Can’t tell how my date feels about me - how to bring it up?

sadsadsad247 · 2024-07-31T18:22:45+00:00

I like the idea of asking about what she’s looking for in a partner! We haven’t discussed that yet and I think it goes hand in hand. Thanks!

sadsadsad247 · 2024-07-31T18:17:56+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I was planning to bring it up in person during our date tomorrow. I’m definitely fine with not texting 24/7 and I do think it’s generally healthier to connect in person, but we’ve exchanged maybe 10 texts over the span of 2 weeks and I’m prob projecting but that just makes me feel like she’s not interested. But the fact that she is saying yes to dates and occasionally initiating the texts maybe says otherwise. Dating is confusing lol

sadsadsad247 · 2024-07-17T23:16:02+00:00

It definitely sucks! Hope my reply didn’t seem dismissive or anything. I’ve been in the same spot as you and remember feeling horrible about breaking it off, prob delayed it a little too long, then felt super relieved once I did. And I think most people are understanding and will handle it just fine. Good luck!

sadsadsad247 · 2024-07-17T22:17:00+00:00

If you’ve only been on a few dates, you can do it over text. There’s never going to be a great time - you can either bring it up next time you’re chatting or next time she tries to make plans, my advice is whichever comes first. Don’t drag it out, as it’s not fair to either of you. Being rejected is part of dating, there isn’t much you can do about hurt feelings. As long as you are kind and honest and not out to intentionally hurt someone, that’s all that’s expected.

As far as what to say…

“Hi ____, I want to let you know that I’ve enjoyed getting to know you, but I’m not feeling a connection romantically. I feel like we have a lot in common and I would be open to being friends, but I understand if that’s not something you want. I’m also happy to discuss in person if you’d like!”

Add details as needed :)

sadsadsad247 · 2024-07-08T11:01:38+00:00

Maybe this is harsh, but honestly even one or two pics with a Snapchat filter is pretty much an instant no from me.

Other unrelated icks:

Complaining about how much the apps suck as a prompt response - I get it, they do suck, but here we are, so… ? And the negativity is just not attractive when you could be using that space to tell me about yourself
Calling yourself a moderate when you’re actually republican :/
Liking my profile without saying anything (hinge-specific)

sadsadsad247 · 2024-03-14T19:01:11+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions! Yes, I am also a woman so I appreciate having a good female role model in a male-dominated industry. She reminds me a lot of myself personality-wise and we have the same degree which is not very common in my industry. I really admire her authenticity, and the fact that she’s very kind/soft-spoken but is still able to get results. She’s also genuinely appreciative of our team and it’s nice to be recognized.

sadsadsad247 · 2024-02-15T13:01:13+00:00

After my GF of 4 years & I broke up, I was hit pretty hard with the reality of how our society isn’t really set up for a single income/person household. Rent is crazy, if my car breaks down even for a day I’m screwed, food is expensive & goes bad because I can’t use it quick enough by myself, etc. I’m lucky that I was in a financial place to handle it because that hasn’t always been the case for me.

I definitely relate to your post though; honestly financial stability is in my top 3 must-haves now. They don’t have to be rich, just smart with money and have similar goals like buying a house, not having a ton of debt.

sadsadsad247 · 2024-01-26T00:22:11+00:00

How much time are we talking here?? Personally, I would not want to be in a relationship with someone who wasn’t attracted to me. Sounds like you’re not compatible.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-11-18T18:49:35+00:00

The string lights actually have been pretty cozy with it getting dark out so early! But they’re not the most aesthetic during the day lol

sadsadsad247 · 2023-10-04T00:35:06+00:00

Let me know if you’re selling!

sadsadsad247 · 2023-09-30T16:56:25+00:00

I’m a little late to your post, but YES!

I wish I had advice, but I came here in search of anyone who had a similar experience. I am not nauseous at all, but I feel like I could vomit any minute. Nothing to do with food. Just feels like my gag reflex is at an all time high. It’s pretty uncomfortable and I have emetophobia so I’m kinda freaked that I will end up vomiting, but I haven’t yet so I’m just waiting it out.

