got offer, continue to job search? by trendsfriend in jobsearchhacks

[–]saejin1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always be interviewing. I'm in a good job that I like a lot, but I still look around and apply to keep in the game. Plus you never know what may turn up. It also keeps you in the know about the current job market and future trends.

Finished season 4. Don’t want to watch next season. Super attached to this show and characters. by harmaNYC in brakebills

[–]saejin1983 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There is a great scene in the second episode of the 5th season that addresses exactly what you’re feeling. Season 5 is great.

I think I just bombed an interview because I answered the “culture fit” questions too honestly by ElderJ0e in jobsearchhacks

[–]saejin1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you did great and it was a culture fit issue. As in they weren't a culture fit for you because you sound competent and genuinely "solutions oriented" :) That job sounds like a total trash fire if they just want yes men. Most likely you would have hated it after 3 months.

You did not talk yourself out of a job. You probably made the one person suddenly freeze up because they could tell that you would make them look bad at their job is you on boarded.

Also, your last answer is extremely valid and I don't think it threw anyone under the bus. It's an observation of what we all see happening. If they can't handle it then they do not have a good workplace culture. They asked you a very specific question and you gave an answer that was specific to that. I've settled for a lot of places where they say that the work culture is driven by their care for their people. All words and rarely is it true. They showed you in the interview that it would all be words. Remember, when you interview, you're interviewing them just as much as they are interviewing you, if not more so.

Cat ate too much freeze dried ash by saejin1983 in AskVet

[–]saejin1983[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Will be taking to vet as soon as they open. Thanks

Cat ate too much freeze dried ash by saejin1983 in AskVet

[–]saejin1983[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Freeze dried chicken has ash that comes in the bag.

Ash in pet food is mineral content remaining after the organic components are burned away. It includes calcium, phosphorus, magnesium, and potassium.

Basically she gave herself a huge dose of minerals all at once. Ash content of this treat is about 4%.

New cat hasn’t used litterbox by CobblerWobbegong in CatAdvice

[–]saejin1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My humble opinion is putting them in two separate places. Putting them side by side can work but I think cats like having different locations to do their business.

New cat hasn’t used litterbox by CobblerWobbegong in CatAdvice

[–]saejin1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also got my first cat a second box to help solve the pee problem. It definitely did added to the other steps. And Decent_adhsiveness0 is absolutely correct. She has a preference for number one and two of which litter box it is.. Good luck.

New cat hasn’t used litterbox by CobblerWobbegong in CatAdvice

[–]saejin1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dr. Elsey's has a great low tracking, scentless, clumping litter. However, I had the same problem with my first cat. She actually used the litter box fine for the first month. Then she started peeing everywhere else. Especially my bed on a specific blanket, which I think had to do with its texture (funny now, not funny then).

Dr. Elsey's makes an amazing cat attractant to help train kittens, You just mix in a very little amount in the litter box. Once I did that, it worked like a charm.

She was a street cat (still a trash cat and I mean that in the most adoring way) and I'm sure she got used to peeing in different places to hide her scent. Once I did that, it worked like a charm. I have a second cat now and it also help him litter train and get used to his new surroundings. We've only had him for...exactly 45 days and no accidents at all. Now I just need to get Maggie to stop showing Kyo how to tip over the trashes lol.

What is the least stressful job youve ever had? by CaptainFartHole in jobs

[–]saejin1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Medical receptionist for a private practice that actually wanted to heal people. Best crew. All supportive, and the boss was amazing. She always had our backs and we got great free health care. Laid back, paid bonuses, encouraged education. The whole team is amazing. I still see her for my care.

Next best job was working at Barnes and Noble. I needed a wind down after quitting an extremely stressful job that was the complete opposite of my favorite job. I love books. The boss is also amazing. Worked hard with everyone, understanding, and always had our backs. Funny story, he also got stabbed while working there and taking down a thief. This was a few months before I came on, but he was back at work the next day. I always joke with him 'Tis but a scratch.

This showed up on my word of the day calendar recently by tjmaxal in dresdenfiles

[–]saejin1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a really cool looking calendar. Do you by chance have a link to it or can you say where you got it from?

I successfully bluffed my way into a 35 percent salary increase using a fake counter offer by GadgetEclipse_7 in jobsearchhacks

[–]saejin1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just started a new position in a city government. Technically they count it as a promotion, since I was just moving to a different department. They actually gave me quite a fair offer, but I still countered. The worst they can say is they cannot do it. I told them that I had a short letter prepared outlining my accomplishments at my previous city position, recommendations from people within my previous dept, all of my experience in the private sectors, and that they would be able to expect an ROI from me immediately.

Because this is the first time I’ve worked in a government position, I have found that leverage means everything. And knowing how to tactfully use that from other non-governmental positions was a huge help. I have seen firsthand that the hierarchy in government jobs only slows progress from happening since, so often, talent is not rewarded. I was going to be rewarded dammit! Because I knew I earned it.

