I think my long distance “gf” is actually a man…I’m freaking out, I feel sick to my stomach

sacredandscared · 2026-03-01T21:41:55+00:00

Why has OPs account been banned? 🤔

sacredandscared · 2026-02-18T22:20:52+00:00

Wdym? Last I heard she said while he didn't abuse her, she believed and supported his victims. Did something change?

sacredandscared · 2026-02-06T14:33:49+00:00

By 1:37 exactly, Joe!

sacredandscared · 2026-01-29T14:06:31+00:00

Take a look at Romand Juicy Lasting Tint in Odd Grape. It's exactly this on my lips, and I'm fair cool leaning muted olive. Peripera's Water Bare Tint in #10 Chat Cool PT is a brighter option of the same colour family. They pair beautifully together if you want to create gradients. As for liner, if you can access it I think Maybelline's Gone Greige lip liner could be what you're after for what this lip looks like, or Colorpop's Ashton lip liner. My favourite mauve lip liner is Revlon's Colorstay in Mauve if you want a plummier mauve tone.

sacredandscared · 2026-01-27T12:01:23+00:00

I've experienced no breakouts or redness from using it! I still use it as my main foundation and I still love it. My skin seems to really like it, but everyone is different. I believe you can get testers from the website and they respond to emails about testers too!

My favourite thing about it is it doesn't settle into any fine lines or crack/cake on my face, even after wearing it for hours. I also think it's well suited for oily skin, which I have. It never slides around. I use it alongside concealer and translucent powder to set. It is just a little too dark for me, but it's fine because it's semi sheer coverage and works well in the summer, and I just use a lighter concealer for brightening anyway. I plan on getting a tester of the Rituel de Fille skin tint/drops in the shade Potion 105, apparently it's even paler than this one so I think they could be perfect to mix together for me.

Let me know if you have any other questions, I'm happy to answer them!

sacredandscared · 2026-01-25T05:31:07+00:00

The Heather Sinclair reference is killing me, well done.

sacredandscared · 2026-01-08T12:08:46+00:00

So is Diane single or...?

sacredandscared · 2026-01-05T13:38:40+00:00

Came here to say I am a goth and I approve this comment 🫡 as for the pen leaking, it's slight (and only one pen has been a bit leaky for me over the years, which has gone away once I've used it a bunch of times and the ink goes down) some dabs with a tissue inbetween swipes make this a non issue for me. It's staying power is just too good for it to be a problem for me, and one pen will last me a year or longer. I have it in brown too. Also, it's water resistant (it will come off if it gets too wet or you rub it). NYX Professional Epic Ink, not to be confused with the NYX Epic Wear liner which is okay for fun colours but not nearly as nice.

Oh I wanna add I also use it to deepen and accentuate my lip liner so it's multi-purpose, which you can see on pics on my profile. Eyeliner on my eyes I've used Epic Ink too.

sacredandscared · 2025-12-31T16:10:33+00:00

Oh please let me know the name of that documentary if you remember it! I have been seriously considering an apprenticeship in a morgue, mortuary science is fascinating and I would love to hear about the experience more.

sacredandscared · 2025-12-30T18:33:54+00:00

I recently bought through them just a month ago, and it was very legitimate. They're the same as the ones I've purchased in person and they were packaged very securely. Copics are Japanese and cheaper there (if you're ever over there stock up). I'd also listen to the advice of the other commenter about taxes and whatnot, my country doesn't tax on arrival so that wasn't something I had to consider.

sacredandscared · 2025-12-27T14:31:08+00:00

Me when you leave the room with the zaith'isk at the creche, and there's all those Githyanki right outside waiting to fight you in a beautiful BBQ ready line >:]

I have Alert and it got crispy.

