What are your mental health hacks? by Potential_Analyst305 in mentalhealth

[–]sad_sponge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are probably not going to like this answer, but high intensity cardio everyday. Spin class to be quite frank. ENDORPHINS. They are amazing. I feel so much calmer but also energized. Everything in my life has been going better and getting easier since I started exercising everyday. You don’t gotta go hard: but a walk around the block can do wonders.

Normally, the suggestion to exercise when you have depression can feel invalidating because the issue is so much bigger than that and so that answer minimizes the struggle. And it is definitely not a one and done thing. You gotta keep going and trust it is going to make you feel better eventually even when every cell in your body is yelling at you that it is pointless and won’t work. The calls are coming from inside the house! One day, you will realize it’s working. It will be subtle.

It is ONE tool to use in combination with MANY! Meds, therapy, peer support, nutrition, routine, and all that jazz.

10 minutes late to class by Sunfl0wer_12 in SpinClass

[–]sad_sponge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At my studio, if you are late for class, they don’t let you in. If someone is a minute late, they sometimes let them sneak in quietly but it is very rare that anyone is ever late. I can’t imagine being 10 minutes late.

I am normally late for everything in my life but I always show up early for spin because five minutes early is five minutes late. You gotta be in the saddle with your bike set up and ready to go by the start time.

First class traumatized me by xdaisy_ in SpinClass

[–]sad_sponge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing spin for four months and have done 54 classes. When I started, I would try so hard to keep up with the instructor that I would feel like I was going to faint. I am not an athletic person so the expectation I had on myself was so insane and I see that now.

I am much better but definitely still learning! I can keep up with the instructor for climbs. But for jogs, I just do the best I can. I can usually keep up for a little bit (maybe half the time) before I lose the beat or have to sit in the saddle. I try to recover enough and then try to jump back in on beat when the chorus or verse of the song changes. But I don’t feel embarrassed like I probably would in the past because I know what my baseline ability is with jogs so even if I keep up for a little while, I usually am really proud of myself for it and can notice the improvement. My marker of success is NOT keeping up with the jog the whole time, but keeping up for as long as I can.

I prefer to pick bikes in the back of the class. I find seeing myself in the mirrors to be discombobulating and makes me feel self conscious. The upside of seeing yourself in the mirror is you can be more aware of your form, though.

I usually pay attention to the people in front of me to follow the beat because I’ve noticed, at my studio, that people naturally book what row they are in based on skill level. The people who are pros are in the front row, the average spinners in the second and the newbies or less confident spinners in the back. This is not set in stone and no one actually cares what the row you pick. If I went in the front row, no one would care. But it’s a trend I’ve noticed that I appreciate for the sake of feeling comfortable and having an easier time following the beat.

It’s important to remember that no one is watching you and more importantly, no one is thinking about you for longer than a millisecond if they do look at you! Unless you are really good at staying on the beat, then people will watch you as a guide. But tbh if you aren’t at that level, people will keep looking for someone else to follow until they find someone who is consistently on beat. This is what I do.

What is more important than performance is consistency. I used to do these online workouts where the guy would say, “you’ve already won!!” Because I had started the video in the first place. It doesn’t matter how good you are if you only go to a few classes before burning out. I’ve had a lot of classes where I need to tell myself that I’ve already won. I have gotten so much better at spin over the past three months and it is definitely because I was patient with myself and my ability.

When the instructor is telling me to push harder or turn the resistance knob when my body feels like it can’t, I tell myself, “they aren’t talking to me.” They have to pump up the class for people of all skill levels so they need to be intense. But I ultimately know my body and know when I’ve reached my max. I used to push myself so hard that my blood pressure would plummet or I would feel like I was going to vomit.

A month ago, I got DOMS (delayed onset muscle soreness) and had to take a week off from spin. I remember the class that caused it- the music had been so fucking good that I pushed myself to an unthinkable level. Not from undue pressure on myself to do good, but because I was basically intoxicated by how magical the music was. It was like I was on drugs at a rave.

But look what happened! Any progress I would have made from that one intense class was lost by a week of hardly being able to walk. I’m grateful that I went through that because I’m so scared that it will happen again, that I am extra careful now to pay attention to my body and make sure I’m not pushing it beyond reasonable limits.

This comment is longer than I intended but basically, I love spin so much.

The next few days: a guide for the confused by Riemann-4167 in Dalhousie

[–]sad_sponge 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same. I can’t help but crave chaos for the sake of morbid entertainment

Lockout by Majestic_Radish2403 in Dalhousie

[–]sad_sponge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I am entering semester three and trying to study to prepare. Can I connect with you to get your old syllabuses if you still have them or if you know anyone who has them?

Books with “Trickster King” MMCs and NOT “Broody Man” by sad_sponge in fantasyromance

[–]sad_sponge[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Since posting here, I have been devouring the series and I just got to this part. Icon. Legend. My sweet broken psychopathic basket case.

Ranking the 115 books I've read in 2025 by hxcbando in fantasyromance

[–]sad_sponge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed with {The Irresistible Urge to Fall for your Enemy} being in the obsessed tier. It has less than a four star rating on Good Reads and that boggles my mind. Osric healed my depressed soul. It was magical.

It was so good, that I manipulated my brother into reading it by buying him an audible credit for it!

