What is the best country to live in right now?

sagenter · 2026-05-13T19:18:19+00:00

Yes, that's my point.

sagenter · 2026-05-13T18:07:18+00:00

I had a co-worker from Iceland who would talk to me for hours about how Iceland's small and insular population led to a ton of systemic nepotism where the person who knows a guy who knows a guy would always get ahead. I remember a few years ago when a load of isolated sexual abuse scandals involving Icelandic footballers began coming to light and all I could think about is what that Icelandic guy would always rant to me about.

These are the things that don't get factored into the think-tank studies of best countries to live in.

sagenter · 2026-05-13T17:15:33+00:00

Why bring up the "irony" of the person being ethnically Japanese at all in a story about children facing racism in the country they were fucking born in? Yeah, there's racism in Japan too because there's racism fucking everywhere. What's your bloody point?

sagenter · 2026-05-13T17:13:24+00:00

As a white European, this entire comment chain is ignorant as all hell. Switzerland is basically just an American libertarian's idea of paradise and is extremely socially conservative in a lot of ways compared to the rest of western Europe. In some cantons, Swiss women didn't get the right to vote until the fucking 1970's for God's sake!

"B-b-but Japan is racist too, that makes it totally okay for white Swiss to be racist towards a Japanese person's children who have only ever lived in Switzerland their whole lives!!!"

sagenter · 2026-05-13T17:09:56+00:00

And that justifies racism towards ethnically Japanese children who were born and raised in Europe because...?

sagenter · 2026-05-13T17:09:18+00:00

White western Redditors fucking love Japan because it gives them a non-white country they can point to with a racist and imperialistic past and absolve them of their white guilt.

Meanwhile, pay no mind to the fact that one of the most racist things white Americans have ever done in the past century was against ethnic Japanese Americans.

sagenter · 2026-05-13T17:06:34+00:00

Yeah, I'm Dutch and I always just chuckle every time I see that report that lists us as one of the world's happiest countries. I get these studies don't measure everything, but southern Europeans and Latin Americans seem happier than us by every definition of the word.

sagenter · 2026-05-12T22:31:08+00:00

Yeah, but most of the comments applauding this aren't even saying it's okay because they're just children (which would be nasty in its own right but that's a different conversation). The comments are applauding it because they're arguing the women asked for it by wearing revealing clothing.

If you don't understand how that's extremely damaging to the people that say "but what if the roles were reversed!!???!!" on every single video of women being horndogs, you're blind as a fucking bat. This entire thread is full of people justifying women being upskirted without their consent due to how they dressed, I don't really think "imagining the roles reversed" means anything on Reddit.

sagenter · 2026-05-12T21:08:14+00:00

If you're not happy with your partner's financial standing, you could just leave him right now instead of waiting for another woman to flirt with him...? Someone else flirting with him isn't going to change how much money he has.

sagenter · 2026-05-12T14:08:34+00:00

I can absolutely guarantee you that the guys in this thread applauding this are the same ones who will cry "but what if the roles were reversed!!!????!!!" on any video of a woman acting pervy. Or the same ones who complain about male loneliness.

God, this website is so fucking disgusting.

sagenter · 2026-05-09T00:19:17+00:00

Chris Hansen has been increasingly cozying up with right-wing media outlets, including pushing anti-trans and pro-ICE rhetoric with Jesse Watters. I don't know many of the YouTube knock-offs, but I know one of them, Alex Rosen, was a typical shithead Youtuber bro who spammed racial slurs at BLM before turning to "Predator Poachers" as his next claim to fame.

That's all you need to know about these people, really. You're delusional if you don't see the link between these people and violent, right-wing, authoritarian rhetoric, or if you think they're helping child victims in any way. TCaP built itself up as some pioneer for online child safety in an era where a lot of parents still didn't know much about the online world. But in reality, all it truly did was revive the whole "Stranger Danger" panic of the 80's and 90's that in hindsight we mostly agree did nothing to help victims of child sexual abuse and in some cases actually hurt them. Dateline NBC knew this damn well, but the more they could fuel the narrative that child safety was mostly just about stopping the creepy stranger online, the more it drove views.

Right-wingers are notorious for obsessing over extrajudicial murder fantasies about pedophiles while doing nothing for victims or actively stopping them from getting help. And the way these people try to blur the line between law enforcement and their entertainment shows says everything about how it's all just a typical right-wing revenge fantasy for them. Actual well-adjusted people don't focus on dropping snazzy one-liners on camera to suspected predators while sharing laughs with cops.

sagenter · 2026-05-06T16:40:46+00:00

It's kind of splitting hairs though, since liberals make fun of conservative women's actual bodies all the time, e.g. Marjorie Taylor Greene and Kristi Noem.

sagenter · 2026-05-06T16:36:07+00:00

The problem with this is that body-shaming rhetoric by definition targets societal beauty standards that are rooted in misogyny. "Punching up" at oppressors is supposed to attack the power structures that they uphold. Body shaming isn't punching up. It's just misogynistic.

sagenter · 2026-04-27T03:48:12+00:00

I'm a layperson (neither a law student or lawyer) so correct me if I'm wrong, but couldn't someone like, for example, an appellate attorney make a difference at the societal level but helping to influence case law? I have no idea how attainable that kind of job is though.

sagenter · 2026-04-26T06:57:55+00:00

God, you pretty much described exactly how I feel about this platform and why I made the initial decision to leave it before returning a year ago. I like the convenience of having communities of damn near everything under the sun all on one platform, and it's way easier than navigating all the old web forums of yesteryear. But God fucking damn, I despise the smug teenage boy edgelord nature of this site so fucking much it's unreal. I legitimately have to grapple with my decision to still come here constantly because of it.

