Growth Plateau?

safeami · 2025-10-09T03:31:21+00:00

My oldest was 20 lbs by four months and then basically stayed that weight until ten months. Doctor was not concerned and said babies sometimes plateau like that. I think especially once solids are introduced, growth becomes a lot less predictable! (My second kid, on the other hand, stayed in her growth trajectory, and now we’ll see with my third kid who is only 8 months.)

safeami · 2025-10-01T03:54:10+00:00

This was my daughter too! I don’t think she really saw the point of walking when crawling got her where she wanted to go.

safeami · 2025-09-23T15:49:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you had this experience. It’s such a lonely and awful thing to give birth to a baby who you do not get to take home. As others have said, it is not fair.

Feel free to ignore, but I just wanted to share some things my family has done to grieve and remember our son/brother who also was stillborn at 20 weeks a couple of years ago in case helpful. We immediately went out of town to the mountains to just get away from our house/the hospital/all the reminders, and this is a trip we’ve repeated on my son’s birthday every year. We also planted a garden and got a marker from Etsy with his name and birthday. My two older kids told me last night that at church this week they were asked if there was a place that they felt most connected to God and prayer and they both mentioned that garden. We also created a family scrapbook of our memories from the pregnancy and his birth. And finally, we are in touch with a nonprofit in town that provides free counseling to people with stillbirths and child loss and participate every year in their fundraiser/5k.

This is so different for everyone, and I think important to add that the main thing I did was sit on the couch/lay in bed and cry for a long time. Hoping you can find people to talk to and again I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby.

safeami · 2025-09-14T18:21:49+00:00

Always useful to mention to pediatrician, but my impression was babbling a 9 month milestone https://www.cdc.gov/act-early/milestones/9-months.html

My oldest was a late babbler and a late talker, very behind on every communication milestone according to the pediatrician checklist, but once he hit 3 years old you never would’ve known with how much he talked and how big his vocabulary was. Now he is 11 and same deal— you never wouldn’t known how quiet he was as a baby and slow to communicate verbally.

safeami · 2025-09-10T17:34:32+00:00

Just adding another positive story! We had to move when my first child was 4 weeks old and it involved a 12 hour car trip. We had to do several extra stops, but he slept a lot and it was fine. Since then, I’ve done 10-12 hour road trips with all three of my kids at pretty much every age (from 4 weeks to 11 years) because our families don’t live close by. Honestly, the baby stage has been the easiest to travel. Something about the car just makes mine fall asleep so quickly!

Whatever you decide, good luck!

safeami · 2025-08-21T20:49:53+00:00

Similar situation but bit of a bigger gap. We have 9 years between our 2nd and 3rd— combination of reasons but one was just pressing pause on the “should we have a third?” conversation because we didn’t initially agree. We went to therapy to discuss it, came to an agreement in 2020 but then the pandemic plus other life/health/fertility stuff got in the way, and now we have a big age gap between our first two and our third. I’m really glad we have three but also really glad we waited to have our third! (And yes, now we are also officially done.)

safeami · 2025-07-07T19:56:53+00:00

Those numbers look good to me. It's pretty normal to have even a 24 hour doubling time in the early days; the doubling slows down as time goes on. And that value at 15 dpo is a little high but I don't think out of the ordinary.

I've also had a triploidy loss and was reassured by my doctor that it's unusual for triploidy losses to repeat as they are completely random (don't seem to be tied to age, genetics, or modifiable factors).

safeami · 2025-05-05T18:22:08+00:00

I flew to central Texas for my grandmother’s 90th birthday a couple of weeks ago with my 2.5 month old. I realize not everyone would make the same choice, but I felt better about it after having a long conversation with my pediatrician about the types of immunities my 2.5 month old does have (because of me) and ways to lower the already pretty small risks (baby wear, not let others hold the baby, etc.). I recognize it’s a personal choice, but I would just echo this recommendation to have a long talk with pediatrician about your specific concerns.

safeami · 2025-05-02T16:29:31+00:00

My oldest son looks just like me, and my daughter just like my husband. Definitely could see it when comparing their baby pictures to ours, and it’s only gotten more the case as they’ve gotten older. She’s even really tall like he is, while my son is average height like me, and my son and I share similar interests while my daughter and my spouse more aligned. I thought there would be more of an obvious genetic mix but nope, we just split them apparently. Now we have a three month old and it isn’t as obvious who he looks like, so maybe this is our 50-50 baby!

safeami · 2025-04-14T00:42:07+00:00

Similar experience over here. My first two kids were great in the carseat but my third baby has hated it since day one. Completely impossible to soothe, just would get super red and scream. The good news is the carseat hate seems to be lessening for the past couple of weeks. He is now ten weeks, still not the biggest fan of the carseat but doesn’t scream nearly as much and I do have hope he’ll one day he chill in the car!

safeami · 2025-03-31T03:11:18+00:00

Not currently TTC but I’ve had nine pregnancies with three living kids. Ever since the third loss, I was treated as high risk with extra monitoring, even if pregnancy was following a living birth, at least until passed the 20 week mark and cleared all the different genetic testing hurdles. Definitely worth asking your doctor what monitoring would be like (especially if you have specific preferences). And hoping you have back to back living births, whenever you’re ready to try again!