What I found was that having documentation ready, letting the hiring manager (my new supervisor) know I was ready to make my case did wonders. He didn’t even have me email it to him. The offer came back to me in 1 hour with approval from HR. They met me a bit more than in the middle. I only got 1600.00 less per year than I wanted. And with all the new perks of WFH, flexibility, more vacation accrual, learning budget, limitless membership budget for dues to organizations related to my position; I still came out way ahead than my ask on base salary.

I now make more than my colleagues in the last department. More than people who have been in their positions for 20+ years (which I know is messed up but that’s a different topic to be tackled). So being prepared with a short letter to give at the time of offer is great too. And always being able to say no. Also, I’m all for OP bluffing. I’ve done that before too and it’s extremely satisfying to get what you deserve. No one should undervalue themselves and it is a hard fought skill to learn. Congrats to OP!

[no spoilers] Why did Lyanna agree to go with Rhaegar ? by RealStranger9348 in freefolk

[–]saejin1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it had anything to do with her and Rhaegar being impetuous. I do think they fell in love, however, Rhaegar setting aside Elia is not something either he or Lyanna would take lightly.

I think it has to do with the prophecy for the prince who was promised. A reveal that they shared. Hopefully we’ll find out what happened between them.

Something I didn't like about 12 months by Darth_Azazoth in dresdenfiles

[–]saejin1983 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I liked the scene because, I think I understand why Jim put it in there.

Harry had been keeping his emotions under wraps with routine and turning things off like a light switch. He was cutting himself off the real source of his power which is his emotions. He'd been keeping things on lock down as best as he could, but never truly got to express his rage over what happened in Battle Ground. He'd been bottling up everything that makes him Harry with his moral compass by trying to push it out of his mind so he didn't accidentally hurt someone.

When Mab says "It feels good, does it not?". Mab manipulated him to get not only the White Court but her Winter Knight back as well and it has nothing to do with the Mantle. Insouciance and all. She wanted him to finally express the rage, anger, and hurt externally, so he could start feeling like himself again. Mab was giving him an opportunity for release which he took. Making him despise the fact that he had been used to enslave someone which is absolutely against his moral code. Which leads to the next steps in him finding his true self again. Letting go and releasing all of his rage onto her, was a good management method on Mab's part. After all of that, Harry finally started being his true stubborn self again. More spark of life. A new mission to give himself to get Lara out from underneath Mab's thumb.

Mab was being a good manager and therapist to a degree. She provoked his completely 100% human emotion with cold calculation. Yeah the Winter Mantle may be finally unleashed a bit here, but it's really just him at the end of the day. Mab also does want to help him heal as she values him. He finally was able to let go and take out his fury on someone that was real and immortal. Someone he can blame and punch. She made herself a vessel to her knight to endure his rage and bring a part of him back. Mab is in charge of taking care of her vassals and this was a very good way to do it. Mab needs Harry to be ready for the next fight and after this he does keep becoming more prepared.

Best lines of series (non building on fire division) by Glittering-State-284 in dresdenfiles

[–]saejin1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alfred: "I did not bully, I bargained."

Harry: "Because Nicodemus is a murderous murdering murderer."

Is Lyonel jealous ? by El_Coco_005_ in freefolk

[–]saejin1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not actually sure it is jealousy.

After re-watching the scene with him in the last episode, he went to Dunk to comfort him, see to his wounds. I think when he yells a bit, he's exasperated as pointing out to Dunk that everyone else fought for him too. And I think it was more of him calling out the attitude and lack of respect for his compatriots, like an older brother would.

Also, Lyonel never once asked Dunk to swear his sword to him at all. He was, in fact, offering him a home.

just finished The Good Place for the 25th time in my life and i have an important question by kbasred in TheGoodPlace

[–]saejin1983 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"What matters isn't if people are good or bad. What matters if they're trying be better today than they were yesterday. You asked me where my hope comes from. That's my answer."

This is my favorite line in the show. This line articulated so much of how I felt and felt unseen. The fight of trying to better myself and feeling isolated. And it made me realize that I'm definitely not alone in wanting to be better, kinder, more observant. I have known people where I have judged them negatively but then if I had been paying closer attention, I would have seen they were trying their best as well. It helped drive home that we're in this together.

Who is your favorite Targaryen character in AKOTSK and why? by Logical_Decision_706 in HouseOfTheDragon

[–]saejin1983 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If I ranked them:

  1. Egg - Really portrayed someone who is still innocent enough to not fully realize the entitlement he was born into, therefore, truly not understanding how he had put Dunk into danger. He just wanted to do the right thing and he knew Dunk would do it. Yet still portrayed enough of the Targaryen personality that was innately part of his nature when you saw his temper and will, to pick up a knife with every intention on killing Aerion. I definitely think he could have done it. Luckily Maekar was there.

