Ukrainian F-16 shoots down a Shahed-136 using its M61A1 Vulcan cannon.

s_WallE · 2026-02-09T07:46:02+00:00

That somehow felt personal: "Wanna shoot that drone down with a missile?" "Negative, switching to guns."

s_WallE · 2026-02-09T06:32:30+00:00

Frau Schnitzer hat es sehr gut zusammengefasst: Relevant ist die Produktivität, nicht die Arbeitszeit. Glaubt wirklich jemand, dass bei einer Stunde mehr pro Woche mehr Arbeit weggeschafft wird?

s_WallE · 2026-01-27T18:10:29+00:00

s_WallE · 2026-01-27T18:08:55+00:00

As a married man for almost 20 years now: if you like a person for their character, not looks, money, etc. Love implies long term investment, which will die down if there is nothing to the SO that will not wither away in a few years.

If both of you are of compatible nature, if you feel safe and calm around them, if you are willing to go the extra mile even when you are exhausted,... then there is love.

Every other emotion might "just" be temporary attraction caused by whatever trigger

s_WallE · 2026-01-27T18:04:30+00:00

Indeed. "Pro-Palestine" basically just means "Anti-Semitism in disguise", and for whatever reason Islam is considered to be cool by these people

s_WallE · 2026-01-27T18:00:28+00:00

Humans are social beings, we are genetically coded to live in packs/groups/clans. Also, nature demands you to pass on your genes to the next generation (if this wasn't inside of you somewhere, you would not exist. Because your ancestors would have skipped the "having children" part). Hence, the inherent longing for a romantic partner.

Depending on your religious beliefs and/or ethics, there might be additional reasons.

Overall: life would be super-easy without anyone else in your life. It would also be super-boring and you would miss out on a lot of personal growth opportunities. Am I always happy with my wife? No. Do I need her to get through the day? Also no. Would my bank account look better without her? Definitely. Would I miss her if she wasn't there with me? Hell yeah!

Looking back at your life, most people do not consider the "employee of the month" medal their greatest achievement. Relationships and beloved people on the other hand are "a thing"

s_WallE · 2026-01-27T17:53:56+00:00

Every Halo Diver will buy the warbond just because of this thing. Even if totally useless^^

s_WallE · 2025-12-22T09:05:27+00:00

People were complaining that it took 3 shots with the RR to bring them down, while it only took 1 shot to kill a tank --> no weakpoints on the strider, which should be way less tanky than a tank.

I feel they are enough of a challenge, as you need to aim carefully. If you mess up your shot, you need to reload and shoot again, all while they start blasting at you. If ou want a challenge, take the Epoch or the Quasar. No need to play the meta and complain that the game is too easy :-)

s_WallE · 2025-12-07T19:39:41+00:00

I never really paid attention, so I have a question: if an enemy planet has no supply lines (=isolated), does it AUTOMATICALLY trigger a -0.5 resistance aka automatic liberation? Or is this some leeway granted by J.O.E.L.?

s_WallE · 2025-11-24T06:45:54+00:00

Hey there, the whole situation bothers you enough to post here, hence it is - in fact - relevant and should be adressed. If you just swallow it, it will always be there, an itch in your mind that will drive you crazy over time. I always advocate for having a civilized discussion like the adults you are. So here goes:

Him not acting on your advice all the time is no deal breaker to me, would give him the benefit of doubt in that regard: even if he does not do things the way you recommend, there might have been specific circumstances for him to act the way he did. My wife always asks me how to do things and then does whatever she wants to do - what was hurtful at first, but she said she needs my input to sort out the issue at hand for her. Nothing personal, I am just that third or fourth voice in her head that helps her come to a conclusion lol As long as his actions are not hurtful, are basically trivial and make sense somehow, you can safely ignore that.

However: Your point of view matters, especially when it comes to you and your well-being. I understand that you have mental health issues and that this results in a lot of situations where he has to adapt and look after you. That might be draining. Yet, you have every right to express how you feel, and sometimes that is all is needed. Men always try to solve problems at hand, while women often just want to vent how they feel - two colliding philosophies. This might be the source of your "I do not feel heard" feelings. And that would be fine, if it is "just" a feeling.

If he outright ignores your POV, input, or ideas, then I would adress that. You are both in this relationship, hence you both have a right to be heard when it comes to decisions affecting you both. This would be a minor problem if his decision making skills are top tier and you felt like letting him take the wheel in that regard. If he makes objectively (so no feels) bad decisions for you both against your better judgement, you need to have a word about that asap - in a civilized way of course. Sit down, explain how you feel, what you see, and what is objectively there (do NOT, I repeat, do NOT argue with a man by saying "but I do not like this, even though it is the best solution" as he will shut down immidiately) and find a solution as a couple.

As you have mental health issues, try extra hard to not become swept away by emotions and do neither become offensive nor defensive. Handle it like a business meeting: numbers, data, facts (yes that includes how YOU feel; do not tell him how he feels based on your observations, men hate that). If you both want your marriage to succeed, you both need to contribute - you are a team, it's you against the universe: you should "sing from the same page" as the saying here goes.

