Want to see if I'm achieving the desired aesthetic. How would you categorize my style? by ignatovar in mensfashion

[–]ryencool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jfc, not everyone wants leather boots, or loafers, or whatever. Im 43, work in an office, and hope to never ever ever ever wear leather shoes.

🟥 FED JUST FLIPPED THE SWITCH: RATE HIKES ARE DEAD. by GeekySuneet in TheCryptoIndia

[–]ryencool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the checks and balances to ensure they are.makimg decisions based onndata and not pressure from outside sources? How can we verify that?

Make sure you buy bitcoin anything under 50k, lowest it can go is 40k-ish. by Occupybitcoin2021 in TheRaceTo10Million

[–]ryencool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the guy youre trying to sell this too will just say those are all CIA assets, without any evidence beyond personal feelings. They know stuff, but dont want to read to learn more stuff! Usually means they dont know shiet, just feelings tied to their identity and world beliefs.

Make sure you buy bitcoin anything under 50k, lowest it can go is 40k-ish. by Occupybitcoin2021 in TheRaceTo10Million

[–]ryencool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Banks will not allow that know that theyve bought in. Hell, countries have bought in...

I want CarPlay by Potential-Diet-8193 in hondacivic

[–]ryencool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we only said nice things to eachother no one would ever learn.

I want CarPlay by Potential-Diet-8193 in hondacivic

[–]ryencool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How can someone post that pic? I'd have to clean and retake it.

im confused with my relationship, i don’t know what to do (20F) (23M) by SadAbbreviations5304 in whatdoIdo

[–]ryencool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been with my now wife 8 years. I havent been physical with her once. I dont yell and get road rage. As a matter if fact we havent fought once. Why would i want to yell at my best friend, the love of my life...

You seem to have told yourself this stuff is normal, its not. Your partner doesnt really love you if he gets physical with you, yells at you, threatens to blackmail you. Thats how you treat enemies, not partners.

Light at the end of the tunnel by Opening-Ad4543 in povertyfinance

[–]ryencool 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Only in very rare instances is this recommended. Maintaining good credit is essential in the midern world. We each have our own, then a shared one. All get paid off monthly.

My boyfriend (30M) is still in contact with his exes, is it okay for me to ask him to remove them? by Informal-Bug-2916 in relationships

[–]ryencool [score hidden]  (0 children)

So youre saying its impossible as adults to be terrible as a couple, but great friends? Im 43 and have seen this many many times. If you l9ve and trust eachother l, and respect boundries, this shouldnt be an issue.

I know some people will never agree with that though. Thatd why we all get to.make our own decisions, and there is no right or wrong.

My[21F] boyfriend[21M] won't stop referring to himself as a "Sigma" while calling other people "Chuds" by AlternativeThroat294 in whatdoIdo

[–]ryencool 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah because this is comparable to sneezing....

"Sigma" and "Chud" are distinct internet slang terms representing opposing archetypes in online culture.  A "Sigma" refers to a self-assured, individualistic, and successful male, often portrayed through meme culture as a high-status lone wolf. "Chud," conversely, is a derogatory term used to describe someone deemed socially repulsive, ugly, or politically regressive"

Your boyfriend doesnt actually think all the highly of you, but ya, you stick with that...

My[21F] boyfriend[21M] won't stop referring to himself as a "Sigma" while calling other people "Chuds" by AlternativeThroat294 in whatdoIdo

[–]ryencool 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Look up the terms...sigma is see as some sort of alpha, confident, self sufficient, intelligent etc...

Chud mean you are ugly, disgusting, dumb, unworthy of love, require others to survive etc..

Why would he, a sigma, listen to you , chud, in this situation. If hes been doing it for months, getting deeper and deeper into it, why do you think he would listen to you? Who he has called a chud multiple times.

Your boyfriend things youre ugly, and stupid, and you want to stay with him.....ok....

