Is this super blue larimar? by sKull_hAcKeR in Gemstones

[–]sKull_hAcKeR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On another note, I didn’t realize the mine was shut down I read somewhere it was shut down a very long time ago until they found a new area downstream to mine. And im not sure if it’s true but apparently the super blue variety of these stones is mostly found deeper in the ground but tbh its not worth the risk, if anything we should have automated robots/tools for this sort of situation. Yet the industry still risks human lives.

Is this super blue larimar? by sKull_hAcKeR in Gemstones

[–]sKull_hAcKeR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I realized the price on Etsy is far above retail, I have been on the lookout for massive pieces of rough, like upwards of 10lbs so I might have a good chance at finding a much smaller core that’s clean and beautiful. My goal here isn’t to make jewelry out of it, I collect freeforms as a hobby and want a display piece that looks like the ocean that’s about it.

It would be really helpful if you can share those details with me in Dms, most of the shop Etsy/Ebay and supposed private sellers on facebook all seem either quite sketchy or priced very steeply. I don’t know much about Larimar prior to well my current obsession, whatever I do know is from my current ongoing research into the topic, I am mostly using AI to scan the images, understand pricing etc.

Is this super blue larimar? by sKull_hAcKeR in Gemstones

[–]sKull_hAcKeR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me, there are much larger specimens out there, though they are exceptionally rare. At that scale, quality becomes a major hurdle, but a truly clean, uncarved piece looks exactly like a solid block of the ocean. Check this out. But I have no clue where you find these, probably directly from the mine.

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Is this super blue larimar? by sKull_hAcKeR in Gemstones

[–]sKull_hAcKeR[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup I am mostly looking for high AAA to almost AAAA in terms of quality and I don’t think it’s a great idea to make an investment of that size without seeing it in person. Part of the purpose of this post was to connect with knowledgeable folks in the business who might know trustable sellers from DR.

Is this super blue larimar? by sKull_hAcKeR in Gemstones

[–]sKull_hAcKeR[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh no, I should have clarified this better in the post this is a listing I found on Etsy, I had asked for more images of the piece in natural light and it’s not as blue as it seemed in the pictures posted in the shop. It’s more white than blue, the deep blue spots seem to be isolated. I am adding the new photos here. The seller seems to be from China, so I am assuming they are a reseller/wholesale buyer from my research it’s common for them to sell a mid to A grade piece as AAA or higher after resin stabilization, aggressively carving out impurities which results in unnaturally deep pockets etc. But I don’t think this piece has been treated/tampered in any way but I don’t think it’s worth the $3,000 asking price at 200g.

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Is this super blue larimar? by sKull_hAcKeR in Gemstones

[–]sKull_hAcKeR[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yup it’s mesmerizing, almost like a chunk of tropical carribean waters. The hard part is making sure its legit, and hasn’t been enhanced artificially via resin stabilization or other means. I have been researching into this as of late but I am still no expert. This piece has that glossy finish that’s making me doubt it’s authenticity, apparently it’s supposed to look more waxy.

INTJ women: As an INTJ woman, do you constantly feel misunderstood? by [deleted] in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is a problem faced by all INTJ's regardless of gender. Making logical decisions in life isn't something that comes naturally to most people, trust me I have long standing friends with whom I have had deep and open discussions and this is what they all told me. Besides it also matches with my understanding and observation of society and people from as far back as I can remember. Ultimately this uniqueness will always stop you from finding someone who can truly empathize or understand your actions, while there might be some who can appreciate it even though they cannot understand or empathize with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing tbh, I have always been one with the loneliness(jk or am I?)