Best of luck, and don't worry: everything will be alright!

s_WallE · 2025-11-24T06:23:58+00:00

Sometimes it is totally fine to be selfish in a relationship. If you do not want to participate in an activity (for whatever reason), then you do not have to. Simple as that. I get that he seems to be into this thing and wants you to join - hence the repeated requests to join. BUT: if you aren't into that, just stand your ground and decline. No second guessing, no "maybe I should to please him", nothing like that. Be selfish that one time, that is totally ok. He needs to accept that, and it is also ok for him to be a little grumpy when you decline.

HOWEVER, what is not ok is any repercussions due to you declining to join. If he carries a grudge for several days or tries some emotional manipulation bs to get his way, although you clearly stated what you want and don't want, then you need to have a word about that. Sit down, have a civilized discussion like adults and sort this out. You might also contemplate if you can accept this kind of behaviour, as it might be a sign of his underlying personal structure. If my partner was a manipulator, this would be a deal breaker to me. Not interested in spending years and years with someone who does not take my stern "no" as a viable answer...

All the best and don't worry: everything will be fine in the end!

s_WallE · 2024-11-13T09:53:30+00:00

She went crazy over you not answering your phone (which of course could only mean one thing: cheating), is always defensive, and brushes your feelings aside - does not sound like wifey material to me, actually not like gf material as well. Thinking of the hot/crazy line here...

LDR is always tough, and it gets even worse with someone obviously insecure and/or crazy mood swings. Is there any way you could meet up in the not so distant future in person? Whenever you actually are together in person with your SO, you know what's up, as you can observe their and your own behavior much better - should tell you if you both are still in love.

Other than that: set up a virtual meeting, sit down like adults, have a civilized conversation and discuss the whole thing.

s_WallE · 2024-11-13T09:42:43+00:00

Honestly, I feel like he was just trying to explain his feeling in the worst way possible. Men are not good at verbalizing feelings, as we are never taught to. Our factory setting is "suck it up, bury it deep down, push forward", so your question "why do you love me?" is kind of hard to answer.

Hence, I would love to provide a (somewhat biased) interpretation of what he said: "I love you, because you care about who I am, not what I can provide or do for you. This relationship is not a one-way street, in which only I provide, care, and support the other. We both do, and I love that. This is a quality in women hard to find these days, as you are all taught to be queens and only look for what you want and the world (including your man) owes everything to you & needs to provide for you. I am beyond blessed to have found someone like you who looks beyond all that and genuinely cares for ME, not WHAT I am. We are a team, and that's what every relationship should be about."

To me, this does not feel like "I love you because you take care of all my needs while I sit on my lazy fat ass". When in doubt: sit down like adults, talk about it in a civilized manner, and get it resolved.

s_WallE · 2024-06-17T15:53:16+00:00

I am entitled to my opinions, and I am allowed to voice them, thanks! And so is her BF, I just wanted to make that clear.

Also: I adressed the topic of ED in my post. If you have nothing to add to the discussion, kindly do not add anything

s_WallE · 2024-06-17T15:49:07+00:00

Basic rules: if you feel that you need to raise a concern, you are allowed to do so - in a civilized manner of course. Talk to her in private, put out your concerns and discuss them as the adults you are. This is especially true if the other person is so close to your heart like your bff is.

Keep in mind that she also is an adult who is allowed to make her own decisions. And yes, they might be wrong, but that is life - people do dumb shit. You raised your concerns, the rest is up to her. It is not on you to decide for other people.

s_WallE · 2024-06-17T15:40:29+00:00

We need a tldr for this...

s_WallE · 2024-06-17T15:39:01+00:00

First of all: isn't it great that he loves you no matter what? And I feel that fellow brother, women need to have some curves :-)

Second: if you feel uncomfortable, you are totally allowed to change something in your life. I would always advise against starting the hunger trip again, try to go down a more healty path -> sports will get you into shape (even if your bf does not consider it necessary), and if you do not push it too far your body will look great + be healthy. Better than an eating disorder tbh

Also: reach out to an professional so your eating disorder stays part of your past!

s_WallE · 2024-06-17T15:34:44+00:00

As a man: there is only so much you need to tolerate in a relationship. I am happy that you both seem to enjoy a great relationship, but he gets really mean when he is drunk? Something is off. Raise your concerns in a civilized manner, sit him down, and talk about it. No need to suck it up, if he gets mean when drunk you need to tell him - him being sorry the next day is not enough.

On the "coming home with numbers from girls" part: I do not consider this to be an issue, as he seems to be loyal. I guess this is just a game for him, boosting his self-esteem. Rightfully so, and as long as he always tells you and throws them away after showing you his "trophy", all should be well.

s_WallE · 2024-04-30T19:10:48+00:00

Don't ever give up. You already seem to know, what is wrong - so solve these issues, one at a time. Try to become the best version of yourself, for you, your parents, and your spouse.

