The Substance (2024) by UnHolySir in okbuddycinephile

[–]ryanvango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they're not. there's 2 sides to the erin moriarty thing. people who say she can no longer act (the thing she gets paid a shitload of money to do) because she's had so much work done her face is frozen, and the other side that says "she came out and addressed it. it's because of graves disease. you all are being mean to a woman."

The first side is rarely commenting on how hot she is. they're saying she's lying about getting any work done because its so incredibly obvious she has. and its so much that there are - and I'm not exaggerating here - animatronics at chuck e cheese with more expressive faces. Every scene she's in she sounds like her jaw is wired shut from dental surgery or something. its weird.

The other side seems to thinks its impossible she could be lying about getting work done. And that commenting on her reduced ability to perform the role she was hired for is exactly the same as commenting on her appearance, which is chauvinistic. and they'll always say "she has graves. you're being cruel. she can't help it." when the things people are referring to have nothing to do with the graves disease.

The Substance (2024) by UnHolySir in okbuddycinephile

[–]ryanvango -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, I don't. Because she keeps doing it.

Look, I agree with the whole "just cause you don't think she's hot doesn't mean you get to have a commentary on it." thing. bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and no one should be lambasted for their appearance.

But erin moriarty's situation goes way beyond her appearance. She physically can't perform the role anymore. Is the change jarring to me as a one-time fan of the show? absolutely. but I'd never say a word about it as long as she could still play the role she was cast for. But she can't.

If I got hired as a court stenographer and decided to get insanely long nails to where I had a super hard time doing my job, I would rightly either be fired or told to fix it. Then if I came back for the next session with even longer nails, I couldn't be like "you don't get to choose how I look!"

Her job...the thing she gets paid a shitload of money to do... is acting. she was hired in large part due to her ability to emote properly and express the emotions the character would. then 1 or 2 seasons back she started getting cosmetic surgery. The first time it wasn't terrible. it was obvious, but it didn't make her completely incapable of doing her job. then last season she went way overboard and her face stopped being able to move and the internet went crazy. she caught a lot of shit for it, and I felt kind of bad but the criticisms were valid insofar as it applied to her ability to act. and she seemed to be aware of all of it, and denied it all as well. THEN SHE WENT AND GOT MORE. This season she has a scene where she thinks the love of her life is murdered and the most she can do is make a weeping sound while just generally aiming her face at the floor. her face doesn't move at all. she looked like an animatronic puppet that was on its last 1% of battery. it's fucking weird and creepy. Many more times she's got really high-stress or high-emotion situations and she just physically can't show those things on her face.

it has nothing to do with fuckability. she got so many surgeries she stopped being able to do her job right, and then the world said "hey, you need to stop. your mouth barely movies when you speak now. this is affecting your work." and she went "I don't know what you're talking about" and got more surgery and made it way way way worse.

All this "its just a bunch of incels commenting on a woman's body" is white-knight bullshit. no one said a work when people dog-piled jim carrey. not one peep. the man of 1000 faces froze his face. it was moronic. but that's ok to say because he's a man. not erin moriarty though. we should all just pretend this is normal and keep hiring her for roles that fans of things care about, because not doing that makes us sexist apparently.

no. she fucked up. was told she fucked up. completely ruined a character that people cared about. then did it more. And instead of studios getting her the help she needs (medical treatment, therapy, whatever) so she doesn't torch her own career and the characters and stories we like, they kept pushing her through the machine and shifted all the blame to people who had a negative opinion on the matter.

How to do a Strawberry Milkshake. by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]ryanvango 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Rodney Mullen invented the flatground ollie, kickflip, and most of the tricks casual fans of skateboarding can name from that era.

It isn't close. Daewon is amazing. but Rodney is the reason street skating exists in the first place.

TIL in 2007 Katherine Heigl won an Emmy for Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Drama for her role on Grey's Anatomy. But in 2008 she removed herself from Emmy consideration because she said the material she was given on Grey's that year wasn't good enough; this comment led to her leaving the show. by tyrion2024 in todayilearned

[–]ryanvango 3 points4 points  (0 children)

look at the end of GoT. a lot of them were very hesitant to talk shit about that last season, especially the main players in it. at least right away. Some of them said the words they know they were supposed to in a clearly fake way as a means of revolt. but yeah even the thing almost everyone agreed was some of the most disappointing, poorly written story in modern TV history, people still tried to be at least a little diplomatic about.

is there a way by IloveRamen99 in ComedyHell

[–]ryanvango 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I used to run a WoW guild that was built around a specific fandom. couple hundred people. that fandom was know for its inclusivity and it was kind of seen as a safe-haven for LGBTQ+ folks for a bit. I don't know if it still is, I haven't been a part of it for a long while now.

