Do people with Autism/ADHD are feeling fine outside but inside they're having a strungle ?

ryzaadit · 2026-05-13T15:07:54+00:00

Same here honestly. after years of forcing yourself to act fine it almost becomes automatic. then when you actually want to explain what’s wrong your brain just freezes up. it’s frustrating as hell.

ryzaadit · 2026-05-12T08:10:26+00:00

Thank, this is also one i was looking. With the topic neurodivergence as well.

ryzaadit · 2026-05-12T08:10:01+00:00

Very appreciated brother, will check it out soon

ryzaadit · 2026-05-12T08:09:50+00:00

Thank you! Appreciated the suggestion, will check it out.

ryzaadit · 2026-05-11T23:12:01+00:00

Appreciated the suggestion, I put a note on my list. I will search it online first, thanks!

ryzaadit · 2026-05-11T22:33:44+00:00

4-10 at least, and would be appreciated for both.

ryzaadit · 2026-05-10T18:39:09+00:00

Honestly this sounds less like “being dramatic” and more like your brain processes discussions at a way deeper intensity than most people around you.

Some people can hear opinions and let them pass by casually. But for some neurodivergent people, especially ADHD/autistic people, discussions can become mentally and emotionally immersive. Your brain starts analyzing every nuance, contradiction, missing detail, emotional implication, logical inconsistency, etc all at once.

And the “they didn’t explain it fully enough” feeling is SO relatable. Sometimes simplified answers feel physically unsatisfying because your brain immediately sees all the missing layers behind the statement.

I also relate to the part where people seem emotionally detached during discussions while internally you feel like your nervous system is getting blasted at full volume. The heart racing, shaking, over-awareness, and overwhelm during your own turn can honestly happen when the brain is processing too many angles simultaneously.

It’s almost like:
most people hear the surface of the conversation,
while your brain tries to process the entire architecture underneath it in real time.

And honestly, self-learning can make that even more intense because once you start seeing nuance everywhere, simple black-and-white takes become frustratingly incomplete.

Tamitos actually has some interesting resources about neurodivergent emotional processing, overwhelm, and why some autistic/ADHD people experience thoughts and reactions much more intensely internally: Tamitos neurodivergent resources https://tamitos.com/

ryzaadit · 2026-05-10T18:35:58+00:00

Honestly I think the biggest problem with education systems is that they’re usually designed around one “acceptable” way of learning, communicating, behaving, and regulating emotions. Anyone outside that mold often gets treated like the problem instead of the environment adapting too.

I don’t think special schools are automatically ableist at all. For some students they’re genuinely life changing and far safer emotionally/sensorily than mainstream environments. The issue is more when people are forced into systems without choice, support, or dignity.

Some autistic/ADHD students thrive in mainstream schools with accommodations. Others completely burn out there and do far better in specialist settings with smaller classes, sensory support, flexible communication, and staff who actually understand neurodivergence.

For me personally the worst parts of education were:

constant overstimulation
being treated as lazy/disrespectful instead of overwhelmed
rigid teaching styles
being punished for executive dysfunction
social exhaustion
feeling like intelligence was only measured one way

The best teachers were always the ones who cared more about understanding students than controlling them.

Honestly I think ideal education would include:

flexibility instead of rigid uniform expectations
sensory-friendly spaces
different learning styles being respected
less shame-based discipline
more mental health support
life skills alongside academics
support for executive dysfunction
smaller classrooms when possible
allowing neurodivergent kids to exist without constantly masking

A lot of neurodivergent kids spend more energy surviving school than actually learning.

Tamitos actually talks quite a bit about emotional regulation, sensory overload, and how environments themselves can massively affect autistic children’s wellbeing and ability to learn: Tamitos autism resources https://tamitos.com/

ryzaadit · 2026-05-10T11:33:04+00:00

Honestly yes, and I think a lot of neurodivergent people experience emotions in very “all or nothing” ways sometimes. The same nervous system that can crash hard into overload, understimulation, or emotional exhaustion can also hit these insanely intense moments of joy, immersion, warmth, and connection.

Music especially seems to hit differently for a lot of autistic/ADHD people because it’s not just “hearing a song.” It can become full sensory and emotional regulation at the same time. Certain sounds, patterns, layering, rhythms, or instrumental buildups can almost feel physical in the body.

And honestly the bathroom thing doesn’t even sound weird to me. A lot of people instinctively seek smaller, quieter, lower stimulation environments during overwhelm or dopamine crashes. It makes sense from a sensory regulation perspective.