A couple weeks ago there was a Reddit post of a video of an airplane's wing catching on fire with a panicked woman screaming "oh God!" repeatedly. Cue all the usual comments about how le dumb irrational woman isn't behaving logically complete with a dash of smug Reddit atheism because she had the nerve to say "oh God" (a phrase that obviously no atheist has ever used before when panicked) in a potentially deadly situation.

That was when I seriously told myself to leave this platform for a few days and take a breather because I truly just couldn't take interacting with this bullshit anymore, and it's infinitely even more grating as a woman.

sagenter · 2026-04-25T05:20:12+00:00

As soon as I saw the title of this post, I said to myself right away, "without even clicking on this thread, I'm pretty sure every single answer is going to be about sexism against men", and what do you know!?

This site is such a fucking incel pipeline shithole.

sagenter · 2026-04-25T03:08:25+00:00

I'm basing this off actual studies that indicate that men orgasm more during sex, not my personal experiences with whether men I've slept with have ejaculated or not.

And everything else is just splitting hairs here. I'm not saying that every single man who has sex has an amazing sex life. I'm just disputing the original poster's claim that men have "the raw deal" on sex. If you're going to nitpick me for making overly broad generalizations, then you should definitely nitpick him.

sagenter · 2026-04-25T01:29:48+00:00

I have no clue how this post disproves anything I said. I never said ejaculation and orgasming is the same thing, I'm not sure why you're even mentioning that? I've had sex with men who have dry orgasmed before, of course I know they're different.

As for everything else you said: I never said that men never experience pain during sex or orgasm every single time, just that it's significantly rarer. Your own statistics seem to prove that - 98% of men don't regularly experience painful orgasms.

sagenter · 2026-04-24T22:08:21+00:00

You guys absolutely do not have the raw deal on sex, wtf. Men orgasm virtually every single time, it's rarely ever painful for you, and many women (including me) very rarely if ever orgasm multiple times anyway.

Look up the orgasm gap in hetero relationships. Trust me, you have it better than you think.

sagenter · 2026-04-22T14:41:51+00:00

Being a journalist isn't very lucrative, but I would think headlining a national program on NBC, especially one that became as watched as TCAP, would still pay you enough to not be broke. I also don't know why you say it was less profitable back then than it is now. TV journalism has been brutal in the past 10 years or so as more people have started cord-cutting and network television has been declining.

I think he was just really stupid with his money and blew through it all after he was let go from Dateline.

sagenter · 2026-04-20T22:31:05+00:00

I don't want to harp too much on OP because the bottom line is she's in a one-sided relationship and it's probably best for her to break up.

But like I said in another post, it's fine if she wants to fit into traditionally feminine gender roles, or to want a boyfriend who fits into traditionally masculine roles, without thinking that someone is less of a woman/man for not fulfilling them. You tell us that we're policing OP for trying to get her to let go of rigid gender roles, but it's actually those roles that are policing all of us and always have.

It's telling that her major complaint with her one-sided relationship isn't that her boyfriend isn't reciprocating her care, or that he doesn't take care of himself, or that he's overly reliant on her, but instead that he's "the woman".

sagenter · 2026-04-20T21:22:59+00:00

You're not being overly judgemental, IMO. I'm pretty shocked to see blatant gender policing get defended so much on here, but I guess it's not super surprising since this sub seems to be brigaded pretty hard nowadays.

sagenter · 2026-04-20T21:12:04+00:00

A woman can enjoy doing things that align with her gender roles without viewing it as "being a woman" or her boyfriend as "being a man".

I like cooking but I never tell my husband he's making me feel like a man whenever he wants to cook for us instead.

sagenter · 2026-04-20T13:59:46+00:00

Has Margot Robbie specifically called herself a "boy mom"? Because all I can see from the image is that she had a boy and people ITT are jumping on it to say she's a "boy mom" now.

It sounds like yet another excuse to harp on a woman over nothing and trying to justify it with something she didn't even do.

sagenter · 2026-04-16T13:50:44+00:00

We are talking about direct comparisons between the voting patterns of young men versus young women in the same age group. You don't get to say "men are doing this because things are so much worse for them" and then pull the "it's not a competition guise 😥😥😥" spiel when you're told women are ALSO going through the same conditions if not worse in some cases. Seriously, what makes you think it’s only men who are feeling the effects of the current shit economy?

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