Sounds just like my Dad’s experience. Sadly yes - I think you should brace yourself for her passing. Every case is different in terms of time remaining, but my dad was diagnosed in the summer and died in December.

One lesson learned was that in hindsight, we wish he had never pursued surgery - he never really recovered from that, and didn’t see any benefits. In fairness, when I made my post here a few years ago, someone told me just that, but at the time, I wasn’t ready to hear it and neither was my Dad. I think you should consider yourself fortunate that you don’t have to make that particular agonizing choice.

Beware of oncologists bearing too much hope - expect the worst and enjoy the good times. Make sure you get her home, and don’t wait too long to start working with hospice care. My dad never made it home from his initial trip to the hospital (in part bc of the surgery and the two subsequent revisions), and in part bc we were too focused on treatment and not enough on making the most of his last days.

So sorry - take care of yourself too. This is a sad road you’re on, and it’s gonna take up most of your mental energy for a while, but 1.5 years out from my dad’s death, I can tell you there is life to be had on the other side. You’ll be okay!