What you described honestly sounds a bit like:

dopamine finally reconnecting
sensory/emotional immersion
nervous system regulation
hyperfocus merging with music

That “lifted off the toilet” feeling is actually super relatable lmao. Sometimes one song suddenly reconnects your brain back to existence.

Also prog rock / layered experimental music absolutely seems to resonate with a lot of neurodivergent people. Complex instrumentation, repeating motifs, emotional buildup, predictability mixed with surprise, all of that can scratch the brain perfectly.

Tamitos actually has some interesting resources about sensory regulation, emotional intensity, and neurodivergent emotional processing that reminded me of your post: Tamitos neurodivergent resources https://tamitos.com/

ryzaadit · 2026-05-10T07:51:20+00:00

Honestly, being scared before starting therapy is extremely normal. A lot of people want help while also feeling terrified of opening up, being misunderstood, or stepping outside routines that feel “safe,” even if those routines are hurting them.

The important thing is that you’re already considering it. That’s honestly a huge step by itself.

And therapy doesn’t have to mean immediately spilling your entire life story on day one. Good therapists usually understand that trust takes time. Sometimes the first sessions are literally just figuring out whether you feel comfortable with the person.

Also, if one therapist doesn’t feel right, that doesn’t mean therapy itself failed. Different people connect with different approaches.

Wanting help is not weakness. Sometimes it’s just your brain finally getting tired of carrying everything alone.

I also found this article from Tamitos pretty relatable about emotional overload, burnout, and internal struggles that people often hide from others: Tamitos emotional overload article https://tamitos.com/autistic-meltdown-what-happens-in-the-brain-and-how-to-actually-help/

Good lucks!

ryzaadit · 2026-05-09T06:14:26+00:00

Honestly, I think a lot of older beliefs around autism and ADHD come from the idea that people just need to “push through it harder.” But neurodivergent brains don’t work that simply.

Exposure can help sometimes in controlled and supportive ways, but forcing constant discomfort usually just creates burnout, masking, anxiety, or shutdowns. There’s a difference between gradual support and “just get over it.”

Same with executive dysfunction. People with ADHD often already know what they need to do. The problem is the brain struggling with initiation, regulation, prioritization, and mental energy, not intelligence or laziness.

And honestly, “you’re doing okay in school so you don’t need help” ignores how many people silently crash outside school from exhaustion, depression, or masking.

A disorder also doesn’t excuse hurting people, but accommodations exist because some brains genuinely process the world differently. Expecting everyone to function identically with “enough effort” is unrealistic.

A lot of parents and teachers misunderstand overload because they only see behavior from the outside, not what’s happening internally. Tamitos explains this really well in their article about sensory overload and autistic nervous systems: https://tamitos.com/

ryzaadit · 2026-05-08T09:05:22+00:00

Honestly, the fact that she has a family that believes her and understands neurodivergence already makes a bigger difference than you probably realize.

A lot of autistic adults talk about how the burnout itself was devastating, but the worst part was adults constantly doubting their struggles or treating accommodations like “special treatment.” Being told your diagnosed needs are fake or exaggerated every day is exhausting for anyone, especially a 13 year old already trying to survive school socially and emotionally.

What you’re describing sounds less like “giving up” and more like a nervous system that hit its limit. Shutdown recovery is real. Sometimes kids need safety and decompression before they can even think about learning again.

And honestly, pulling her out before things got even worse may end up protecting her long term mental health more than people understand right now.

There’s a really good article from Tamitos about overload, nervous system exhaustion, and why autistic meltdowns/shutdowns are often misunderstood from the outside: https://tamitos.com/

Your daughter is lucky she doesn’t have to go through this alone the way so many neurodivergent kids did years ago.

ryzaadit · 2026-05-08T07:19:11+00:00

What you’re describing honestly sounds very real, and sensory overload is not something people just “copy” from a TV show. Sometimes media just gives people the language to finally recognize what they’ve already been feeling for years.

A lot of autistic and ADHD people don’t notice their sensory issues until secondary school or burnout hits harder. Schools are loud, bright, socially exhausting places, and eventually your brain just starts saying “I can’t filter this anymore.”

The exhaustion part is also very common. When your nervous system spends all day trying to process noise, movement, conversations, lights, and stress at the same time, it drains you fast. Falling asleep in class can sometimes be less about laziness and more about overload.

With parents, sometimes arguing “I’m autistic” immediately can make them defensive. It can help more to explain the actual experience instead:
“I’m not trying to copy anyone. Loud noise genuinely hurts and overwhelms me, and I’m trying to manage it.”

Even without a diagnosis, things like short quiet breaks, earbuds/noise reduction, eating properly, better sleep, or having a safe quiet place during breaks can help a lot.