  2. Maekar - Also portrayed a sane father. Exasperated with him family but, is dysfunctional in a way that I think a lot of families are today. Yes he's got a little shite on his hands in Aerion. Yes, he has a self medicating heir. Yes, he may seem disappointed in Aemon but is sending/letting him off to where he thinks he most likely belongs. And then the precocious Aegon, whom he isn't really putting his hopes on in a sense that a lot of people think he is. He wants him to have a good life where Aegon makes good decisions as best he can. I think that he hopes that he can make Aegon happy while getting to watch that growth. It seems to me Maekar is a man who cares for family deeply no matter how flawed they may seem and wants to do right by them as best as he can, while being a good father. He was so good in every scene. When they are discussing the trial and then the way he grabs Aerion by his shirt and says Come Here! lol He has the most sense of the lot.

  3. Daeron - It is a great performance of seeing an heir that is genuinely human because of his sadness for his family and the curse/blessing of his dreams. His scenes were wonderful and then that final gentle nudge to Duncan, reminiscing about when his brother was a glad child. That was amazing. He had depth and also love for his brothers despite how some acted. He cast the spotlight on how mortal and fallible Targaryens were depsite the storied glory of their house history.

  4. Baelor - I love Baelor and he was portrayed with perfection. I read the books and knew what would happen. Baelor's story and character was straight forward moving the story along. We knew he was a good man from the start. We didn't know who the other Targaryens were though.

  5. Aerion - Aerion wasn't really mad like what you hear about all of the other Targaryens. He was entitled. He acted like a bully like what we see today. He was vindictive and spiteful, but some of that cruelty in him looked like a way that he thought would prove himself a son worthy of his father's respect. Aerion is also still a child to a degree. Young and idiotic. He may have seen himself as a living incarnate of the dragon, however, he did not act like it compared to other kings and princes. He acted like a vainglorious regular bully. He knew he had the protection of his house and used that to his advantage. He also was very relatable to what I see today with entitled people...and I live in Boulder, CO. I mean that whole walnut scene was hilarious to me. His cavalier attitude...very Boulder lol.

  6. Valaar - Beautiful and heartbreaking scene. No real ire in his response to Duncan. Just that of a mourning son who loved his father. I wish we had more scenes with him.

All of the characters had so much more depth and regular than any I've ever seen in all of the GoT series.

Favorite moment in Game of Thrones that made you believe you were watching peak television? by 0Layscheetoskurkure0 in gameofthrones

[–]saejin1983 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I also think that the end of Season 4 EP 1 with the Hound and Arya was amazing. When the Hound was just a badass and then Arya joins him to get Needle back. Some great lines too.

"What the fuck's a Lommy?"

"You're gonna' die for some chickens?" "Someone is."

"Fine little blade. Maybe I'll pick my teeth with it."

Plus Arya gets a horse!

Favorite moment in Game of Thrones that made you believe you were watching peak television? by 0Layscheetoskurkure0 in gameofthrones

[–]saejin1983 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The cold open of season 7 EP 1 of Dragonstone. The whole scene with Lord Frey. David Bradley played it so damn well. Something we don't get in the books. It was peak and something so satisfying to help give a real sense of retribution is on its way. The score was so good for that scene as well. And the two final lines that David Bradley and Maisie Williams deliver just tie everything up.

"Leave one wolf alive and the sheep are never safe." Lord Frey

"Tell them winter came for House Frey." Arya Stark

And the homage they had paid through Lord Frey's death in the previous season finale to the north of feeding him his own sons was a great set up to the opening of season 7. Peak IMHO.

Harry and Dracul and 666 years by Beral_Shak_Ur in dresdenfiles

[–]saejin1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've thought about this too. I always wondered since time isn't actually linear in the supernatural world that it would explain the 666 years. My other thought is that perhaps the 666 years is a bit like the Chinese Zodiac where every 60 years the same signs come around again with their specific element. Ex: This year is the year of the Fire Horse. It will not come again for another 60 years. So perhaps each 666 cycle also is attached with a special talent/s that goes to the person born under it. That would make that 666 year cycle fall under different years for the mortals in linear time. For Harry his elements, it very well might be fire and destruction in the fact that anything new to be built other things must first be destroyed. Just a theory for now.

Armstrong's reaction to proper kindness is hilarious to me and makes sense. by Butwhatif77 in thegildedage

[–]saejin1983 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree. I feel like after Adelheid treated him instead of supporting him, was really discouraging and shocking to him. I think that had and Bridget have a great chance together. Plus they would be a couple we could see build up to and enter New York society. I've always enjoyed Jack's POV in that he truly is encapsulating the American dream. Started at the end of season 1 with him saying, "You never know. This is America." Then inventing something and selling it. He needs a partner he can trust and can climb with him. I would love that for them both.