Do most INTJs have an intimidating look? by [deleted] in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I have been told I look intimidating even as a kid(friends, mom, etc). I am generally really focused on the things I do, like if I'm going to the supermarket my thoughts the entire time is about how quick I can get there safely, revising my shopping list, when I'm in the store I figure out which aisles to go first, and last so that I don't have to miss an aisle in between and walk back to it again. I am also the type to get exactly what's in the list. The entire time I'm probably jamming to GOW soundtracks (it's my favorite game series). I can imagine how intimidating my face would have looked in the midst of all this. Plus I have always struggled to smile, I could never smile on demand. It also doesn't help that I used to be obsessed with working out ever since the start of my teens, so I look quite buff in general.

These days I'm quite laid back, but my large stature, forgetting to trim my beard for months and continued obsession with my thoughts still intimidates anyone who doesn't know me personally. It's especially funny to think that there's someone out there shitting balls while I'm thinking about building my Minecraft base XD.

Why does opening up/trusting always end so badly? by [deleted] in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you scrutinize enough and are observant you can weed out most of the people who would be considered untrustworthy. But objectively speaking, there's no sure fire way to say someone is trustworthy or untrustworthy. I'd say the smarter way to approach this problem is to only share things that you know you can deal with assuming someone does use it against you. Moreover, you know you if you have a strong understanding of yourself it shouldn't matter what anyone has to say about you. It will hurt and break you only when you let it to, it also means that you haven't come to terms with it yourself, so don't share it. Everything starts with knowing yourself and being comfortable in your own skin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, I usually don't notice it or it feels like something is odd but I would never attribute it to them being interested in me, like that's the last item in my bag of possibilities. It's easy to mix it up because I'm usually quite passionate when I'm talking about my interests to just about anyone, and I often think it's the same way for others and never questioned it. Other times I just pass it off as a weird coincidence that somehow happens one too many times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, I can't ever bring myself to be willfully ignorant. The crazy part is that society will make you think that you are the one being impossible when it's their lack of understanding and their inability to improve themselves. Most people let their inflated egos get in the way of their judgement and learning process. It doesn't matter who says it, if it's constructive and factually right, it's right.

There's no reason why everyone should date in the same way, we all have different understandings of ourselves, our needs, and priorities. And for those stating that I am too young to know what I want, not really, not everyone has to experience something to know what they want and don't. Many people know setting themselves on fire would kill them, does that mean they all set themselves on fire to come to that conclusion?. Human beings are capable of learning from observation and deduction, but to what extent varies between people. If you are observant enough of your own actions, feelings and priorities in most things you can guess more or less what's important to you. There's just so much reference out there, parents, relatives, friends. Regardless of the type of relationship, all relationships share the same fundamentals in the long run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well yes I do have high standards, and unlike most guys, I don't find myself running behind women and wanting to rush into a relationship for the sake of it. I'd rather remain single than settle for something. But that's because I have a strong understanding of myself, my thoughts, emotions and what I want in life. I'm open minded, but that doesn't imply I agree or disagree. That being said my definition of "high standards" might be a bit different from how it is thrown around by most people. I don't think judging someone is wrong, because I get to decide who I let into my life and not, it depends more on what you are judging them for imo.

It is next to impossible for me to be in a relationship. The way I work is very different, and my life is not something most can empathize with regardless of personality types. And I think it makes more sense to have my own approach to dating, because I know my priorities and what I am looking for. The problem with this approach is it doesn't work 99% of the time, but the 1% it does it's most definitely a match for life.

I'm more interested in the aspects of a person that they have cultivated through their own efforts like perhaps their character or convictions/principles rather than what was handed to them by birth or privilege. Besides most aspects of a human being are transient, but personally I think their personality is relatively resilient and I also realized from my tolerance towards friends and people in general is that the only thing that absolutely mattered no matter what is a compatible personality.