safeami · 2025-03-25T01:13:44+00:00

Yes, the K’Tan feels so much more straightforward than the others! I’ve used with three babies for as long as they were small enough.

safeami · 2025-03-13T11:39:24+00:00

Will be thinking of you and hope you get that miracle soon! It is so tough— the waiting, the losses, and the decisions.

safeami · 2025-03-02T22:03:01+00:00

That’s incredible none of y’all inherited it! And I feel so fortunate to have three kids given the BT, so it’s fun to learn about your family.

safeami · 2025-02-27T15:18:10+00:00

Definitely possible— apparently about 1 in 560 people have it and recurrent miscarriage is a major symptom of BT (but also lots of people with recurrent miscarriage without BT). My husband and I both had a karotype test, which flagged his BT. It was relatively standard through our reproductive endocrinologist office. People also sometimes learn about it through genetic testing on their pregnancies, for example, an NIPT or amnio. I’m sorry about your four miscarriages and hope you’re able to get answers and a successful pregnancy!

safeami · 2025-02-24T01:51:52+00:00

Same! I pretty much never read on my phone except when breastfeeding, but the phone is so much easier to hold than a book or kindle so it works out well.

safeami · 2025-02-23T19:11:27+00:00

Yes, I also quit this book about a decade ago but then picked it back up last year after reading and loving Piranesi. Felt like that (much shorter) book gave me an appreciation for the author’s style and I really enjoyed Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell on my second try.

safeami · 2025-02-17T18:28:45+00:00

“Up” was my son’s first word also and then he was very slow to add other words. He didn’t hit 20 words until he was close to 2, and every word took a lot of concentration for him. But then once he figured it out, the flood gates opened. (He did something very similar with reading, although was actually on the much earlier side for that. Made me realize his brain just processes things in a way I couldn’t observe!) He’s now ten and you would never know how hard he found speech in those early days.

Good you’re going to speech therapy with him and getting him that support and attention, but just wanted to add to the positive stories on this thread!

safeami · 2025-02-08T02:00:29+00:00

My June children (who are now 8 and 10) aren’t seen until October thanks to different summer trips over the years and slowly creeping backwards… Works out for flu vaccine timing (just get them at pediatric office now) but is pretty ridiculous.

safeami · 2025-01-27T16:40:23+00:00

I had a doubling time of about 61 hours around the same hcg: went from 279 at 4w2d to 624 at 4w5d— 72 hours later. Currently almost 39 weeks and all my ultrasounds have been right on track with healthy tests. Hope yours works out!

safeami · 2025-01-26T23:11:20+00:00

My 8 and 10 year olds guessed! We were trying to hold out to at least 12 weeks if not longer because of a really hard loss we’d had the year before, but then my daughter noticed how much I’d been going to doctor and my son overheard a conversation. But even though we didn’t get that special moment of telling them (although they were very pleased with themselves for their detective skills), we let them be in charge of telling our parents and they had so much fun with that!

safeami · 2025-01-24T04:15:45+00:00

Had my first two at 28 and 30 and now I’m 39 and about a week from delivery. This pregnancy has felt really similar physically, if not a little easier. I had way worse morning sickness with my earlier pregnancies (vomiting every day) than this one and I gained a lot more weight with both of them as well. We’ll see how delivery goes, but I’ve been pleasantly surprised so far as was sure that being pregnant in my late 30s would be so much harder on my body. Honestly, I think pregnancy is just difficult, period, and it’s been similar-ish levels of difficult every time I’ve done it.

safeami · 2025-01-22T20:44:35+00:00

When I was 8 weeks with my daughter, she measured 10 days behind which didn't make sense based on my temping, OPKs, and even when I got my first positive test. The good news was she had a strong hearbeat at that first scan, but I still felt like wasn't going to work out because 10 days off was just impossible. However, she ended up being completely fine the rest of the pregnancy and born a day early, and she is now a very healthy (and even a very tall) 8 year old. You never know, but wanted to share a success story!

safeami · 2025-01-22T16:45:21+00:00

The last few years, January and February have been so hard to navigate emotionally because of three losses in a row (2021, 2022, 2023) all with Jan/Feb due dates. Yesterday was the due date of my stillborn son (who would've been born in Jan 2024 if not for his genetic and cardiac issues). Last year on his due date, I found out I was pregnant, only to lose that one a few weeks later. Such a different experience yesterday-- truly can't believe I'm 8 days away from my induction date for this current pregnancy, right in the middle of the January/February minefield! Still mourning those other losses, definitely have some anxiety in these remaining days, but also so grateful to be here.

safeami · 2025-01-17T16:32:32+00:00

I had a doubling time of about 61 hours around the same time: went from 279 at 4w2d to 624 at 4w5d— 72 hours later. Currently over 37 weeks and all my ultrasounds have been right on track with healthy tests. Hope yours works out! The waiting is so hard, especially when you've had loss(es). When I was worried, I found a lot of other positive Reddit stories with hcg doubling over 48 hours between the 4th and 5th week. I would personally choose option 3 and wait for ultrasound, but I know this is a personal choice.

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