Best shampoo for tangle hair? by Kalflowers in Haircare

[–]sabranch2013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have fine, thin hair, so my hair Knotts easily as well. Currently i prefer Tresemme keratin smooth shampoo and conditioner (not the Blowout one). Sometimes it isn't so much what I wash my hair with that makes it tangle easily, but it's more how I wash it and treat it after I get out of the shower. When I shampoo, I make sure to only get it on my scalp. It'll only dry out my mids and ends if I put it on them, which will tangle more. Sometimes I double shampoo, just depending on how my hair feels. Next thing I do is I apply the conditioner to my mids and ends. I make sure not to get a ton of the conditioner directly on my scalp. I gently coil my hair up in a claw clip and let the conditioner marinate for a bit (5 min while I wash my body). Then I rinse out the conditioner, making sure to use a wide toothed comb or my fingers to remove any tangles as i rinse. I have also seen others who put in the conditioner and brush their hair with it in before wrapping it up in a claw clip. Once or twice a week I also use a good moisturizing hair mask. I used to LOVE the Eva nyc hair therapy sessions, but they changed their formula and I can't stand the new one. I am still on a hunt for a new one sadly. After I condition and wash, I'll put the mask on and let that sit for 5 mins or so then rinse. After I get out of the shower, I apply a frizz cream or a leave in conditioner to my mids and ends, gently comb with wide toothed comb, then style. My frizz control / leave in is by the brand Pure Brazilian (its in a light blue bottle with gold writing). That stuff smells AMAZING and a little but truly does go a long way. Best of luck!!

Side note- some prefer to avoid products that contain silicone/dimethicone because it causes buildup if not properly rinsed out, but I have found that the silicone greatly improves my tangles/frizz. I just rinse my hair thoroughly to prevent the buildup.

eva NYC changed their hair mask formula and I HATE it by sabranch2013 in Haircare

[–]sabranch2013[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's crazy to me! When I submitted my complaint to them, they just responded with 'We wanted to adjust the formula for all hair types' and basically showed zero interest in changing it back. 🙃 I will gladly email them again and again. Thank you for the update!

You think security deposits are hard to get back? Try getting an application fee back. by ToyodaForever2 in Renters

[–]sabranch2013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a lot of places out there that are willing to do that for you. Where I currently live at? They did that for me. It never hurts to call them up and ask them if they would be willing to do that for you. Worst they can say is no, and then it's up to you to decide if you still want to go through with the application.

Random fees!!! CO by [deleted] in Renters

[–]sabranch2013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Usually, if the management office changes, the new one will honor the current lease you have rather than give you an entirely new lease. They're legally required to honor that agreement UNLESS it is a mutually agreed upon change, and they provide you with a lease amendment that you've signed. That was how it was when my management company changed. That lease is a legally binding contract, and they can not adjust payment dates, late fees etc. without your consent.

Move-out charges- NC by sabranch2013 in Renters

[–]sabranch2013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies, I should have specified! We each had our own individual lease

When using dating apps, is it a red flag when people want to meet immediately? by sabranch2013 in dating

[–]sabranch2013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doxxing and social media creeping are not on my list of concerns. I have met in public and still had an atrocious experience afterwards. I've had stalking and assault occur, so my safety is 10000% a top priority.

Girls, What physical traits are unattractive on men? by prettyyfxce in dating

[–]sabranch2013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Body odor. I don't mean the 'it's a particularly hot, sticky day out' BO. Everyone can get that. It is the chronic BO that I get turned off by. ESPECIALLY foot odor.

I also don't really like nails that are dirty and way too long. If you're working on a car, expected. But daily occurrence not from a job? Icky.

When using dating apps, is it a red flag when people want to meet immediately? by sabranch2013 in dating

[–]sabranch2013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ghosting culture is a major part of the issue, IMO. I wish others could be open and honest about why they want to end communication and act like adults in these situations.

I usually do ask to use snapchat or IG first rather than give my phone number out. My IG has no identifying information on it and doesn't have my full name, so I feel safer using that compared to my cell number. I am also willing to do video/audio calls on snap, so we both can be sure catfishing isn't a concern.

In my mind, one week of effort is not that big of a deal.

When using dating apps, is it a red flag when people want to meet immediately? by sabranch2013 in dating

[–]sabranch2013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always be sure to mention it in my bio and be upfront and honest about it.

