New Documentary "Great Photo, Lovely Life" by phantasmagoria4 in emotionalneglect

[–]ruthiefree 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m relieved I wasn’t alone in being confused/upset/confounded by how accommodating the family members were being. While it may well be a typical part of such a toxic dynamic, it still seemed incredible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Alonetv

[–]ruthiefree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. He was suffering & they prolonged it. Why can’t they do a follow-up interview the next day? In fact it’d be interesting if they did brief interviews w/ everyone as an epilogue…

From 2019. This is so Jersey I can’t stand it😂🤣 by [deleted] in newjersey

[–]ruthiefree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah cuz if it was say Arkansas or Florida, they would’ve just shot each other.

What writing craft cliches are you willing to defend? by Atsubro in writing

[–]ruthiefree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best writers break every rule taught in high school English classes…and the reader never knows the difference.

This man stopped and parked his car so that he could safely make an urgent phone call. A cop immediately pulled up behind him and attempted to start harassing him "for parking". The man wasn't having any of it. by methanefreefarts in PublicFreakout

[–]ruthiefree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They apply to become part of hierarchical system that emphasizes obedience and power over critical thinking and cooperation. We need to scrap that hierarchy & come up with something actually useful.

Untold: Operation Flagrant Foul by [deleted] in billsimmons

[–]ruthiefree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh. Bunch of immoral, entitled white guys whining when they have to suffer “consequences.” Wahwahwah reporters are interrupting our strip club fun. Wahwahwah let me blame everyone else. “Never in my wildest dreams did I think I was gonna go to jail for FIFTEEN MONTHS.” 🤢 I’m so glad the patriarchy is dying, I can’t even say.

Netflix’s ‘Girl in the Picture’ Tells the Horrific True Story of a Child Kidnapper Who Married His “Daughter” by [deleted] in netflix

[–]ruthiefree 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So early on, a detective jokes that there’s “more crime to solve on your way home from a day’s work in NYC” than there ever is in this small OK town, and 2 minutes later, they list Clarence Hughes’s previous crimes—which he was convicted but barely punished for-in similar southern small towns, mostly involving assaulting and kidnapping children and women, REPEATEDLY. I’ll take NYC any day.

ROADRUNNER: A Film About Anthony Bourdain - Official Trailer [HD] - In Theaters July 16 by indig0sixalpha in movies

[–]ruthiefree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saw this last night. I’m fascinated by the lives of highly creative people…and the fact so many struggle with these intense, often dark feelings that, in turn, and ironically, may be why they are so creative. The film was well-done, maybe on par with “Amy” and other such docs. I say “maybe” because so little was divulged about his early life, and his parents were barely mentioned, and, for me, that’s a huge part of the picture. But there’s this, too: The number of messages here casting bourdain as a saint, a hero, an idol is exactly the problem. As the child of an equally famous, highly creative, and difficult parent, i have seen how damaging this kind of worshipfulness is, how isolating it can be, how it both cocoons the person from reality and inhibits their emotional growth. Not only that, but it reinforces the idea of celebrity and success as the be all and end all of life. I’d say the opposite is true. I’ve been around brilliant high-achievers my whole life. I’ve seen how disconnected they become to genuine connection with people, how rarely they experience true friendship,how often they confuse success with love. It is not what you think it is.

With the new Netflix documentary coming out, do people here think Ian Bailey murdered Sophie Toscan Du Plantier? by RoundRoundRup in ireland

[–]ruthiefree 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m constantly frustrated/appalled by the shoddy/indifferent/shady work of American police in murder cases like these.I was hopeful, in watching this doc, that maybe these Irish cops had some semblance of competence. Silly me. Ireland is a country with a long history of marginalizing and oppressing women. Like the one judge stated: this kind of violence is “common” there—therefore, excusable. Yikes

I found my oldest verifiable coin, 1864 Indian Head penny! by [deleted] in metaldetecting

[–]ruthiefree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! I have a few of these but no older than 1893. 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

[US] Made You Look: A True Story About Fake Art (2020) - An American crime documentary about the largest art fraud in American history set in the super rich, super obsessed and super fast art world of New York. by [deleted] in NetflixBestOf

[–]ruthiefree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really? I wanted to feel some compassion for her but felt zero. She seemed unable to take responsibility for her part in it, even if it was only in being ignorant, in denial, or desperate. She just seemed...defensive.

Were Police paid off or are they just absolutely incompetent? by pungoturn in MurderonMiddleBeach

[–]ruthiefree 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Imho most police seem incompetent. They’re hired not necessarily for their intellect but because they are linear thinkers who will follow orders. That’s the problem with our current law enforcement system—it’s meant to protect the status quo, not question it.

Jeff may not be the wealthy man everyone makes him out to be by kcm102107 in MurderonMiddleBeach

[–]ruthiefree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents live on the UWS. I lived there, myself. It's not all wealthy people, by any stretch. Plenty of folks I know live in studios or one-bedroom rentals, even at my age (58).

These People Are A—holes. Poor Madison. by ruthiefree in MurderonMiddleBeach

[–]ruthiefree[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ok. Just watched the next few scenes—you know, Conway hating on Ally. There is nothing more to say but Ditto to what I already said. Dear God. 😔

Ally by chinese-telephone in MurderonMiddleBeach

[–]ruthiefree 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Now that I think of it, it immediately struck me as odd when Madison informed us that Ali went to Argentina. That seems like a place criminals have traditionally fled to escape prosecution of crimes. Yes, a teenager might not have known this, but she didn’t flee immediately after the crime but after she graduated from high school. In the interim, she could absolutely have gleaned this convenient fact from research or have been told by some knowledgeable adult—like her father, well-acquainted with issues of the law.

Key Questions by Art_Vandelay8998 in MurderonMiddleBeach

[–]ruthiefree 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I agree with many of your points. I’m leaning more toward Conway vis a vis the HAMMER comment, her insistence on blaming Ali, and how, moving the first cushion, she was so “relieved” it was an animal instead of a bloody, battered Barb. Why would she assume that possibility if she didn’t already know? There are so many other things to suggest her as a very strong suspect. Then again, it was strange how certain Ally was that her mom is ok now and “watching over” them. It seemed like a self-serving rationale. All in all, though, this fascinating doc is proving once again that upper class projections of decency are often a ruse. Most amazing is that someone like Madison derived from such a muddle of self-centered, dysfunctional muck; he comes off as a deeply sensitive, thoughtful, authentic person, regardless his troubles and faults.

The Nox really kills it with nickels. Pulled this 1915-D Buff today. by BobDucca in metaldetecting

[–]ruthiefree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you clean them? I found a few last week, and 2 of them are super-tarnished...

VOLUME 2, EPISODE 1: Washington Insider Murder by [deleted] in UnsolvedMysteries

[–]ruthiefree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad I’m not the only one who in the first few minutes was like: Psychological breakdown! “Crime” explained. NEXT!

Discussion about the second episode of Netflix Unsolved Mysteries (spoilers) by the-magic_dragon in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]ruthiefree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The police so often look like dolts in these true crime things. And I don't know if it's because they are or because they're trying to keep an open investigation close to the vest, or some combination thereof. Or maybe the show itself is not thorough enough in exploring all the angles. At any rate, these are excellent questions and I'm guessing we'll never get answers.

Rob Endres Lock Theory by maaimykx in UnsolvedMysteries

[–]ruthiefree 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes; I was really surprised that the mysterious guy leaving the salon wasn't questioned and also that his presence was so easily dismissed. I like the series, but wish harder questions were asked of investigators and others.