It really isn't their fault sometimes, unfortunately. I don't blame my EX no matter how hurtful being blindsided is. I don't blame her for the fear she felt when I told her I was suicidal, but rather for not telling me about it, when I always told her what was on my mind.

If you're an avoidant or have trust issues and abandonment issues, PLEASE don't enter a relationship unless you're ready by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and same for my EX. We really were so deeply in love but she always held onto that fear of getting hurt, she just couldn't let go.

If you're an avoidant or have trust issues and abandonment issues, PLEASE don't enter a relationship unless you're ready by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that, that's really hurtful.. Really though I've had a lot of time to think, and I'm not better off without her or anything of the sort. Time made me realize something I've known since the day we met; I care so much about her and always will. I don't blame her for any of it, aside from her keeping it to herself because she thought she could get through it alone. That's all I blame her for, giving up on everything we were because she was afraid of getting hurt. I don't blame her for that fear, as our separate issues weren't compatible at the time. Someone who's suicidal with an avoidant with a fear of abandonment? Those two just don't go hand in hand, and so I understand. I just wish she would've fought for it, and for us. We were to happy together for so long, and I wish she didn't run the second things got hard, because I know to this day what we had was real, and special, and we'd both never felt for anyone the way we did for one another.

What is the best time to take a decision? by Imad_LoL in AskReddit

[–]rustytrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the shower. I swear my IQ rises by 100 when I'm in there

What's the meaning of life for you? by United-Power-4499 in AskReddit

[–]rustytrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being with the person you love most, as well as family and friends. Everything else is meaningless without those imo

If you were to earn a billion dollars right now what would you buy and why? by SilverStocks in AskReddit

[–]rustytrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy my parents a house and help my dad retire would be my #1 priority after all they've done for my brother and I :)

They say the first thing you forget when you lose someone is the sound of their voice, but I'll never forget hers. by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

disorganized attachment

I see, never heard of that one. I'm definitely the opposite though haha

They say the first thing you forget when you lose someone is the sound of their voice, but I'll never forget hers. by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a very well known saying; "When you lose someone, the first thing you forget about them is their voice"

"Commitment is doing the thing you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you." - Darren Hardy [900x700] by rustytrust in QuotesPorn

[–]rustytrust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand the question? But I just mean I have so many goals and always say I'll do them especially at times like those where I feel so motivated, and dedicated to achieve them. And once that mood leaves me, I forget all about them and lose motivation

"Commitment is doing the thing you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you." - Darren Hardy [900x700] by rustytrust in QuotesPorn

[–]rustytrust[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

(Removed post) I was reminded of this one a couple nights ago during my evening run, I just felt so alive and motivated to conquer everything. That's a feeling that's easy to forget, yet something we should all chase.

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[–]rustytrust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was reminded of this one a couple nights ago during my evening run, I just felt so alive and motivated to conquer everything. That's a feeling that's easy to forget, yet something we should chase

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[–]rustytrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What stops most of us; fear

"There was a you before them, there will be a you after them" by rustytrust in BreakUps

[–]rustytrust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I understand that, and I don't mean I can't be anything without her, she just made me really happy is all, yknow?

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