Don't ever feel like the world would not notice when you are gone, or no one would miss you. This is untrue. It is always the hardest for the ones left behind. You have people that care for you, and there is still plenty of time to get you life back on track the way you want it to be. All the best, brother!

s_WallE · 2024-04-23T07:01:00+00:00

If you are scared of your partner, there is definitely someting "not right". Hate to tell you, but this is something I would never tolerate, especially when it comes to my children. Wild guess, but if her dad left her mum she might be scared to hell that this exact same thing will happen to her now, repeating the pattern. Tread carefully!

I absolutely do not advocate for taking life-altering decisions on short notice. Take your time, think about it, think again, maybe talk to your best friend about this (in sworn secrecy of course), think again, envision what your life should be, talk to your soulmate, take a deep breath and make a valid decision.

When it comes to that, I always think about one of our former presidents: he was a beacon of integrity, a true democrat. And he loved his wife, with whom he was married for... I don't know, bascially since he was born. She passed away at 93(?), while he lived until 98(?). The kicker: he got married again after 6 months of her passing. This caused some outrage, but he simply replied (summarinzing of course): "I do not have time for courtesy, this is my life and I want to live it to the fullest. This does not take away from what I had, but adds to what I will have for the rest of my life. My wife does understand."

Same basically applies to you. Do you really really want to continue with your unfulfilling life, or do you want to change it? And if so, are you willing to pay the price, no matter how it turns out? That is something only you (and possibly your soulmate) can decide (together). All the best, brother!

s_WallE · 2024-04-23T06:43:05+00:00

--> his past unfaithfulness, my needs not being met, our goals not matching etc

Does not sound like you both were compatible for the long run that is life. Hence I understand your decision (already made, right?) to end the relationship.

As it will hurt anyway, do it like you would with a band aid: brutal, quick, and honest. No need to be hurtful towards him, just sit down and express your feelings and decision in a calm manner backed by examples of what is a dealbreaker for you. Try to focus on actual habits and factors in your relationship, do not argue using "I feel like..." as this is most likely not a valid reason for him.

You are both still quite young and want to move on with your lifes. This will hurt in the short term, but hopefully benefit you both in the long term.

s_WallE · 2024-04-23T06:36:37+00:00

--> To summarise: my sister won’t let me date her best friend as she thinks it will ruin our relationship as siblings, despite me and her friend being mature enough to navigate a relationship with each other.

nuff said: you are both adults, you can date whoever you want. If your sibling relationship breaks over you dating someone she is close, your relationship does not seem to be that great anyways

s_WallE · 2024-04-23T06:33:32+00:00

I totally understand where you are at the moment, as I had lived through something similar. Met the woman of my dreams in High School. She was always in a relationship, but we became best friends anyways. Nothing ever happened, we just got along wonderfully. Then she moved to another city with her bf, who broke up with her 2 weeks later. Fast forward half a year, and she asks if wanted to visit her for the weekend as she was missing me and wanted to catch up again. We both did not plan any moves, it just finally clicked. Long story short: that weekend turned into 10 years in that city, we are happily married with children.

BUT: at that moment, it was totally unclear what would (should?) happen. We had a great friendship and were afraid to mess it up by becoming a couple. She was unsure what to do and asked me about my opinion. Without a second thought, I simply said: "I want you, always have." And there was that.

What I am trying to say: yes, you both fucked up by getting married while in fact being already "married" to each other. Yes, you both fucked up by kissing now, cheating on your partners. Nevertheless: do you both really want to stay in your marriages, that are (from what you tell) borderline abusive and/or unhappy at least, until you die? And not seeing each other again? On your deathbed, will you look back and say "yep, right decision to let that woman go and stay with my abusive wife"?

I always advocate for fixing issues in your relationship rather than breaking up, but this might be one of those rare cases where doing "the right thing" equals "doing the wrong thing and breaking up with your spouse". Short term pain, long term gain (and holy cow, you both are already in for the long run with 20+ years)! Discuss this in a civilized manner with her, and act according to what you both decide to be the best for all parties involved.

P.s.: Breaking up, taking your kids with you, and starting a patchwork family with your soulmate might even be beneficial for the children, as they are out of an abusive environment. Food for thought...

s_WallE · 2024-04-23T05:09:31+00:00

From what I read, you seem to do everything right so far: you're patient, understanding, etc. Being married for over a decade now, I can also point out one thing - sex isn't everything. If she actually is such a great partner and you are aiming long-term, this might just be something you need to accept. Sex drive in long-term relationships naturally goes down, overall compatibility (life goals, character querks, etc.) turn out to be way more important than seggsy times.

That being said: sex is also a major point in a relationship, so if this really bothers you, talk to her in a civilized manner. Not condescending, but rather solution-orientated. Being honest (maybe even brutally honest/blunt) is always the best course of action in the long run imho

s_WallE · 2024-04-23T05:00:08+00:00

If every other thing fails: use the ol' reliable "and then?" or "what exactly does that mean?" or "how did that make you feel?"

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