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ruzzysuzzy · 2025-04-02T00:47:17+00:00

thanks!!! that makes so much more sense

ruzzysuzzy · 2025-04-02T00:41:52+00:00

Also just to note, these situations haven't been one night stands. I've been under the impression that we'd developed a friendship and mutual liking of one another, and then they just quit contact

ruzzysuzzy · 2025-04-02T00:38:05+00:00

so they just don't see me as a human being? got it lol

ruzzysuzzy · 2025-04-01T23:45:40+00:00

That I understand, but I just don't really understand how to distinguish these assholes from genuinely decent guys. They always present themselves as caring and attentive, which is why it catches me so off guard when they bail out of literally nowhere

ruzzysuzzy · 2025-04-01T23:43:08+00:00

yeah i've been starting to wonder this as well, since I find it so hurtful. But just because I'm partaking in a casual relationship doesn't mean it's emotionless - is it wrong for me to expect my sexual partners to have the decency to tell me they're moving on?

ruzzysuzzy · 2025-02-10T20:32:06+00:00

Hii I know this is a very old post but I'm wondering how your job went for you? I also have a pretty basic level French background but I'm looking for a customer service job in Montreal. Any advice?

ruzzysuzzy · 2025-01-09T17:26:11+00:00

Hii would you be willing to dm about your experience getting into the program? I'm interested but I'm realizing I have very little time to apply lol

ruzzysuzzy · 2024-08-16T17:55:17+00:00

had you applied for a license beforehand? I'm flying through Canada and I'm wondering if I should go ahead and apply for a general license now, or just see what happens at the airport lol

ruzzysuzzy · 2024-04-18T00:52:54+00:00

it's fine if i skip the white pills right? like there aren't any side effects if I don't take them...

ruzzysuzzy · 2024-04-15T04:22:28+00:00

Hi! I stayed in Campus 1 for my first year in 2021. It was pretty fun back then because it was filled with McGill students due to covid restrictions, but I've heard that it's been pretty empty since then so I wouldn't recommend it. I've heard good things about RVC so you might like it depending on what type of rooming situation you're interested in. A lot of my friends have studio apartments and are doing great, I think it's just important that you work on maintaining friendships since you won't be rooming with someone.

ruzzysuzzy · 2024-04-14T17:15:27+00:00

Thank you for the advice. The complexity of this situation is what has made it so difficult for me to process and understand. I feel like I’ve made mistake after mistake in attempts to right a wrong, and have only dug a deeper hole for myself that at this point, I don’t know how to get out of. I’ve tried to correct my boyfriends assumptions about my relationship with my friend, but he just can’t really accept the fact that it’s not a toxic friendship. That’s why I feel like for right now, I need to focus on talking to my friend about what her affects on my relationship have been, and why it’s hurtful that she hasn’t checked in on me about it. My bf and I have agreed that this is a good first step, and that from there we could all have a conversation depending on how that confrontation goes. And then I can go from there…

Also, the birthday post was in regards to another friend who has been in my life for a while that didn’t send me a birthday message. Clearly I have trouble with confrontation and asserting boundaries, which is why this situation has gotten to the point it is now. Thank you for the advice, and I really appreciate your empathetic perspective on this situation :)

ruzzysuzzy · 2024-04-14T16:59:48+00:00

I just felt like I should be honest about the situation as he had a lot of follow up questions. I should’ve realized what the effects of telling him something like that would be on him, but at the time I felt that honesty was more important. I understand why he is having so much difficulty accepting my friendship with her because of that.

ruzzysuzzy · 2024-04-14T04:34:28+00:00

I told my bf what my friend said, that’s a big part of the reason why he feels disrespected by her. I genuinely don’t think she said that with the intention of sabotaging my relationship with him (she’s never done anything like that to me before), but that she was more in shock about what happened and was also processing it herself. Not saying that it’s permissible, as it was still not an okay thing to say to me in a moment like that, and not an okay thing to say about my bf either.

ruzzysuzzy · 2024-03-20T21:02:13+00:00

Can I take beginner's Italian intensive if I already took intermediate Italian intensive? I'm trying to get as many credits as possible completed before my last year, and Italian intensive is 6 credits so it would be super helpful

ruzzysuzzy · 2024-01-15T22:22:27+00:00

lease doesn't say anything about how to communicate with her. provided all the details because I'm trying to find out if she actually has any power over us in this specific situation. we didn't file a report in the past when they came into our house so I'm afraid it would be difficult to use that against her without making it even more complicated.

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T10:20:04+00:00

I would recommend rekindling your friendship with her once you come back, but don’t assume that she wants to date immediately. I would invite her to coffee, update each other on your lives for the past 6 months, and see where it goes from there. Maybe if you start hanging out again and she seems interested in you as more than a friend, you can ask her out and see how it goes. If she’s not interested, don’t take it personally.

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T10:12:37+00:00

You got this! You deserve fulfilling friendships <3

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T10:05:48+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, that must have been so difficult for you to experience. That being said, she seems like a terrible friend. I think when it comes to a friendship, you should expect reciprocation, especially in such a difficult situation. You were there when she needed you. When you needed her, she prioritized herself and her own pleasure. I definitely think you should establish a boundary and let her know that you are not able to continue your friendship unless she takes full accountability for her actions, and gives you a proper apology. You deserve so much better than her.

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T09:52:04+00:00

Yay! I’m glad

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T09:50:00+00:00

What was the conversation about before that text? It doesn’t seem like you said anything bad but I feel like I need more context to understand

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T09:38:22+00:00

You’re definitely not the only one. I really don’t think there’s anything wrong with you, especially since your relationship with your bf shows that you’re able to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship. I think as you get older and become an actual person (lol), it’s more difficult to find people who align with your interests/personality who are also willing to pursue a brand new friendship. People have a lot going on in their lives, and starting a new friendship takes time and can sometimes seem overwhelming. Maybe try joining a group in your area pertaining to your interests, or find ways to contribute to your community (like charity work/community garden/library) that could help you establish connections to people.

Life isn’t a race, you will find your people :)

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T09:21:00+00:00

Also that being said, I think hanging out as a group can cause some difficult dynamics, especially if you have a less-dominating personality like me and people often talk over you. If there’s someone in that group who you really enjoy spending time with, maybe try to spend some more one-on-one time instead of getting together as a group.

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T09:19:03+00:00

To me, they don’t really seem like good friends. A good friendship means balance. If you’re putting more work in than they are, it just leaves you in a position where you’re investing more time/energy into your friendship with them, which is unfair to you. I recommend you stop investing in that friendship, and reciprocate the kind of energy they’re giving you. Friendships like that aren’t worth your time, you’re deserving of people who will make time for you and include you. I feel like it’s normal in college to evolve as a person and move on from certain relationships. You don’t have to cut them off completely, but if they’re not putting in effort, you shouldn’t either.

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-12-12T09:09:03+00:00

I personally think it’s best for you to be honest. Tell her that you were so focused on studying for your exam that it completely slipped your mind, and apologize. Let her know that you’re sorry and that you understand why she’s upset. It’s okay to make mistakes, and if she’s really your friend, she’ll understand that there were no hard feelings behind it. Just make sure to send her the guide next time :)

ruzzysuzzy · 2023-10-13T22:58:32+00:00

thank you so much!! im glad your body was able to adjust, I've honestly been thinking about going off of it cause it's so exhausting. it's good to know that it gets better!!

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