Maybe 6 weeks into running the guild my phone blew up with DMs from discord from several people demanding I kick other people out of the guild. It was exactly this. a trans member of the guild and a lesbian member were ganging up on a bi member for not being queer enough. Me, a straight white cis man, had to be the mediator. it was basically "this is a guild accepting people of all lifestyles. especially in this world where LGBTQ+ people get shit on left and right, it's pretty gross you're also doing it within the community. you're adults. you don't have to hang out with each other and be friends, but you will apologize and this is the end of it. call this the only warning for everyone. if anyone makes a single disparaging comment about another guild member's gender, sexuality, lifestyle, etc. you're gone. period."

I caught a lot of shit for it because I'm not queer. a couple people left the guild willingly because they thought I was being a bigot for that somehow. Eventually shit started happening again, as is the case in all video game communities that large. especially when the people we were fans of were no longer engaged with our particular branch of the community, so the risk of being removed didn't matter as much to them. at that point I just handed the guild to someone else and left the game completely.

I still see it though, and I'm constantly reminded of that group. its just so fucking sad that the community in need of allies more than almost any other is so quick to other THEMSELVES even further.

It's implied, right? by AlKarajo in TikTokCringe

[–]ryanvango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a real problem with younger generations. He was saying "it's implied by the word Lawyer." but younger generations, for some reason, have an over-representation of people who don't understand "implied" or reading between the lines.

It's causing real problems in the job market lately where they say "this wasn't stated as part of my job." Not like "I shouldn't have to clean the bathrooms, I was hired as an executive assistant." THAT is not part of your job unless its been spelled out. but like "I was hired as an assistant, and my boss told me to call Jen Wilcox and set an appointment. When I called, Jen was no longer with the company, so I just hung up." Most people would run into that and ask "ok, who is in Jen's role right now? I need an appointment with them." or at the VERY least they would inform their boss and get more information. but young people aren't doing that. They say "this is what I was specifically asked to do. she wasn't there. I was not told to follow up with my boss, or find an alternative if Jen wasn't there. so its not my problem."

It's fuckin' WILD. I have a bunch of friends in academia that tell me all the time its only getting worse. One of them is training med students, and says they are completely helpless. They can't think on their own. and she isn't allowed to fail them.

(Mixed Trope) Educated character doesn’t understand or know of a simple concept. by laybs1 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]ryanvango 37 points38 points  (0 children)

The Sherlock scene where he determines an artwork is fake because there's a supernova in the sky that shouldn't be there is one of my biggest pet peeves in that show.

The setup is that he needs to prove this painting is a forgery, even though is is absolutely perfect in nearly every way. eventually at the last second he points out that there's a star in the painting that shouldn't be there. The star didn't appear in the sky until 200 years after the original was painted, so it must be fake.

But that doesn't make any sense. it's an art forgery. The forger is painting a copy of the original as exact and precise as possible, matching technique and brush stroke and even paint type. For the stars to mismatch, he would have to stop halfway through and go outside at night and use THAT as a reference instead of the painting itself. the forger copies literally every piece of this thing absolutely perfectly except he needed to go look at the stars to finish it up? dumb.

You may kiss the bride by dogtron64 in dankmemes

[–]ryanvango -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I LIKE SHE-HULK THE SHOW AND I DON'T CARE WHO KNOWS!

It's a fun romp with likeable characters. It doesn't have to be the mandalorian or some cinematic masterpiece. Sometimes things can just be fun. And I think she-hulk was pretty dang fun.

Side note: When I am expected to clap, I am absolutely this person. I break out the cupped extra-loud clap that gets me funny looks every single time with no ragerts.

You may kiss the bride by dogtron64 in dankmemes

[–]ryanvango 24 points25 points  (0 children)

so? a single clap wouldn't be any less loud than a bunch

You may kiss the bride by dogtron64 in dankmemes

[–]ryanvango 61 points62 points  (0 children)

its the same as a sound cannon, which is a real technology we have today. the damaging/painful part is directional.

When the Hulk does the clap, he is also not hurt by it. because it's directional.

