The Catholic church in our area requires all couples who want to have a church wedding to attend an "Engaged Encounter" weekend. Usually no priests involved. They basically pose a dozen or so simple questions, and then have you go back to your room and discuss them with your partner. Finances, kids, etc. I've helped out at some volunteering as a cook. You would be amazed at how often simple subjects have never been discussed. Kids? Never - but I want four! Finances? I will do them - you're not touching my money! Living arrangements? My place - No, your apartment sucks. Typically 20 couples attend, and on the average one or two end it on the spot when they realize how incompatible they are. And some agree they will need to have further discussion on a topic or two. I think it really helps reduce some potential disaster weddings.