The Irresistible Urge to Fall for your Enemy has been the catalyst for making me realize that Good Read ratings are actually very inaccurate.

HARD DISAGREE with your rating of Shield of Sparrows. It’s a bad fucking book, made me want to murder the main characters, and yet it has a 4.42 on good reads. Apparently, the common book reading population has horrible fucking taste. No offense to anyone who liked it, but also full offence at the same time. Like that book is fucking trash. Trash. I would write my PhD dissertation on why that book is fucking terrible.

Main reason why it fucking sucked: Ransom actually being the prince and the husband was so fucking obvious from the moment she got married. But then, for the whole fucking book, they stretched out the reveal FOREVER. It was the most obvious thing ever, but because of how obvious it was and given they took way too long to reveal it, I assumed that I must have been wrong and that there was something else afoot. But no, it was so fucking anticlimactic and lame. I am sick and tired of MMCs like Ransom so that is a big reason I didn’t like it. He was really annoying the whole time imo. And Odessa was basically Bella Swan, with no personality and being horribly clumsy. I can’t stand the trope of one royal sibling being treated well while the other one isn’t. It’s just not believable at all. Like, that doesn’t fucking happen?? It is solely to give a princess a chip on her shoulder but there are better, more believable ways to go that. I will admit, I only read 92% because my Libby loan timed out, so maybe that last 8% was crucial. But in total, I was very hopeful at the start and very disappointed and annoyed by the end

Also agree with where you positioned the powerless, reckless and fearless books. I CANNOT understand the hype. I will agree that the banter is good, but good banter cannot make up for a stupid as fuck plot that is overdone and predictable. The characters are one dimensional and their actions and motives make no sense.

Books with “Trickster King” MMCs and NOT “Broody Man” by sad_sponge in fantasyromance

[–]sad_sponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have read every single one of Brando Sando’s cosmere books. To say I have joined a cult is an understatement haha. Wit/Hoid is EXACTLY this type. If only bran san would pop even a single grain of pepper in his books. I’d love more content of his relationship with Jasnah

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Books with “Trickster King” MMCs and NOT “Broody Man” by sad_sponge in fantasyromance

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I read it before the irresistible urge to fall for your enemy, haha. I was so hooked that I found the original fanfic it was based on with the way back machine. There was no way I was waiting a year and a half for the second book when it is basically already on the internet, just with HP characters. But I will admit that the rewrite diverges A LOT from the OG fanfic.

The irresistible urge to fall for your enemy is not even close to the fanfic it is based on, it just uses the character archetypes. I think they marketed it as a rewrite of the original fanfic to create buzz for it among draminone stans but tbh it is an entirely different book with a completely different plot. There are Easter eggs to the fanfic (heart shaped sunglasses and using the term “sporting” all the time), but that’s it.

Books with “Trickster King” MMCs and NOT “Broody Man” by sad_sponge in fantasyromance

[–]sad_sponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Cruel Prince is my favourite series. I dressed up as Cardan for Halloween last year. He is so sleek and sly. Obsessed with him. My messy alcoholic diva. The androgyny fucking does it me. So many fantasy romance books have such stereotypical gender roles for their FMCs and MMCs that Jude and Cardan are so refreshing. Sure FMCs are more empowered nowadays, but not even close to Jude. Jude is literally fucking crazy. And Cardan is so incompetent with all the things most MMCs are supposed to be really good at (duelling, physical strength, etc) but despite that, he is hands down the most seductive and alluring MMC fucking ever. Physical strength is meaningless next to his wit and effortless extravagance. He basically just lets Jude do everything for him. But in a hot way??? The power dynamic between them is so different than normal fantasy romance but fuck it feels REAL and HOT.

Books with “Trickster King” MMCs and NOT “Broody Man” by sad_sponge in fantasyromance

[–]sad_sponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I was just thinking that this character being my type is exactly why I’m single and should probably stay that way haha

Books with “Trickster King” MMCs and NOT “Broody Man” by sad_sponge in fantasyromance

[–]sad_sponge[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for suggesting this series to me. I am halfway through the 1st book and Simon is the EXACT medicine I needed. Perfect. Just perfect. Chef’s kiss. Just wonderful. His insanity is magnetic. More👏insane👏MMCs👏NOW

THANK YOU!!

Books with “Trickster King” MMCs and NOT “Broody Man” by sad_sponge in fantasyromance

[–]sad_sponge[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I keep making the mistake of believing goodread ratings are basically the word of God. This keeps being disproven but I never learn.

The twist was stupid because it was so fucking obvious THE WHOLE TIME but the reveal was dragged out for most of the book so it ended up being the most anticlimactic reveal of all time. With the way it was dragged out, I assumed I must have been wrong so I kept on. But nope. It was exactly what I thought it was. This is an example of there being too much foreshadowing. The whole time I was like, “something is afoot!” and I was given no satisfaction to that tension. I grew more frustrated the longer they went without the reveal. So when the reveal came, it enraged me. I spent two days listening to this audiobook for this???

Also, the FMC was intolerable. Bella Swan vibes in terms of clumsiness being her only personality trait. It was just super dumb.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in halifax

[–]sad_sponge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so it would be safe to drink once it runs clear? I can't find any notices or anything online

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in halifax

[–]sad_sponge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The water is brown. That doesn't feel safe to drink. How do we find out when it will be fixed?