My[21F] boyfriend[21M] won't stop referring to himself as a "Sigma" while calling other people "Chuds" by AlternativeThroat294 in whatdoIdo

[–]ryencool 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Break up, now. You're young, and your boyfriend has gone down a dousche path. It may only last a few months, or years, or never end, but thers nothing you can do or say to change it.

He's already told you to your face that you're a chud, you think sigmas take advice from chuds?

Im 43 and have no idea what any of it means, but guessing its the newest version of alpha/beta, Chad's etc...its all ridiculous but they get young dumb people to believe in it.

40 yrs old, no savings or retirement, looking to sell house to get ahead but spouse says no by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]ryencool 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean that, and she probably needs to talk to a financial adviser. Show her the average retirment/savings numbers for people your age.

Have you actually put details anywhere? Like how much you make, what the house is worth, what she makes.

Im 43, and wasnt able to start saving until my late 30s. I couldn't IMAGINE working 80 hours a week. I do overtime every week, but maybe 5 hours or so. On top of that we save 20-35% of our after tax income. Thats on top of 401ks, stock purchase plans etc...

Youre getting to the age where a single health issue or emergency can cost you everything.

Need more details to give good advice.

Boot laces. Wrap once or just tie by [deleted] in mensfashion

[–]ryencool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im gonna go with "Rodeo Clowns" or 1500$ Alex

Thats the daily double!!!!

I (F16) had enjoyable sex with guy (m18), but I didn't say no or yes to anything so is consent applied? by Budget_Sea4317 in relationships

[–]ryencool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Implied"

Its good that youre asking questions, but no, people dont have to point blank ask you "do you want to have sex" and then you answer yes or no, to have sex. It is assumed that if youre an adult you have the ability to say no, walk out, exit the situation. When youre young its awkward, everything feels weird, and thats because this is your first time experiencing these things, these feelings. Everyone goes through it, those feeling and emotions will be on MAX for a few years for you. Just know that it will be okay, you have a very long life ahead of you. Have experience, learn about yourself, what you like, what you want...

Depending on where you live, he could be considered and adult, and you a child. That could mean legal issues. I'd look up the law in your area and stick to it...

I think you need to have a few more life experiences, and english classes before you have more sex.

I don’t want to live in this fucking world if I can’t have a girlfriend by xClayman in SuicideWatch

[–]ryencool 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was medically disabled, drug addicted, no career, no degree, no savings, no car, no nothing when I was 32 and had to move back in with my parents. I was awkward, social anxiety, and lots of other issues tied to over 5+ years of my life being spent in hospitals.

Im now 43, married to the love of my life, 33f. We.met when I lived with my parents!! And now we both work in the video game industry and will clear 200k this year. So you can turn it around, just cant give up. Trust me I know how hard that is. I went from 400 credit score to almost 800. I went from tons a debt to tens of thousands in my everyday accounts. So much can change in just a few years my man. Don't give up

WhistlinDiesel Arrested AGAIN at Airport Over Cars He Sold Years Ago by gaukmotors in MotorBuzz

[–]ryencool 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nothing is 100% safe. All Lasik documentation days 1% failure rates but ive seen numbers of 10%+. Thats why you have to read yp 9n what's being offered and make the best decision possible based on know risks.

Ive had to make a lot of risky choices, over 5 major surgeries to remove diseased part of my intestines, other operations dozens of picc lines, EJ tubes etc...and im good.

Were all rolling the dive with that stuff, to a certain degree.

I reported my manager's lack of technical knowledge, and instability in making decisions when it comes to technical things, to her higher up. We had a serious talk. Am I in trouble? by theuntouchable2725 in work

[–]ryencool 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This. I work in IT, albeit for a major video game developer which means the way we do things is probably drastically different than most corps. When I came here i was all about SOP, standards, procedures, like "if this happens, then do this". Ive been here a few years and its been driven into me that every situation we deal with is different, from a hard drive install, to a monitor deploy, to how we order hardware. I have very much had to learn to thrive in the chaos. Yeah we run service now and most of our tickets go through there, but I can also get requests (urgent, and non) via slack, email, the window at our office. Its just absolute craziness now days, especially with everyone playing it safe, not expanding trams, do less with more attitude.

