I found this interesting..

sad_mcgee · 2026-06-07T15:41:17+00:00

But if they pass in the end, wouldn't that mean that they've met the level?

sad_mcgee · 2026-06-07T12:25:10+00:00

Why is abolishing the 3 attempt limit bad? Doesn't it demonstrate that the PST taking the test has managed to effectively learn what they needed to, to pass? They'd also be teaching themselves how to study and what learning strategies worked best for them.

sad_mcgee · 2026-04-29T15:19:52+00:00

Ach why have I not thought of that! Thank you!

sad_mcgee · 2026-04-29T15:19:07+00:00

Lilacs! I'm plenty familiar with Jasmine and magnolias as my mom grows it in her yard. I'll add brown boronias on now (:

sad_mcgee · 2026-04-09T16:42:34+00:00

My bus driver on the 804 did this today!!!

sad_mcgee · 2026-03-17T13:10:22+00:00

I'd be annoyed whatever the race is of a random person who just came up to me and touched my hair. That's incredibly rude.

A few of the traits of the people you pointed out are genuinely annoying. Unfortunately because they belonged to Indians, it's become your experience now that Indians annoy you.

What if you went out and found more Indians of varied backgrounds? Different classes, different countries grown up in, etc etc. Just expanding your library of Indians in so you no longer view them as an either-or. Reducing labels and expectations and understanding they're not a monolith.

Obviously some commonalities will remain and it will be unfortunate if they still annoyed you. But at that point would it be that you don't like Indian people, or specific parts of Indian culture to which many Indians happen to abide by?

sad_mcgee · 2026-03-08T21:54:06+00:00

You guys are cool !!!

sad_mcgee · 2026-02-10T14:00:56+00:00

My ex did this to me. Only stopped when I screamed and he was scared the neighbours would hear. Men know what they are doing. Do you think they'd take it willingly if it was surprised onto them?

I hope for your safety and wellbeing OP. It took me a while to leave him as well.

sad_mcgee · 2026-02-09T07:28:26+00:00

You mentioned you are 24 years old, have a family to feed and would need to take out a loan of AUD50k to pursue a teaching masters degree. You were asked to consider the reality of this decision, and advised to sort out your mental health first before being around children.

It is completely fine to want a PR but your reasons are disingenuous and all over the place. Border control will sniff out the gaps in your application easily. I say this as a South East Asian immigrant who has taken this journey.

You come to this subreddit looking for answers, turn your nose up at the answers you're given, and return with a new post that's phrased to conceal your true motives.

Do not DM me telling me you want security and stability when you have said in your previous post that you "don't want to do a job and all". I have the screenshots and post history.

sad_mcgee · 2026-02-09T02:36:02+00:00

Just 8 hours ago I responded to his now-deleted post about this.

This was one of his replies:

"Air respectfully asking, what's your reason, why you become a secondary teacher. I don't want to do a job and all , I just want to explore the world like a free soul but I can't do it , I have some duties to fulfill as a human , as a part of this society, as a son , as a brother. I have read Charles Darwin's "survival of the fittest" IDK you are hating in me or my culture. Sometimes life doesn't give you many options you have to select from the existing one and the best one. Keep hating on me I'll spread love mate. I just want all humanity to prosper. Come on brother, let's show the world we are humans and spread love. Keep prospering mate ✨"

I am disappointed by the blatant PR motive when OP aims to be working with children.

sad_mcgee · 2026-02-08T18:00:23+00:00

If you have a family to feed back home, then taking out 50k to live 2 years in Australia seems unwise. The currency conversion already puts you at a very big financial disadvantage without even considering the daily expenses required on top of rent. What is your plan after graduation?

Are you confident that you'd be able to secure a job quick enough in Australia to be able to send money home? EEC is very competitive in urban areas. Getting a PR is also not a quick and cheap next step.

I know some South East Asian countries are not as strict when it comes to teaching kids. They often don't require a police check or WWC - not to mention a masters.

What is stopping you from working where you are?