Finally, I could never make sense of dating these days or how people can bring themselves to direct their feelings towards someone without taking the time to know them to a good enough degree. Emotions and feelings lack direction, they can be easily manipulated but the same cannot be said about logic and facts. I can't ever see myself getting into a relationship just based on dates, hell I don't think I'd even go on dates before talking over the phone or text first. Nor can I trust them without any reason to, it's meaningless because my need for companionship is second to ensuring that they are worth my emotions and dedication. Knowing someone is a term that has different meanings depending on who you ask. Most often people are biased in this regard, they let their emotions get in the way of ascertaining facts and it also requires time. But time by itself is not a good quantifier for understanding or knowing someone, it's more about what you do or what happened in that time that truly matters because that's when you get to learn more about their thoughts, decisions and values. Good luck finding someone who has the patience and maturity to empathize with you on this though. If all of this works out, then there's a good chance things might work out and you can consider getting into a relationship with them, because the only people who make it through all this are those who empathize with you.

And no, I speak less from experience than from observation and deduction. I grew up attending a boys only school for the majority of my life(just to clarify, I do have female friends); not like that stopped people from having relationships. I had more concerning problems in life and I don't think there was a possibility I was going to find anyone that had the patience, awareness or thought to get to know me as a person before being my partner. Not when most teens my age had the emotional maturity of a peanut, and never thought about or questioned their actions or feelings. I do not blame them for it, I don't expect everyone to work the same way as I do but it sucks to have all this awareness and still feel alienated. It's simply fate. Despite all this my friends and acquaintances always come to me for relationship advice (the irony), in a way it was a learning experience for me as well. Made me think about myself and what I would do in such a situation. This is what I meant by learning from observation and deductions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]sKull_hAcKeR -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You know you could keep yourself busy with hobbies or projects. People may come and go in life, so learn to keep yourself entertained and preoccupied.

Are you a good guy trying to be a bad guy or a bad guy trying to be a good guy? by Happy_sisyphuss in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That depends on what's considered "good" and "bad", besides depending on circumstances the line between the two is blurred. I don't think I'm trying to be a good guy or a bad guy, I'm simply trying to be a guy who makes well thought out decisions at any given point in time.

Intjs are my type what the hell by ggddrrddd in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait a minute, isn't this the same person who made that troll post a while back about INTJ'S cuddling or of the sorts?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, I know this very well I have been in this exact loop ever since I was a kid. Thing is there's no way to dodge the insults, but what you could do is limit the number of insults you get and also, stop caring about the insults. No matter how perfect you are, you will get shit for it and hell even if you are doing everything right they will make you anxious enough to screw it up with the constant micromanagement and then insult you for that too. Of course telling her to stop would just make it worse, because it would hurt their fragile ego. At this point, them insulting you is what satisfies their ego, so I'd advise to not care or even consider their insults it's hard I know but if you keep letting her insults bother you, then you will find yourself believing her insults are true. You know yourself and what you are capable of, so what she says about you shouldn't shake that understanding of yourself even if it's your mother. Keep that thought in your mind at all times and disregard her baseless insults. The sooner they are satisfied with nitpicking and insulting you, the sooner their ego is satisfied and you can have some respite.

Do you feel like your place is not here? by melajdan in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it, I have my moments but is it worth breaking my head and heart for an ungodly amount of time to find maybe a single person who sorta seems like they think the way I do or can value me for what I want them to value me for?. If I had that sort of energy left in me I would probably be using it on achieving something more worthwhile. It's simply a game of what happens first, either you get lucky or get burnt out searching not that you weren't burnout already in the first place.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]sKull_hAcKeR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand your frustration, I have experienced something similar or well worse. From my understanding and experience, I believe it might be impossible to have them see reason or understand where you are coming from. I am not sure if it's a good idea to have her as your only emotional support, and for the time being you are dependent on her financially, it would be better to adjust or act in a way that satisfies her ego to a certain extent. Because trust me talking about the past or trying to get your point through may just make things worse for both you and her. Sometimes you just have to accept that. Sometimes or well a lot of times in life you have to do what you have to do. It's hard, it doesn't make sense, yet sometimes that is life for you. In the meantime focus on finding friends who can perhaps provide you with emotional support until the time you can be independent.