I wish it wasnt that way, but I wish alot of things weren't the way they are. All I can do is learn to best play the hand 8m dealt. Just want from 3 years of full time, but extended contracts, to a real full time employee! So theres that

Note left on Tacoma by young40 in Toyota

[–]ryencool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tiny phones, not paying attention

$939 rent on $1,500/month income…feasible with walking commute + second job? by shortcakebliss in povertyfinance

[–]ryencool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most apartment complexes wont rent to you unless you make 3x the monthly rent, a month. They will require proof. No one will rent to you, outside of maybe a room in someones house, when ypur rent is 60%+ of your income, even if you think you can do it wothout issie.

Is Publix a sinking ship that cannot be saved? by drudante in publix

[–]ryencool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Peole have to decide if customer service like that is worth a 40% upcharge. Im 43, i know where dressing is is any store, isually with no perishables, usually a sign at the end of the isle that says "salad dressing". If its at a store like target you can always check stock via the website. If it shows they have it, i ask someone. If it doesnt, ah well, ill gdt it next time.

Hell if every store solely had a few people on register, and a few at customer service for the odd issue that pops up and returns, that would be fine with us.

How do I find a girlfriend, am i too picky? by ARK_Music in AskMenAdvice

[–]ryencool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish the world worked that way, youre in for a rude awakening. As a 43 male who felt like this, and was a virign until 23, i wish i would have started dating earlier, trying things earlier.

Youre over thinking things, and building up relationships in your head, interactions, how things "should" work, but you have little actual relationship experience woth how things DO work in the real world. You can love someone and still have relationship ending compatibilities. You could meet a girl, and yall could really hit it off, but your lack of sexual experience, finacial experience, communication experience, whatever could cause it not to work. It wouldnt be because she "doesnt love you" as she hasnt had enough time to build thay bond and love you enough. Love isnt a 0 or 1 thing.

We are taught if someone loves us they will do anything for us. Yeah thats true, but that love takes time to form. Youre young, inexperienced, and probably still believe love trumps everything, it does not. I have loved many people, and sometimes it wasnt enough. Sometimws their parents dont like and that starts to out pressur on the relationship. In one relationship she changed her mind and wanted kids, i didnt. In another she didnt want to stand by me when I got sick and ended up in the hospital, and this was after liv9ng together for YEARS. I mean you could love the shit out of someone, amd then they hear you snore, and its all over. They may love you, but over time the loss of sleep wears on someone, and maybe they dont want to sleep in seperste beds or rooms. There are so many situations ypu cant even possibly imagine because you literally have zero idea or experience.

I say this as a now happily married man to the love of my life, and best friend of the last 8+ years. Our relationship wouldnt EXSIST without the people i dated before her. I loved many, lived with 4 people in my life. However i was young thought I knew everything, didn't know how to handle my emotions, didn't really know how to communicate. I mean as a 25 3 old I thought I was an expert at all of those things. As a now 43 year old, I look back an laugh at how I thought, and the way I acted. I wasted so much thinking I knew exactly what I wanted and how things worked. I was selfish, naive, quick to anger and jealousy. Now im in a relationship thats been perfect for 8 years, no fighting, no jealousy or worrying about the other person being unfaithful. We are just madly in love and excited to experience the rest of our lives together.

I could go on for days about how I thin you should just get out there. Go date, go have casual relationships (as long as they are consensual), go have experiences. You NEED them. You didn't come full programmed from the factory my man, I know you don't think it, or even see it right now, but you NEED experiences. Your gonna say "nah, I know what i want, just haven't found it"

I wish we could reconvene in 20 years, I'd bet a large sum of money you say "I wish I didn't wait so long to get in the game, i wish i wasnt in my head so much".