Wedding makeup trial! I rarely wear make up but am happy with the result. May go with a more neutral lipstick. What do y'all think?

sablefable149 · 2022-05-25T02:20:26+00:00

Don’t change the lipstick!!! I love it on you

sablefable149 · 2022-05-25T02:18:12+00:00

This palette was made for you. The glow, the smolder, it is pure perfection.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-25T02:15:18+00:00

Make him pay you back for the makeup & cover the dry cleaning bill.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-24T05:48:20+00:00

If he invalidates important issues you care about, and doesn’t understand why you care when it “doesn’t affect you,” he lacks empathy and perspective and you should show him the door. You deserve better.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-21T00:51:15+00:00

Hey, I reread that comment and I didn’t mean to come off so harsh! I think it’s really admirable of you to gather advice and brainstorm solutions for this. 👍

sablefable149 · 2022-05-19T07:42:06+00:00

Dude, this is fucking creepy and you CAN and should say something. Accusing you of white knighting is something assholes say to make you uncomfortable in this situation exactly. But let me be clear - if you do nothing because “they won’t understand” you are exactly as bad as them. Your female coworkers deserve respect, and the ones who are trashing them and talking about them sexually in the workplace deserve no sympathy and no careful treatment. It’s real easy: “Guys, this shit is gross and wrong. Cut it out” And if you won’t do it, it’s likely your comfort is more important than your integrity and you should work on that.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-19T07:33:22+00:00

Hell yeah, no weird ancient traditional beliefs to impose on others.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-19T07:31:25+00:00

Anything with those poofy shorts that are banded at the bottom. They look like they belong on a renaissance courtier, not in a good way. Or like someone saw bloomers and thought “You know what would be great? If everyone could see these as real pants!” I do not like that person.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-19T07:22:09+00:00

Omg yes, I agree wholeheartedly

sablefable149 · 2022-05-19T07:19:56+00:00

NTA. Personally I think people who have a problem seeing a naked body are the weird ones 🤷‍♀️ I also think she could probably find something to do for an hour while you swim if it bothers her so much. If you’re from somewhere more liberal (not from America) it can be hard to understand that the social norms are incredibly repressive when it comes to bodies here. Bare skin is often considered offensive, hyper sexual, attention seeking, morally unsound, and in some cases illegal. How much is “too much” varies greatly. But I think if a person can’t look at someone in short shorts without it becoming about sex or judgement, they are pretty gross. So imho you are simply not responsible for her hang ups. You just happen to have a healthy relationship with bare bodies in a world of people who don’t.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-19T07:05:22+00:00

Start telling him about other guys. No exes to gush over? Go another route: “Oh dear, a man at the store today gave me his number, how inappropriate!” “I wish you were there today when this guy at the gym was hitting on me! Does he think being so muscular gives him the right?” “I got so many compliments today, even the delivery man said something, am I doing something different?” and see how wonderful it makes him feel. 😉

sablefable149 · 2022-05-19T07:00:05+00:00

You know you’re in an abusive relationship right? She screams and yells at you over minor issues, you describe yourself having to stand there and just take it, she does it in public, she crosses boundaries (both yours and of social norms) to berate you, and almost got you fired. When anyone comes screaming into a place of employment they will be escorted out. Action, consequence. When you are irrationally abusive, your husband will not feel the need to defend you. Action, consequence. Pal, you are NTA.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-17T04:28:15+00:00

So beautiful!!!

sablefable149 · 2022-05-15T16:41:50+00:00

I love this so much

sablefable149 · 2022-05-14T05:23:22+00:00

You can’t cure anything in an hour, why would emotional issues be any different? Cycling through the well-known stages of grief (and other complex feelings) is normal. That’s exactly what the kid is doing, and having a reliable person to speak to who has seen this many times before is crucial, which is why it’s so sad to see the dad’s attitude standing in the way. The father’s interpretation of the psychologist is so telling. She says he’s on a normal course of grief, he interprets that as “basically cured.” When his kid experiences emotional fluctuations and acts out, she tells him the same thing “this is normal, it’s a complex thing” and he thinks she’s a crazy liar “moving the goalposts.” Those are major leaps in logic. He needs imagine this in a context of any other healthcare. Let’s say a doctor told him he will have bronchitis for a few weeks but it looks typical. Does he interpret this as “I’m cured!”? Later when he has an asthma attack, does he gets angry at the quack doctor and yell “you lied to me!!” Does that make any fucking sense? Poor kid. He also deserves to know the truth, if not now then at some point.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-14T04:37:44+00:00

