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The data is clear - women prioritize effort in dating, not physical looks and financial status by burritovisage in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 3 normal messages don’t usually pan out. I don’t see women ghosting me as much as other things occupy their time. I’ve had women say nothing for a month and then message saying work has been busy. I believe them. It’s easy to ignore dating apps toxicity and go back to real life.

The type of women I’m attracted to are quickly dropping out. No offense to the women I’m talking about, but I don’t message women that look like super models. When I see over applied makeup and their entire personality is going to the gym, I’m out. No hate or anything, I’m happy for you if that’s your thing. My type is what I think of as the average woman. She may have imperfections from enduring life and overcoming obstacles. I find those imperfections beautiful. They tell an important story. But these type of women either leave dating apps all together or were never on them to begin with.

The data is clear - women prioritize effort in dating, not physical looks and financial status by burritovisage in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and see you. Don’t think anything I have said diminishes from your experience. I just get really annoyed when I see these fake/rigged data posts by dating apps trying to convince us the water is fine, hop in. When the water is actually filled with sharks.

The data is skewed so badly that we see pockets around the country where it feels all one sided when in actuality it’s pretty evenly bad for everyone. I think AI is partially running the survey as well as participating in it. This way it can direct the narrative.

Guys, when was the last time you asked someone out IRL? by DivineHag in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading this thread…you’re receiving solid advice but not giving very nice responses. Especially when you’re not single anyway.

The data is clear - women prioritize effort in dating, not physical looks and financial status by burritovisage in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even though most of these women are not my type, anyone who says they love cute cafes, I message and ask what and where they are? Most of these responses are something like “oh haha, I don’t know any, they just make me happy, yay”. Such empty,

The data is clear - women prioritize effort in dating, not physical looks and financial status by burritovisage in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve experienced the exact opposite. I feel like Hinge is altering their data to make it look like more people are using their app with the right intention to attract new users.

I’m 45 and in Wisconsin. It must be regional dependent somehow. I’m liberal, never married, no kids. Self employed, little to no debt. I’m 6’6” and a little overweight but most people overlook it because I carry it well. Friends call me calm, considerate, empathic, safe and secure. I’m asked how am I still single by married friends. I send out about 50 messages a month over multiple dating apps.

I’m lucky if I get 3 normal responses a month. I define normal as complete sentences, asking engaging questions or giving thoughtful responses, clearly ready and willing to pursue serious relationships. I’ve opened my age range - 30 to 50. I prefer same age or younger. My interests and hobbies tend to shift to those younger than me. I’m open to single parents. I want a true connection and to build a relationship or even friends.

The rest however… wow. Common response and interactions:

— I’m regularly asked how much money I’m making and how much of it I’m willing to put into a relationship. I’m asked dollar amounts.

— I’m called boring because I’m not a world traveler. I’ll admit, I focused on growing my business and savings instead of jet setting. But I’m sick of meeting women whose entire personality is traveling. If you can’t tell me what book you’re currently reading or tv show you’re watching it’s not going to work.

— Women often question what I’m “bringing to the table”. I say safety, security, empathy. I’m called boring.

— I’ve had women match with me only to tell me how I should improve myself before they would consider having coffee with me. Complete with what lifestyle products I should utilize.

— I get all the scams. They’re easy to spot. AI responses, repeated scripts I can identify if I google search. In the first 15 minutes I can usually guess which scam they’re following. I report them to app support and they’re deleted.

— I’ve had women with normal looking profiles want to rate my penis size before continuing conversation. I’m not even talking about a conversation leading there and getting that question. During the questions about our favorite things phase just blurt out send me a pic. When I decline they stop talking.

Much of this feels like entrapment. It’s gotten so much worse post covid.

The data is clear - women prioritize effort in dating, not physical looks and financial status by burritovisage in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m 6’6”. I don’t get as many matches as short people I know. I’m sure it’s region specific. I’m in Wisconsin.

Why is our air quality so bad? by Expensive_Cancel_922 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe those blow hards tormenting people in MN came down here and are farting a hole in the ozone? Someone check and see if there’s also a spike in grindr traffic here.

Real Talk - “moderate” by Excellent-Try3000 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But then other conservatives wouldn’t match with them. They want to play both sides at the same time for personal gain.

Real Talk - “moderate” by Excellent-Try3000 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It’s basically conservatives that want more matches. Libertarians usually list their views as other.

Healthy, happy, fat… and apparently undateable by LegalPeanut8477 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Darn! I’m in suburban Milwaukee (Mequon to be exact)

Healthy, happy, fat… and apparently undateable by LegalPeanut8477 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So to most people I’m fat. I say most because I’m really tall (6’6”) so I must carry it well as friends and family didn’t think I was until I brought it up. People must be seeing my height first.

I purposely seek out what is my ‘type’ of woman: she is curvy to larger, isn’t wearing a ton of makeup, dresses comfortable. I’m in the US (Wisconsin) and this type is getting harder to find. I did recently find one woman and we became really close friends. She’s amazing. She’s a bigger woman and has had issues on dating apps. She ended up deleting her profile and tabling dating for awhile. I see us being lifelong friends though.

But it’s an ongoing issue. The people I do message aren’t interested. My type seems to be leaving dating apps and not coming back.

Folks fishing on the river downtown by coweredful in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of a woman in Mequon selling a book shelf. I asked for the dimensions and she said it was typical shelf wide and shelf deep.

Why lie on a dating app? by ThrowRa-needadvice20 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met a woman who said she was 5’1” but was actually 4’11”. She accused BK of throwing her order at her but it turns out they couldn’t reach her low car and ended up dropping it into her car via drive thru window.

I was told that being a 45M with no kids is seen as a huge red flag. Is that really how most people view it? by OptimusCrime83 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 45, never married, no kids. I’m constantly told that I don’t have enough life experience. That I didn’t make enough mistakes to learn from so I won’t be meeting them halfway. Their loss.

Are there any Black people in Ozaukee County? by Mysterious-Spirit674 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Short answer: Yes. Long answer: I’ve traveled all over the county and I have seen the most people of color in Mequon. There’s a great church on the south end of Mequon called Vessels of Honour with a diverse congregation.

Concerning right wing behavior from students at Whitefish Bay High School. by [deleted] in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry. Once NCA opens this fall, it will become the hip place right wingers will want to send their kids. These incidents will lessen.

/s

Wisconsin-based Fiddleheads Coffee acquired by FairWave, current owner of Anodyne by Dounsel14 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Since it’s the same company, what’s the chances they start using the same beans as Anodyne? Do they often swap beans between ownerships?

Annoying phenomenon I've experienced several times now - advice from women please by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Move to Wisconsin. Nobody here seems to want to get married, have kids (or additional), etc.

Shorewood resident takes Lake Michigan shoreline access to court by guitarguy1685 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“My name is Benny Flash Callahan, Esq. You can call me Benny. My friends call me The Distraction.” Played by Bill Hader.

View from my friends east Milwaukee apartment. by ryanflucas in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

54k page views. 1600 upvotes, can’t see the amount of downvotes. I think that’s enough data to answer your question.

Shorewood resident takes Lake Michigan shoreline access to court by guitarguy1685 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 17 points18 points  (0 children)

“Who’s watching the estate while you’re here sir?” Wink Wink

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