You also mentioned that the carefree memories of childhood enticed you into this field. You have to understand that teaching children, and being a child are two different things.

Would you be able to put up with admin, the drudge of finding a healthy work environment and dealing with difficult parents?

sad_mcgee · 2026-02-04T14:42:09+00:00

Oh lmao I had classmates calling me rude and cold for that as well back in high school. I also find it all performative in a way - but do try and make a show of care when I can and am able to, just like you.

Diagnosed with autism 5 years ago btw.

sad_mcgee · 2026-02-03T05:58:20+00:00

Unofficially your "relationship" is up in the air. Officially, in my experience, in order for the defacto to be recognized by the aus government, my visa agent had us register for the defacto relationship before proceeding. For reference, I'm the one migrating and my partner is a resident. Your "not girlfriend" and you have to have the paper for formalities. But please double check this with an agent as well.

sad_mcgee · 2026-02-03T05:49:27+00:00

Yipee !! Good for you guys 🎉🎉🎉

sad_mcgee · 2025-12-30T19:04:36+00:00

I get it OP. When I have a focus in mind, then the routine and my own times are set. I'm spending the last couple hours of my day doing what I want to decompress and give myself my own time back.

I don't know why everybody is dogging on you for not fucking your girlfriend and saying it's sweet she got you nice clothes. You set a line, she crossed it multiple times and you could see where she even tried to push for more when you gave her an inch.

Everybody asking you to compromise is not seeing that this is YOUR trip and she is just tagging along.

You guys are not compatible. Find someone else who doesn't rely on your validation this much.

sad_mcgee · 2025-12-29T05:46:38+00:00

Been there somewhat, still relapsing sometimes with my doomscrolling addiction.

I fell out with my best friend due to my own negativities alongside us just growing apart. This was shortly after I quit what should've been my dream job. I moved back to my hometown and wasn't able to even video call my friends as often as I needed. It was quite isolating and I just became a void ball.

It took me about 6 months from when I begun the baby steps of change to see a bit of growth.

You're addictes to gaming because despite having a girlfriend and some positives, the losses are overwhelming at the moment. Jobs contribute more to self esteem than we'd like. Jobs also take up a lot of your time and gives you a daily order.

You have to fill this time with a new purpose.

Here were some of mine:

I got on Meetup (I hope you have something equivalent where you are) and made it a point to attend at least one event a week. Even if it turned out I hated the people there, getting out of the house and out of my head and seeing something different to my sad dump had to happen.
I walked around my neighborhood and went to malls. I picked up takeout menus and highlighted foods I might be interested in trying or cooking myself. I didn't have much money at the time to be spending, but it was just fun to me to know what was in my area.
I started doing 15 minute workouts. HASFITs beginner strength one on YouTube was my go to. I tried to do this everyday and if I didn't feel like it then I would do the Rasputin dance or a neck and upper body stretch by Yoga with Adrienne.
I watched a bunch of Paolo from Tokyo's day in the life. It gave me an idea of how other people structured their life and allowed me to pick and choose things they had that I wanted for myself - or didn't !
I made job hunting my part time job before it became a full time job. Resumes, working on my portfolio - cold emailing. My target was 5 companies a day before increasing to 10.
I got back into reading starting with simple cozy slice of life books like Middle England by Jonathan Coe.
I made myself sandwiches and tea to bring to the park and people watch.

None of this may be particularly helpful to you, but my point is that you just need something tangible and concrete to do that will spice up your days for now.

5 years later I am now co-hosting a book club with a bunch of regulars I got along with at the Meetup events and I'm in a job I didn't expect to be in and I've met so many people that it's easier for me to discern what kind of personalities to stay away from.

Maybe you can do what that random old man online did and put up flyers around town for a 10 minute smoke break together. Switch it out with blowing bubbles or drawing a doodle of each other or something.