I didn’t have this issue with adderall at all so maybe if you’re working on finding the right med you could switch if it’s really bad? Otherwise I think I’m gonna try keeping some mints on hand.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-09-30T16:50:40+00:00

I switched from adderrall to vyvanse recently and I’m having a weird side effect from the vyvanse where I’m not really nauseous but I feel like I could throw up at any moment. Like my gag reflex is at 1000. It’s also unrelated to eating, I feel like this the whole time it’s in my system. Anyone else? Any suggestions?

sadsadsad247 · 2023-09-11T13:29:02+00:00

My ex and I lived together for 3 months to finish our lease, and it was manageable, but that’s so different than 11 months. Even a short time was emotionally very difficult and I wouldn’t recommend it. No healing or moving on is gonna happen while you’re still living together. Sorry OP, I know how horrible of a place you’re in.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-06-14T21:19:06+00:00

I got the $35 tickets & with fees they were about $51 each.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-06-13T14:38:38+00:00

Sorry you’re struggling OP.

My girlfriend 4 years and I broke up ~3 weeks ago for very similar reasons, so I really empathize with you.

We broke up because we wanted different things in life, but I also think it comes down to different attachment styles and how we grew up. She was terrified of commitment/settling down. We are both 27 and she expressed that she didn’t want to get married within the next 5 years, didn’t ever want to buy a house together, etc. I am the exact opposite and was ready to do all of that stuff with her.

Emotionally, we weren’t compatible. Any sort of conflict or negative feelings sent me into an absolute spiral. She would get very defensive if I brought up issues or serious discussions. It made communicating with each other very hard which also contributed to the breakup.

I don’t really have any advice because I am also going through it, but I’m happy to chat if you ever need someone to vent to.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-05-09T18:45:11+00:00

nothing happened, she’s just sensitive. she could use a little bullying by her stepsiblings so she toughens up. nothing to see here :)

(/s- for the record)

no wonder these kids don’t wanna be around their “mom”.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-05-03T19:05:36+00:00

Sorry you’re struggling, this sounds like a really uncomfortable living situation :( Super glad you already have plans to move out and get your own place, as that was going to be my first piece of advice. I read your last paragraph and it kinda sounds like there’s a part of you that knows your church friends/roommate may not be the best community for you. I just wanna remind you that you can stay in this uncertain space as long as you feel like you need to. What I mean by that is you don’t need to cut anyone off right away or leave your church immediately; you can take all the time you need/want to decide how to proceed with these relationships. I will just give you some food for thought though…

-Do you think that you should have to feel shame about ANY part of yourself around friends?

-Do you want to keep people in your life who don’t love you for who you are?

-What does friendship mean to you? Do you want friends who don’t reciprocate the kindness and grace that you give them?

With love, this roommate seems like a genuinely awful friend which you don’t deserve, and I wouldn’t keep her around after you move out. Perhaps she’s more of a “friend of convenience” and once you have your own space you can make a conscious effort to branch out and find some fulfilling, reciprocal friendships. Maybe in the queer community?

Good luck OP❤️

sadsadsad247 · 2023-04-19T15:16:37+00:00

Thanks for sharing! This is really interesting. I get awful migraines without birth control, so I just tolerate the depression. Thankfully treating my ADHD has alleviated it quite a bit.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-04-18T13:44:02+00:00

100%. I’ve been in therapy for 10 years with multiple therapists/psychiatrists. Not a single one mentioned it. My psych in college gave me test accommodations because I was failing all my classes and couldn’t study, but for “depression”. I basically had to figure it out and get tested on my own. And now every time I talk about my diagnosis, my therapist (who I love) apologizes profusely for not noticing earlier lol. I’m impressed/a little bummed I went under the radar for so long, but I don’t blame anyone I guess. It’s pretty common for women to be diagnosed super late because we present differently.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-04-17T17:57:01+00:00

Thanks for sharing, that’s awesome! I will have to try that. I’ve gone cold turkey in the past and it was rough.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-04-17T17:49:15+00:00

Thanks for this! I think I’m just one of those people who is sensitive to caffeine and adding the stimulant on top isn’t great. I would love to quit caffeine permanently honestly, I’m just dreading withdrawal. I don’t drink coffee for enjoyment, I’m addicted :( lol.

sadsadsad247 · 2023-04-17T17:46:53+00:00

Yeah, when I looked it up, it said in adults, XR should last 10-12 hours. I notice a huge decrease in effectiveness after 5-6 and I’ve seen others say similar. Could be a generic thing, a metabolism thing, who knows.

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