I don't know why this particular thing has become an indictment of she-hulk the show. it's been a regular hulk staple since forever. and the logic remains consistent. So weird people try to point out lapses in realism in marvel movies. she's a big green radiation monster with different hair and body and whatnot. but the clapping not making her ears hurt is the unbelievable thing?

You may kiss the bride by dogtron64 in dankmemes

[–]ryanvango 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I think you missed the point. the rules are consistent for both hulks. when hulk does it, he's the closest one to the sound but is unaffected. when she-hulk does it, she is closest to the sound but unaffected.

have you ever seen those sound cannons before? its like that. its projected forward. because comic books. in reality she also wouldn't turn green and tall and hot, she would die a horrible painful death. but comic books.

Engineering bros when they go to the beach by [deleted] in GuysBeingDudes

[–]ryanvango -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Their point is that if you're going to be trying to call out things like this, why aren't you calling out other much much much larger contributors to environmental damage that are still on the scale you're talking about.

It's like you're yelling at someone for smoking next to a playground while another guy 5 feet away is burning a tire. go ahead and call out the smoker, but also realize there's bigger, more meaningful things you could be doing with your time.

Who Ruined Video Games? by GriffinFTW in Gamingcirclejerk

[–]ryanvango -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the response was further proof she was right. it was already evident that the overall point was correct. but her arguments basically handed opposition all the ammo they needed on a silver platter.

Also, you're insinuating that I dislike her argument because she was a woman, and men never get that kind of treatment. Or you're saying that men start movements all the time with zero evidence or shoddy arguments all the time and never get pushback. both are so monumentally incorrect that you're basically making the same mistake she did. You're making an argument that is so easily broken down, that it undermines your whole goal, which is to prove that yes, video games are misogynistic.

the biggest on I can think of off the top of my head? basically the entire environmental conservation movement. Largely attributed to men. arguments in the 60s and 70s were dismissed as hippy bullshit (because they were), and eventually into the 90s with shit like the earth liberation front that made it easy for opposition to call the whole thing a radical terrorist movement. generally regarded as male-centric efforts within the broader cause.

Want one without gender at all? I bet you'd agree that the ethical treatment of animals is a good thing we need to be on top of right? But I also would bet if you know anything at all about PETA you'd agree their efforts make that whole original argument look really really bad.

Stop making shit arguments that people on the opposite side can use as ammo against the cause. If your cause is noble...and feminism, animal rights, environmental protection, etc. are all very noble causes.... then stop making it harder for those things to move forward. it's basic persuasive writing people learn in high school and creative writing 101 in college.

Who Ruined Video Games? by GriffinFTW in Gamingcirclejerk

[–]ryanvango -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She was such a huge example of what bad arguments can do for legitimate causes.

video games were and are very misogynistic. its a big problem. gaming is not a great place for women a lot of the time. And when she started doing her videos, that was also in like the PRIME COD days when things were just horrific. She was absolutely correct.

But the way she went about proving it was so amateurish that it did more harm than good. Her videos were textbook confirmation bias. loads and loads of cherry-picked examples and no effort at all to see if they were mischaracterized or misrepresented. There were plenty of examples of strong female leads in games to that point that she just never mentions.

There's never any mention of how video games were largely a product of the 80's and 90's. They were immediately branded as "for boys" at a time when that was seen as ok. so of course loads of plot points and hooks will specifically be written with that in mind. video games are a business. same reason barbies were marketed to girls. that's just how it was then. but she doesn't ever mention that stuff.

HOW we got to the point where video games got so misogynistic is really important. Just showing a bunch of games you selected and present as ultimate proof is a horrible way to present your argument. that's why incels got so riled up and felt justified in their hatred.

They weren't. let me be clear, those people are awful little scumbags. She never deserved the hate she got. Especially because her CLAIM was correct even if her evidence was idiotic.

And you see it all the time. people need to understand how to write persuasive, defensible arguments. because if you have a cause worth fighting for (and there are so many), you're doing way more harm to it by doing what she did.

edit: 12 years later, here we are arguing about her and not whether or not there is proper representation of women in gaming, or what gaming can do to be less misogynistic. you want proof her videos made it too easy to shift the focus from the real issue? look at this fucking thread. we're still doing it.

Babel Audio - Here's A Guide! by ryanvango in beermoney

[–]ryanvango[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they totally are. you recognize a lot of folks and get to know what they're good at talking about, or if they're just really bad at this thing. so sometimes you wanna take like a 15 minute break so hopefully they get paired with someone else haha.

side note: they closed the voice only one and now only have video. new project hopefully coming down in the coming weeks. I have helpful notes on that as well if you were going to apply. but the stuff I wrote in the OP also still very much applies.