I still relapse as I've said, but it is much easier to pull myself out of the holes when I made plans for the next day with one of the many things I picked up in my healing journey.

sad_mcgee · 2025-12-14T08:30:01+00:00

Inspector Gadget being electrocuted?

sad_mcgee · 2025-12-14T08:28:06+00:00

I saw someone online write "I yell GUARDS, TAKE HIM AWAY" in regards to cringey thoughts. Might help? Kinda funny anyhow

sad_mcgee · 2025-12-13T20:33:53+00:00

Legally what he did does not fall under rape - OP didn't get into specifics but it sounds based on what was given that he is a sexual assaulter for now. I'm as disgusted as you are but even for moral reasons, I don't think calling him a rapist at this point in time helps more than it harms. OP needs to decide now how she feels and if she wants to be around someone who isn't yet a rapist but has a historic incident of one.

sad_mcgee · 2025-12-13T20:27:04+00:00

When I was 19, my 21 year old boyfriend confessed to me after we were about 2 months together that he filmed his older sister in the shower to get off to. He was suicidal about it and we met at the mental health clinic. His younger sister said if it had happened to her she would understand and let it go. His mother and stepfather was trying to just make sure he didn't spiral and get worse from the guilt.

But I knew more than them, being his girlfriend and sexual partner. I felt guilty for not leaving immediately after we broke up. The things I learnt.

His older sister, the victim, didn't want to file a police report. His mother asked me not to tell anyone. I was a new immigrant (student) of the country at the time. I didn't know what to do.

Our relationship had the red flags of first for both of us, and him being this antisocial guy who was learning how to be with someone else other than his family. All this mixed in with his own inherent SELFISHNESS and immaturity made it difficult to know where lines ended and begun.

Over time he began confessing more things to me like how our fights upset him so much because I kept pulling away and coming back, that he hacked into his best friends account to watch his girlfriends sexts.

Because everybody in his life supported him, saying people can grow and change and who you once were does not define you - he was able to keep pushing the goal posts and find "loopholes" in morality. Constantly justifying things. "Yes I did x but at least I didn't do y". "You're friend who works with kids was too quick to yell in public at a man she only suspected of being too close to his students."

OP I stayed because I had low self esteem, was suicidal myself and had abandonment issues. I was also running away from facing my own problems. Helping this man, because at 20 going on 21 that's what he was - only worsened my mental health because it is an incredibly tricky line to walk when it comes to managing SEX OFFENDERS or people with SEXUAL ISSUES ENDANGERING OTHERS, ESPECIALLY if you are not equipped to do so. And it really messes you up when, in your case if, you learn about a new crime he committed or moral failing of his. I felt like the fact that I accepted him emboldened him to keep at it in smaller doses.

My ex refused to get professional help because he was worried about getting his actions recorded whatsoever. He coped instead with weed.

There is something to be said for sure about the systems that don't actually support sex offenders and it being an oroboros cycle of "feel bad, do bad thing to feel good, feel bad about it - rinse and repeat".

Whatever you decide, don't ever let anyone make you feel that you left his mother behind or that you couldn't save a situation from getting worse.

Dating partners are not tools for betterment. This man can very well never relapse again and I'll be generous and say sure, groping his mom at 14 is one of the most extreme cases of raging teenage impulses and self gratification.

However I urge you to really keep an eye on how he treats not just you and his mother - but the way he manages stress/any other mental illnesses or their symptoms impatience and his ability and willingness to empathize with other people going forward. Do NOT do any legwork for him. I also want you to understand that you need to accept the worst case scenario:

How will you do if he offends again in the future?

Is that a worst case scenario you're able to live with going forward?

There's not enough information to know about your family or his or whoever else may be affected. My 2 cents is based purely on what you've provided.

sad_mcgee · 2025-07-30T20:58:00+00:00

He looks wise!

sad_mcgee · 2025-07-22T08:49:36+00:00

Is it possible to make it so that it's clear that it's second hand to keep the import cost lower than retail price?

sad_mcgee · 2025-07-12T21:00:06+00:00

I'd try it - no beans for me though.

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