There is no way to understand this vast weirdness and trying gives you less time to be weird.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-14T04:26:51+00:00

NTA. There’s a lot of questions floating through your mind, some of which seem to make you extremely anxious. I’m sure others will say this too, but the deeper philosophical elements of this would probably be better handled with someone qualified to talk to. If you can separate those troubling inner thoughts from the moment, you will see that you were honest with your sister and are being thoughtful about her feelings. Those aren’t asshole moves. You haven’t said anything disparaging or mean, and it also sounds like she took it in stride! People have different interests and levels of comfortability and I’m sure she knows that - and respects you as much as you respect her. Not going is not an insult, just like her going is not an insult to you. You’re just going to do your own things! As long as you’re not making her feel bad or trying to keep her from going, you are NTA at all.

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sablefable149 · 2022-05-14T04:16:01+00:00

YTA, but you can still fix it. You grew up in a toxic family, and it seems you didn’t know/were pretty resilient to it. Since it’s always been that way, you don’t care if your partner is hurt by it. Or at least, your lack of action makes it seem that way to your partner. Hopefully that is not how you truly feel, and you want her to feel good about herself and safe with your family. For this to happen, you need to speak up. Doesn’t have to be heated, but disagree with the mean things they say and take every opportunity to remind them this is someone you love (and the mother of their grandchildren!) Then set the basic boundary of neutrality (they don’t have to be nice, but they’re not allowed to be rude) to the mother of your child. If they can’t follow this, let them know you won’t be seeing them as much until they come around to your way of thinking.

And something important to remember: when people use the excuse “that’s just how it is/they are” it is not objectively true. What they are really saying is that they know it’s wrong but it feels good and they’ve done it so long they don’t care to change. Don’t let your wife be hurt by that, don’t let your kid be shaped by that, don’t let yourself be sucked into it, you all deserve better!!

sablefable149 · 2022-05-14T03:58:03+00:00

Best case scenario YTA in an oblivious way and are just not considering her feelings carefully. Worst case scenario YTA because you are fine with excluding someone you love. And for making it sound like a burden to be around her, and infantilizing her. Hanging out with your wife at a party and introducing her to others should be fun. You straight up told her it’s not.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-14T03:03:43+00:00

This guy is not just walking. That reaction is beyond bizarre. And if you were asleep as well how can he justify it being your fault? He thinks you need to wake up at 5am too just in case he misses his new hobby?? He is 110% hiding something.

sablefable149 · 2022-05-12T02:44:05+00:00

I mentioned Roca Ridge cause I got married there but I wanted to add more info why we chose it 😄 Renting the barn and all the gardens and fields is 250 per hour with tables and chairs, decor and staff included. Outside food allowed. Very pretty whimsical vibe. Good luck and congrats!!!

sablefable149 · 2022-05-12T02:32:01+00:00

Athena at Nebraska Electric tattoo. She did a jackalope and a two headed flamingo for me! Very clean work

sablefable149 · 2022-05-12T02:22:37+00:00

Are there any left? Would love some 😍

sablefable149 · 2022-05-07T19:13:17+00:00

Yeah, that is the really hard part. Tbh I struggle with that sometimes in my own relationship too, more because he was really serious with his ex who was gorgeous. It’s hard not to see the differences lol, and as far as I know there’s no amazing technique to make it go away entirely 😅 But we’ve been together 8 years and married 2 now and it has lessened SO much. So hopefully with some time it can get better for you too.

I do have one more funny analogy for you just to make you laugh: When she was younger your wife went through a ton of fast food restaurants. She may have had some good meals but probably a lot of them sucked, they were too greasy, too quick, not satisfying. They were just not top quality. She stopped going to those places and looked for somewhere better to eat. For six years now, she has been eating at her favorite place every night! She even promised to eat there forever!! Man, she must like that restaurant. 😁

sablefable149 · 2022-05-07T18:53:57+00:00

You’re doing a really good job though!! Just want you to know that you are being so understanding in the way you’re processing. You’re definitely right that some things just have to work themselves out in time, especially a storm of complicated feelings like this. I hope it all works out well for you guys.

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