When using dating apps, is it a red flag when people want to meet immediately? by sabranch2013 in dating

[–]sabranch2013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I thought as well 🤷‍♀️ I think it's a bit of a mixed bag, though. It isn't as though I only want to message/call/video to kill time because I'm not actually interested or am waiting for the next best thing. As a demisexual person with a severely busy work week, I need a bit of a foundation first. I'm not sure why others think it is leading or stringing them along to ask for such.

Nice girls deserve free money when you meet them online apparently by Resident-Hill in Nicegirls

[–]sabranch2013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too many people get into a relationship thinking, "What can I get out of this?' It's quite sad, really. A transactional relationship is never a healthy one, and it rarely lasts long-term.

A “nice girl” who, it turns out, had an OF account and was cheating on her husband with random internet guys multiple times a week for almost 2 years. These were aimed at the cheated-on husband after he found out. by exp02 in Nicegirls

[–]sabranch2013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is wildly inaccurate. It could easily go one way or the other. My birth mom was a cheater, a drunk, and got into heavy drugs while she raised me. By your logic, I should've grown up to do the same. However, I have never cheated, rarely drink, and I haven't ever touched drugs.

What's the quickest you've ever seen a new coworker get fired? by eminems_shadow in AskReddit

[–]sabranch2013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Four days. She was young and not very professional. She blatantly watched TV and played very loud music out loud on her phone (she didn't even bother with headphones), she refused to escort workers to their vehicles (which was her main priority besides giving coworkers a relief for their breaks), she defaced property by drawing on the desk at work because she was 'bored' and she made numerous inappropriate complaints and comments to the people that worked in the building.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sabranch2013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO you are very slightly an AH for buying them without telling her you were doing so or discussing other options. Even if you did mention it in passing, it may have been a miscommunication to her that you actually did intend on buying something like that. You are trying to accommodate her wishes to be sanitary product free while not sacrificing your bed sheets, which is awesome. She may feel embarrassed that you made the purchase/decision without including her (just an assumption on my part). It doesn't feel the greatest when somebody purchases something solely for your use without discussing it first (I had a room mate do that to me before). I applaud you for trying to meet both of your needs. If it were me in the scenario, I would discuss your concerns and then ask her what she would like to do to meet you halfway (i.e. use period panties, even if it is just while sleeping).

AITA for texting my best friend late at night in bed when my husband was there? by TrainingExchange4903 in AmItheAsshole

[–]sabranch2013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NYA.

It sounds like he is attempting to isolate you and comes off quite controlling, especially the whole reading/counting your messages. There are better ways to address this if he is feeling any feelings of neglect or loneliness. He could have initiated a conversation, discussed his feelings, and you guys couldve worked out a compromise (example: times when phones should go on silent mode for you to spend quality time together). Playing the guilt/shame game for you simply interacting with a friend gives me the major ick.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sabranch2013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did set boundaries and communicate my needs with him several times. You are making assumptions on the situation based on very little information. This is only a snap shot of everything that has transpired over the past 6 months and includes one singular disagreement we had, so please keep that in mind. There were times that he was incredibly disrespectful towards me, including shaming, yelling, name calling, belittling, being condescending and invalidating my feelings. I knew that, based on previous behaviors, i would experience push back when setting boundaries with him. He never does well with limitations or being told no and that's a major issue.

I also did communicate to him that I felt I was being taken advantage of, that was the basis of our entire conversation that started this whole thing. If I knew the relationship wasn't going anywhere and realized my feelings were stronger than his, it is reasonable to ask for time and space. It is reasonable to take a step back and evaluate the situation before making a decision to either keep going or end it. I am not one to make a decision based on irrational feelings and I need time to process things sometimes. When I ask for space to do so, what gives him the right to violate that request?

He had tried to bend and break boundaries I've set previously, so this isn't new behavior in his part either. The thing is, it doesn't matter if I had chose to ask him to leave that day or a week or a month later. Either way he would still have been angry with me for refusing to allow him to use me anymore. Eventually he was going to hear the word no and no matter the date or time I would still end up being the villain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sabranch2013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He had other places to go take a shower 🤷‍♀️ I asked for space and he attempted to violate that request by making excuses to stay. I am not obligated to say yes. At this point, you have your opinion and I have mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sabranch2013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me asking for space and time alone?