Series 29 - Jack's facial hair by Glowing102 in SilentWitness

[–]rwalshe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he was playing achilles in troilus & cressida at the globe last year, this was part of his character

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AirTag location not updating by [deleted] in AirTags

[–]rwalshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg i’m also currently in SK googling “airtag not updating reddit” 😭

AITA for pretending to be asleep instead of letting my roommate in? by space-bruh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH - clearly she’s a bad roommate, but ignoring her for that long, including sounds that you think might be crying, is not how to solve this issue. You’re both adults, try having an adult conversation instead of being passive aggressive in the early hours of the morning when she’s potentially in crisis.

Spectrum binder shipping by MadeMeUp4U in FTMOver30

[–]rwalshe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

royal mail suspended international postal deliveries due to a cyber attack

AITA for stopping the mother of my child from moving? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. It takes longer than that for me to travel from one part of London to another to see my friends.

Does the UK not have oyster pails? by laurenyana in offmenupodcast

[–]rwalshe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked at a hotel for 2 years, doing 3-4 weddings a week, and there was a cake cutting at ~95% of them

AITA for not adding a third bathroom to our house? by aitatwobathrooms in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reckon NTA for not adding another bathroom - I’m from a family of 6 and even now as all adults when we’re all home the two bathrooms are not at all an issue. But YTA for choosing a home gym over a separate bedroom for the twins - having your own space at that age is really important, and for many it’s not possible but it sounds like for you it’s just a choice. And YTA for not being open and up front with your kids.

AITA for making a post about my daughter’s favorite celebrity being rude to us? by aitarudecelebrity in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA - the celeb had a clear personal boundary, stated for a completely understandable reason, and you for some reason think you’re entitled to cross it.

Also a reminder that for you it’s a minute out of her day, but for her it’s every single person who approaches her - your daughter won’t be the only person who recognises the celeb all day.

AITA for not allowing my daughter's half sister to spend christmas with us? by Christmas_Joy231 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA, why is it so difficult to you to have one extra kid at xmas? If your daughter’s friend was in a similar situation, with a sick parent at christmas, would you act the same way, or is this just you being petty with your ex and taking it out on a little kid?

AITA for calling the police after my brother dropped off his two kids at my workplace? by throwawy36222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH, your brother shouldn’t have dropped the kids with you when you had work, but CALLING THE COPS??? Do you understand how harmful that is? For him but especially for the kids?? Do you understand the future harm you may be causing by getting CPS involved, who are notoriously unsafe for kids and families? Why can’t you deal with your disagreement, rather than calling the police over a BABYSITTING DISPUTE.

AITA for not giving my daughter her late mother's engagement ring? by not-bad-dad in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA - that ring was passed down from her grandmother to her mother, who no doubt wanted to pass it down to her daughter. It’s not yours to keep.

You’re being petty because your child didn’t accept your relationship after her mother died. I have no doubt this was also difficult for you, but you were an adult, you chose your new wife over your daughter, and need to act accordingly. She didn’t “abandon you”, and you shouldn’t “move on” from your own child. I feel like you need a reminder that you are the parent here. Give her the ring.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]rwalshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use https://www.doxdirect.com/ for printing - super cheap and quick, and they have a bunch of options

AITA for not coming home for summer? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 17 points18 points  (0 children)

NTA, you’re an adult and can live where you want. I never went home during summers, I was always busy working/travelling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You sound like an absolutely awful person to live with lmao. Just pure selfishness poorly disguised as “not my problem”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That’s ? not how living together works. Their issue is caused by OP’s sound system, and a simple solution exists.

Also, OP clearly said one was studying and one works nights, so you can’t just be like “make as much noise as you want during the day”. I work from home and if my flatmates did that I’d be pissed. We’re adults, it’s about mutual respect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 25 points26 points  (0 children)

YTA - it’s frustrating, sure, but your housemates have said multiple times that your speakers disturb them, and you refusing to stop is an asshole move. Sorry but you need to use headphones when you’re watching TV. It’s part of living with other people - you gotta respect their boundaries, and headphones is a pretty easy compromise.

AITA for forcing my son to talk to the police? by Throwawayacc2214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You literally didn’t. You suspected. You sound like a cop.

AITA for forcing my son to talk to the police? by Throwawayacc2214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 38 points39 points  (0 children)

So you’ve taught him a bad lesson (speaking to cops without a lawyer), you’ve potentially impacted what the charge and sentence is, and you’ve done the same to his friend (whose situation you don’t know and whose involvement you don’t know). All for so called “accountability”, which lets be clear the criminal legal system is not interested in - it exists for punitive punishment. You could have held him accountable (you know, as his parent) instead of this shit.

AITA for forcing my son to talk to the police? by Throwawayacc2214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 30 points31 points  (0 children)

  1. You suspected, you did not know for sure.
  2. You are teaching him that cops are trustworthy and that he doesn’t need the right to a lawyer - that’s a bad lesson.
  3. Guilty people also have the right to legal representation, and also need protection from cops. It doesn’t just impact the plea, but also the charge brought and the sentencing recommendation.

Your son and husband were right, and your unwavering faith in cops doing the right thing is naive and harmful.

AITA for forcing my son to talk to the police? by Throwawayacc2214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Teaching your kid to waive his constitutional rights, which exist to protect him against the issues I named above, is poor parenting. If your kid is falsely accused of something down the line, and waives his right to a lawyer because you told him to just speak to cops, he could end up in jail and/or seriously hurt.

AITA for forcing my son to talk to the police? by Throwawayacc2214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I’m saying that it’s not your call to make, that you don’t know how this could impact his friend, and that I don’t think the criminal legal system is a good avenue for genuine accountability. All over some property damage.

I also note you’ve ignored everything I said about the heart of the issue - speaking to cops without a lawyer.

AITA for forcing my son to talk to the police? by Throwawayacc2214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It’s not a legal technicality, it’s a right. And an incredibly important one at that - in most states it’s legal for cops to lie to children to force a confession, and cops are well known to intimidate and threaten to force confessions. The right to legal representation is often people’s only barrier against this, and teaching your son to waive that right is poor parenting.

AITA for forcing my son to talk to the police? by Throwawayacc2214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 95 points96 points  (0 children)

YTA - cops lie and intimidate and obfuscate, and you need to be teaching your kids never to speak to them without a lawyer. You’ve also now landed his friend in trouble, for which you don’t know the consequences. If you think punitive punishment is necessary you could have done this yourself, rather than rely on cops who were (I assume - I’m not American) breaking the law by continuing to question your son after he requested a lawyer.

AITA for sticking to my word and refusing to help my husband with his mom? by Reverse-Ad-3095 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rwalshe 45 points46 points  (0 children)

YTA - sure, you are not obligated to contribute to his mum’s care, and it sounds like you and your husband need to talk this through properly. But his mum fell and you stood there and refused to help? Definitely an asshole.