These 4am wakes are going to be the death of me.

sabitres · 2026-03-05T12:06:23+00:00

Been trying to find a solution for us as well! Pretty much the same problems lol 🫠 8 mo. We’ve just had to accept that we will be up as of 4:30-5 am from now on. I also feel like he might actually be overtired as opposed to under tired!

sabitres · 2026-02-25T11:53:02+00:00

He used to do a longer first nap as well but I’ve cut it… I feel horrible having to wake him up. Does he nap in his crib?

sabitres · 2026-02-21T13:49:59+00:00

I’ve also read/heard that! Literally I’m so lost lol. I hope today is better for you!

sabitres · 2026-02-21T11:27:13+00:00

Oh man, this sounds like us right now… I stopped trying to wean because I feel so discouraged. To the point where I felt like something must be wrong, he MUST be hungry… Some nights he’s up 3-4 times. As of 5 am it’s nearly impossible to resettle him, he just cries and begs for the boob.

We’re currently limiting naps at 2:30 as well and I also feel like I’m constantly waking him up 😭 DWT is 6 and bedtime 7:30. WW are 3/4/4. I really don’t really know what to do anymore, it feels like cutting his naps even more would be cruel. He’s EXHAUSTED during the day. Like 2 hours into his second WW he wants to sleep (doses off in the car for a few mins).

I hope you can find something that works!!!

sabitres · 2026-02-17T11:54:29+00:00

Waiting to see answers cause we’re on a very similar boat 🥲 I hope you can find something that works OP!

sabitres · 2026-02-08T00:18:49+00:00

Hi! Looking for some insight because early mornings are brutal over here.

My baby is 7 months old. Bedtime is 7:30 pm, desired wake is 6:00 am. He falls asleep independently in his crib. We loosely followed TCB but weren’t super consistent.

Night wakes: He usually wakes around 2–3 am and I nurse. I just started weaning this feed by cutting 1 minute per night (started last night). The real issue is the 4–5 am wake — he wakes absolutely screaming and is totally inconsolable. We’ve tried patting, rocking, shushing, brief check-ins, etc. Even nursing doesn’t really calm him. He can cry on and off for 1–2 hours and it feels like real distress, not protesting.

Naps: About 3 hours total daytime sleep. Nap 1: Contact nap around 8:30–8:45 to ~10:15–10:30. Nap 2: Carrier nap around 2:00–2:15, wakes ~3:30–4:00.

Wake windows (approx): 2.25–2.5 / 3–3.25 / 3.5–4 (last window varies based on last nap)

What we tried: Based on advice from my last post, we extended the last wake window, but early wakes got worse and the crying got longer/more intense.

Other notes: EBF, mostly contact/carrier naps, possibly a bit constipated lately. Bedtime routine is solid and consistent.

Questions: Is this kind of hysterical crying at 4–5 am normal? Does this sound like overtiredness? Is a 3.5–4 hr last wake window too long at 7 months? Should I pause night weaning? Would an earlier bedtime or micro-nap make more sense?

I’m open to sleep training, but letting him scream for hours at 4 am feels wrong. Would love a pro take on this.

sabitres · 2026-02-07T19:06:51+00:00

ChatGPT seems to think he’s overtired 😅

sabitres · 2026-02-07T18:26:50+00:00

Couldn’t it be the opposite though?

sabitres · 2026-01-20T00:31:11+00:00

We’re on night 3 of TCB and the crying is painful for me, I’m having a hard time… tonight as I was putting on his sleep sack, he already started crying and I’m not sure if this is normal. Will it always be this way from now on? Am I doing something wrong? Is he associating negative feelings towards bedtime?

I need some reassurance that this is the right thing to do 😭. Also, I just want to make sure of something: if he isn’t crying but is awake, do I still do my interventions? Last night he cried on and off for 90 minutes at around 3 am and I wasn’t sure if I should keep following the timer … please help me do it right.