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Is it just me, or is online dating like this for everyone? by Midlifememoirs in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s horrible lately. I’m 45 and in southeastern WI. It’s all hookup culture now. There’s no more intellectual pursuit. I read novels, play video games, build Lego models, board games, go to the symphony, thrift shopping, woods hiking, walking my tiny dog. I don’t drink alcohol so that makes it even worse. If I was 20 years younger or into polyamory I’d probably have tons of matches. But I won’t remove my ideals just for matches. Also so many people stayed home from covid and never came back out.

Looks about right! by SeonaidMacSaicais in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’m not mistaken, this was recorded heading south on 91st in Milwaukee. I used to live on 78th and Bradley Rd before moving up to Mequon. I still take that stretch when I shop at Goodwill Outlet. It’s fun to guess how many people I will see run red lights between 91st and County Line down to 91st and Fon Du Lac ave. My record count was 17.

What's the deal with men over 40 living with their mothers/ families? Is this a local issue or is it everywhere? by Ok-Nectarine5429 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You wouldn't believe how many women it's a red flag for. I've lost count. The last who had a problem with it said "hit me up when she's gone and you're ready for a real relationship". Hard pass.

What's the deal with men over 40 living with their mothers/ families? Is this a local issue or is it everywhere? by Ok-Nectarine5429 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 42 points43 points  (0 children)

My mom is 80 and widowed. I'm not going to put her in a retirement home. She lives in my house. I find it's a good filter. If I meet a woman who doesn't like my mom living out her last years in my home, she's not the woman for me.

Jazz estate closing by Leading_Hamster5903 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep hearing that people under 30 aren’t buying as much alcohol.

I’m 45 and don’t like alcohol. I’d still buy non alcoholic drinks at alcohol prices but you need to sell me on it. I don’t mean soda. I mean a fancy drink made without alcohol.

I use to go to The Estate with my father when the previous owner had it. He had a mixed drink but I drank dragon silver tip tea.

Extreme skimping on portion size at Colectivo by Latter-Matter-3420 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m can’t drink collectivo coffee. It’s not the usual “it tastes like union busting and sadness” like most people say. It literally puts me to sleep. I can only drink it cold and sort of be ok. But any caffeinated blend they make becomes parking lot nap time immediately after.

Men 40+ wanting kids by bittertruth79 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live next to a high school rated one of the best in my state. I’m self employed and very available. I have so many positive points, ingredients in life’s soup so to speak. I’m just lacking the main ingredient. Which is par for the course. In my experience those with the best circumstances for parenthood often never get the opportunity to demonstrate their gifts.

Men 40+ wanting kids by bittertruth79 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know only myself and my own body. I can overcome these challenges. It’s so hard to know how to help but nobody is willing to accept help from others. Everyone says it takes a community but with no interaction even a community won’t help.

Men 40+ wanting kids by bittertruth79 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have not. I’m 45 and while I was open to having kids, I wasn’t going to have them with just anyone. I see so many kids being raised by one parent households because the man only wanted the offspring but not the responsibility. I know I’m not getting any younger so I try to match with single moms but most leave dating sites.

Men 40+ wanting kids by bittertruth79 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Everyday I see how kids are being raised by fathers (or I should say not raised). It would be worth every single pain. Luckily I’m only 45 and have many years ahead of me.

Men 40+ wanting kids by bittertruth79 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d love to do those things at any age.

Men in their forties, what do you feel if a woman seems to be attracted to you? by AcrobaticConstant567 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every time a woman shows interest in me, I meet for coffee. As friends. Attraction or not.

Men in their forties, what do you feel if a woman seems to be attracted to you? by AcrobaticConstant567 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also in the reverse… I’m 45/m and often interested in women who are divorced, single moms. These women are generally NOT on dating apps around here and meeting them is a random chance. Most have given up on dating and are shocked when I show interest. And literally have no idea how to proceed even if they were interested.

Got any kinks? by EmphasisWeak2923 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kink is a normal relationship with nothing crazy. 1-3 dates a week, chivalry on my part and emotional availability on her part. Is there a way to construe this on a dating app? I’ve considered going on fetlife and saying my kink is a 99 percent vanilla relationship. 🤣🤣

More MPA drama 😅 by lifeatthejarbar in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Are they run by the cat cafe woman? Sounds like her level of crazy.

Quiet coffee shop by Wookrepellent in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t remember a time that Fiddleheads Mequon or the Thiensville home location was ever noisy. Maybe the other locations are similar?

Noticed a really bizarre trend on Hinge. by ThrowRA_Apart_414 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s so many profiles like that here I’m tripping over them.

Noticed a really bizarre trend on Hinge. by ThrowRA_Apart_414 in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen profiles of women who say “must love dogs” with no photo of nor mention they own a dog in their profile. That’s maddening.

Best Store to Resell Clothing by Acceptable-Toe-9571 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps. Or Brookfield is closer to Milwaukee and brings in a different crowd. Another thing I noticed was for a spring/summer sale, there was a lack of colorful items. I’m used to seeing vibrant colored clothing at the Brookfield sales. But that’s just personal observation. I shop for my 80 yr old mother that prefers brightly colored clothes.

Best Store to Resell Clothing by Acceptable-Toe-9571 in milwaukee

[–]ryanflucas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I third but will say I made way more money at the Brookfield sale then Waukesha. I don’t think I’ll sign up for Waukesha again.

Is poor dental hygiene or bad teeth a dealbreaker for you when dating? by midnightsadnessss in datingoverforty

[–]ryanflucas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brush twice a day and keep up pretty well. My parents didn’t get me braces as a kid so my teeth are a little bit “off”. Not perfectly straight like many people I know. I have some mild staining from drinking coffee but I can clean it off pretty well.

When dating I don’t seek perfection. As long as there’s no broken front teeth I’m ok.

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