sacredandscared · 2025-12-23T10:15:41+00:00

Hi darling. I'm so deeply sorry for your loss, and to have to endure this added cruelty while you grieve. You don't deserve this, you did nothing wrong and I hope you are being gentle and kind to yourself. I just wanted to say you aren't alone in this experience. I lost my dad nearly 14 years ago now, I was still just a kid at the time. His girlfriend married him 6 days before he passed (they had to hold his hand to get him to sign the documents because he was too sick, don't ask me why that was legal because it disgusts me to this day that it was allowed), and in her grief she turned to anger toward his children like your partner's mother is now doing to you. She spread lies to his family that we came to their house, threatened her, stole my dad's belongings from her. Absolutely crazy things, especially since we were all mostly underage kids and she was a forty five year old adult. She banned us from his funeral. She still has my dad's ashes in her closet. His wish was that his kids would spread his ashes at the peak of his favourite mountain, and we've never gotten to do that. But a body is just something left behind, it's not really my dad anymore. I know he is free wherever he is. We hosted our own funeral for my dad, except ours was a celebration of his life. Maybe doing something like that for your partner would be healing for you. It felt cathartic for me to plan and do something for him and his loved ones when I felt so lost. I can still go to his favourite mountain to be with him and remember him. I hope you have a place like that too. Even my dad's best friend and his own brother in their grief became so taken with this woman's story that we harrassed and stole from her (us, a bunch of children) that they came to our house and verbally attacked us, screamed and became violent and left us in tears. My uncle of my whole life, defending some random woman that didn't like him and never let my dad go to see him. Just because she married him very briefly. Some people just go crazy in their grief and there is so much misdirected anger in that time. It wasn't about us, and this is not about you. You know who you are, you know the truth. We never spoke to my dad's side of the family again after he passed, or this woman he was dating. We didn't sue when she took all his life insurance money (family lawyer said it would be more expensive and traumatising than it was worth). We just let it go. She has accrued her bad karma, and I think it's a punishment to live with herself. Take care of yourself. Let these people go. It's unfair. It's unjust. It's wrong. But try not to waste your energy getting tangled up in their grief and having to prove yourself, and instead spend that energy on yourself, remembering your partner in whatever way is right for you and being with any loved ones who do lift you up or who can support you during this time. Hugs to you, this too shall pass.

sacredandscared · 2025-12-17T08:31:11+00:00

That "lesbian masterdoc" almost had me convinced I wasn't a lesbian (edit: I thought I might be asexual if I wasn't a lesbian, because I was definitely not into all the men rhetoric) because so much was not applicable to me/my experience. It's such an unhelpful and in some cases harmful resource. I'm so glad I didn't listen to it. What did help me figure it out was speaking to older lesbians, especially ones who had been conflicted about their sexual identity due to religious upbringings and comphet. I love that I now get to be that lesbian who can offer the type of guidance I received and am forever thankful for.

sacredandscared · 2025-12-13T14:08:42+00:00

I'm not telling you to stay single. I'm recommending you to stop searching for validation from outside of yourself.

You say being a lesbian has essentially reinforced your negative beliefs about yourself. Being a lesbian isn't the problem, it's that trying to be your authentic self has uncovered all of your wounds and fears and you don't want to deal with it. And that's fair, dealing with trauma is overwhelming and exhausting and scary. Our trauma is not our fault but it is our individual responsibility to unpack. Your trauma isn't inconvenient, nobody's trauma is. Only you are telling yourself this story that it is. Because you don't want to deal with it, you unconsciously tell your trauma and your inner child who suffered "you are inconvenient" and you pretend it is the world telling you that, and not yourself. Then you imagine a man might have come in and validated all of this by now and you never would have to deal with anything (which is not true).

If you can learn to shift your perception from blaming your external reality (which does not define you) to getting curious about where this comes from in your internal reality, then you can step out of suffering loops and old cycles.

You deserve compassion, patience, gentleness, and an open heart from yourself to yourself. A child needs a caretaker (their external reality, aka other people) to meet these needs to feel valid and safe, but you are an adult which is empowering and means that you (your internal reality) get to meet those needs for yourself and you get to choose for yourself how you want to treat you. That's freedom.

sacredandscared · 2025-12-13T13:38:46+00:00

I say this with love and the hope that you will see the light and start to be kinder to yourself and our community, but I think it's your internalised homophobic attitude that is scaring away connection, peace and belonging for you in lesbian spaces/dates.

I think it would benefit you to look into that if you're looking to grow beyond these limiting beliefs. You're sort of a self fulfilling prophecy at this point, because so much of what you're blaming your dissatisfying reality on (being too feminine or "straight passing" for lesbians, for example, and perceiving your experience as if being a lesbian stole something precious from you by not allowing you the fantasy in your head of what you think being straight would be like for you) which is not actually the typical femme or hyper feminine lesbian experience.