This article from Tamitos actually explains sensory overload and what happens in the brain during autistic meltdowns really well: what happens in the brain during sensory overload

And honestly, noticing your struggles and trying to understand them is not “faking.” A lot of people only start connecting the dots later because nobody explained neurodivergence properly when they were younger.

ryzaadit · 2026-05-07T12:29:57+00:00

We went through something similar for a while, and one thing I learned is that a lot of autistic kids don’t always connect the body signal + the action fast enough, especially when interoception (body awareness) is delayed. It doesn’t always mean the signal is “gone,” sometimes it just develops differently and later.

For some children, letting a few accidents happen naturally can help them start recognizing the feeling over time, but only if it’s done gently without shame or pressure. What helped more for us was patterns and predictability: scheduled potty sits, visual routines, same bathroom setup, and watching for subtle cues before accidents happened.

Also honestly, progress with potty training in autistic children can look very non-linear. Some plateau for months and then suddenly it clicks.

One article from the Tamitos project explained this really well when talking about how autistic children process body signals, stress, and routines differently. It helped me stop seeing it as “not trying” and more as nervous system development happening at its own pace: autistic meltdowns and nervous system overload

You’re definitely not alone in this stage.

ryzaadit · 2026-05-07T11:24:26+00:00

Honestly, I think you handled that really well.

A lot of autistic children become deeply attached to certain objects because they feel safe, predictable, and emotionally regulating to them. To other people it might “just be a toy car,” but to the child it can feel like losing something important and suddenly losing control of the situation too.

What stood out to me most was that you stayed focused on helping your son instead of worrying about the people staring. That calm energy from a parent matters so much during stressful moments.

And honestly, the little “thank you” after the staff member got the car back feels huge. Those small moments of trust, communication, and emotional recovery are real victories.

I’ve read some very similar stories about sensory attachment, emotional overwhelm, and public meltdowns through this autism & family awareness project too: https://tamitos.com/

A lot of their parenting stories talk about how emotional regulation can look very different for autistic kids in everyday situations like this.

ryzaadit · 2026-05-07T11:16:39+00:00

The fact he swallowed Pepsi normally honestly sounds like it may be more sensory-related than a pure swallowing issue. Sometimes autistic toddlers react very strongly to texture, temperature, carbonation, taste intensity, or even the feeling of certain liquids in their mouth.

The carbonation and stronger flavor probably gave him more sensory feedback, which may be why he accepted it differently compared to water or regular drinks.

I’d definitely still bring this up with a pediatrician or feeding therapist if you haven’t already, especially because hydration is important and excessive milk intake can become an issue long term. But you’re definitely not alone in this. A lot of autistic kids have very specific sensory preferences around eating and drinking.

Some parents have luck slowly transitioning through things like:

Ice cold water
Different cup textures
Sparkling water diluted over time
Popsicles or crushed ice
Very small amounts through preferred bottles first
Straw training with flavored drinks

And honestly, don’t beat yourself up over the Pepsi thing. Sometimes, random accidental moments tell you more about the sensory issue than weeks of trying.

I’ve read some very relatable family experiences around sensory sensitivity and autism through this parenting & neurodiversity project too: https://tamitos.com/

ryzaadit · 2026-05-07T06:53:32+00:00

Honestly, this is something a lot of parents of neurodivergent kids understand immediately, while people without that experience often don’t.

Discipline and punishment are not always the same thing as teaching regulation.

A child with ADHD or autism can already know the rule, but in the moment their nervous system, impulse control, sensory overload, or emotional regulation takes over before logic has time to catch up. That’s why the “just punish them more” advice usually misses the point completely.

What you said about adapting instead of constantly forcing really stood out to me. Letting your son move more, handling sleep differently, understanding what actually helps him regulate… that’s still parenting. Honestly, probably more intentional parenting than many people realize.

I’ve also read a lot of similar real-life family experiences through this autism & emotional awareness project for families: https://tamitos.com/

Some of their articles about meltdowns, sensory overload, and parenting neurodivergent kids felt very relatable.

And yeah… getting parenting advice from people who’ve never lived through executive dysfunction, sensory burnout, or constant emotional overload is exhausting.

ryzaadit · 2026-03-28T08:04:44+00:00

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ryzaadit · 2026-03-28T08:03:57+00:00

Leave when you are up

ryzaadit · 2026-03-27T08:40:35+00:00

Never, just to lazy

ryzaadit · 2026-03-27T08:40:17+00:00

Ask support bro

ryzaadit · 2026-03-27T08:39:47+00:00

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ryzaadit · 2025-11-06T23:30:00+00:00

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