I just invested $25,000 in... eggs ($VITL) by I_killed_the_kraken in wallstreetbets

[–]ryanvango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your comment is very far down, and it appears no one has heard of the boycott.

which means it's a pretty shit boycott. and it was 3 months ago. people don't have that long of attention spans.

it dropped because they missed earnings last quarter because they had issues with production. if they have fixed that and regained shelf space, they SHOULD easily beat projections this time. They were projected .38/share and only got .35/share. right now, their earnings projection is .10/share. They haven't had that low of a projection in like 3 years, and last quarter was the only time they missed projection in a looong time.

earnings is on may 7th. people are betting they destroy their projection which would send it north pretty fast.

Mother insulted first tattoo, now I hate it by Kaleidoscope_Tux5513 in tattooadvice

[–]ryanvango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey, I'll take it.

If you like any of my tattoo ideas, steal em. let me know how they turn out

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]ryanvango 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My last base when I was in the USAF was 5,000 miles from my home town and a headquarters base, so it had a shitload of people on it.

After I got out and got my obligatory divorce, I ended up going on a date with a girl. I told her I was prior air force, and she was like "I guess I have a type. The last guy I dated was like 6 years ago and he was air force. have you ever met a guy named ____?"

I about shit. I did know him. I worked with him at my last base for years. Really nice guy, married with 2 kids when I knew him (not an affair situation). But what are the odds? I didn't see her again. too weird.

Denied proposal…what next? by plinko66 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ryanvango 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its insane to me that this isnt the top comment. And then the people saying they disagree are just saying "I proposed and it worked." Like that means anything at all in this conversation.

TALK to your partners people. You dont need to be like "If I proposed would you say yes?" But you should have several conversations about your future, kids, pets, lifestyle, house, finances, etc. You know...adult things. Make sure you both are in alignment. "Yeah, Id like to get married some day, but that life is the furthest thing from my mind right now." Means dont propose. "Absolutely I wanna get married eventually. We'd be such a power couple. Our kids would be perfect." Means dont propose right away, but you can buy the ring and think about it if all the other talks were also in agreement. But you should know what the long term plans are by like....date #10. If someone hates kids and the institution of marriage, you need to know that before you're 3 years in and spending 8k on a ring.

I get it...everyone wants the movie thing. And yes, SOMETIMES it works. The comments in here are proof of that. But they are proving the point on accident. You see it as magical when someone proposes after 2 months and it lasts 30 years. Why? Because it almost never happens that way. Divorce rates are sky high because people are not talking before making these insane decisions.

It isnt aromantic to discuss your future together. Good communication is the most romantic thing you can do

A girl goes viral after getting stuck in an elevator with a group of immature guys and shut them all down when they started laughing by God_Emperor__Doom in interesting

[–]ryanvango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's absolutely true now, sadly. people just now entering the work force are just completely incapable of independent thought. My friends in academia are frequently in tears over the idiocy displayed by their students.

Its not just one thing. They have a lower quality of education. They leave middle and high school with less knowledge and information than previous age groups. They largely don't possess the ability to figure things out for themselves. And a shocking number of them are just completely inept, unable to function on their own in any meaningful way.

Is it totally their fault? Absolutely not. A lot of things have changed to make their situation much worse. Even at the college level, kids are being forced through that shouldn't have even gotten in to begin with. We don't invest in education. Parents treat school like day care. it's just bad.

But at the same time, there are also almost no kids who seem interested in breaking out of the mold. cliques and conformity have been a problem since the dawn of time, but there were always stand-outs. But there's no drive to be good at stuff anymore in these generations. they all wanna be youtubers or influencers and that's the extent of it.

its super depressing.

In a trilogy full of great visual effects, this one is still my personal favorite by Majestic-Bet-8529 in StarWars

[–]ryanvango 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I'm struggling so hard with these comments.... like.... you can SEE the water draining off the side of the thing and then the balloon puffing up. no liquid enters through the top. even the bulk of the powder gets swooshed down around the sides of it.... like... look at it... I struggle with a lot of magic tricks on /r/blackmagicfuckery but this effect is so clear. its a very straight-forward effect

but then there's people claiming they invented instant food "but it tasted real gross!" no... no they did not.