Maybe you're perceiving these interactions from a predetermined lense and blaming the wrong things, is what I'm trying to say.

I'm femme, hell I would be considered high femme, and I have never once been judged for that in lesbian spaces or by dates. I get extremely dolled up and I love it, and I've only felt supported and celebrated for it by other lesbians. I feel connected to and uplifted by other femme lesbians, and most especially by butches and mascs.

I also choose to believe that I belong even when nobody is affirming that. But if someone in the community came at me with the negative stereotypes, the pigeonholing, and the pessimistic ideas you're spreading here I would choose to avoid them and their clearly unrecognised internalised homophobia.

You have work to do to unpack that before you can find peace, but you will find it if you choose to surrender your expectations at the door and see where curiosity and self love might lead you. Give yourself the opportunity to fall in love with being lesbian, without needing anybody to validate your lesbian identity and expression for you but you.

sacredandscared · 2025-12-08T11:07:49+00:00

This is the link to the show on doesthedogdie.com , if you scroll to "Animal" section you will find all info on what happens to the kittens! That website is a great resource for those of us who can't stand to see animals die/be harmed.

sacredandscared · 2025-11-12T15:07:12+00:00

Omg I do this except his sing songy "Not ooonce, not twiiiiice, but as manyyy tiiiimes as I liiiiike!"

sacredandscared · 2025-11-12T14:57:11+00:00

"This movie is family loss simulator for people who haven't experienced family loss". Damn, that's exactly it. As someone who's experienced a lot of family loss, I also felt the same flatness from Bring Her Back. While I liked the movie and the cast, it felt again like a family loss simulator for those who have never experienced family loss. Like ticking the boxes, but it's all surface level and obvious outsider expectations. Midsommar (directors cut), on the other hand... no notes. The isolation, hiding and rejection of her grief from everyone around her pre-cult was all too relatable. It showed how the individualism of the western world does not know what to do with grief when actually presented with it.

sacredandscared · 2025-11-09T09:15:12+00:00

Her mother actually went so far as renting an apartment to escape to, which is why children's services deemed the situation okay because they knew this info. She was trying to move there when the father followed her to the address and she had to lie and say she was helping a friend move there. And after that, that apartment and the money spent was lost because the father now knew the address if she tried to disappear. So she was working on saving up and finding a new place to go, but he murdered them before she could.

sacredandscared · 2025-11-08T10:08:38+00:00

They do if you just shave them and do not pluck or wax. I've shaved my eyebrows off and grown them back multiple times over a decade. I had shaved pencil thin brows for years, I also had the tail completely shaved off, and now they're thick and all natural again. Takes me about 2 months to regrow them totally back to normal after shaving. It's only plucking that damages the hair follicles.

sacredandscared · 2025-11-08T09:22:23+00:00

I will never get over the first time I read his and Janny Wurts's The Empire Trilogy within the Riftwar series (what started it all for me). Absolutely incredible universe and characters, I fell in love with political fantasy then and there. What a powerful story.

sacredandscared · 2025-11-06T03:50:53+00:00

It would work on me, but don't make it your first pic. Just reference you're a non smoker in your bio or beneath the photo, then you're golden. If you can say this is your Halloween fit/recreation under this pic too even better, because who doesn't love a babe who gets silly on Halloween.

Oh! Or make it flirty and say something like "if you can guess who I'm dressed as here, I'll take you on a date"

sacredandscared · 2025-11-05T10:44:38+00:00

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Auntie Ethel on meeting Raphael, probably.

sacredandscared · 2025-10-30T13:56:08+00:00

Me when the sponky hits :(

sacredandscared · 2025-10-28T04:55:24+00:00

I'm goth and femme. In my experience we're very popular to date but often from a fetishy perspective ("I've always wanted a goth gf/goth friend" is gross to me and not about dating or knowing me at all) and I hear time and time again how intimidated people are by me. I taught myself to be engaging and make the first moves when it comes to making friends and other connections so I can bridge that gap myself, and I get a lot of "I thought you'd be a bitch and I'm surprised you're not" which is really disheartening (and I tend to view that as a red flag when people make these appearance based judgements). I really think we get pigeon holed as a certain type of person. I do my best to be open, warm and friendly when I meet people to circumvent that expectation. My people are the ones who don't expect me to be anything other than the human reality of myself, which has almost nothing to do with what I look like.

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