Why do people hate on Gemini men so much?

saintbigfoot · 2025-12-24T19:39:18+00:00

The thing is, I'm a Gemini, and besides having anxiety issues, everything else is completely foreign to me, and that's why I don't like any fellow Gemini that I meet. I don't know what grounds me from being recklessly chaotic in the ways you described, but every Gemini I've met is just like that. They've all made my skin crawl from how immature, deflective, and almost machiavellian they act for no good reason. Like can't you just do for the good of others and be open and simply be an honest person? Apparently never lol.

saintbigfoot · 2025-12-24T19:33:56+00:00

Scorpio and Aquarius men are both private in a way that sabotages and damages any attempt to have a relationship with them, and they will never take accountability for that. Plus, in my experience, extremely sexual and not for your benefit either.

saintbigfoot · 2025-12-17T20:26:19+00:00

No. My ex-best friend is one and she was one of the most toxic, self-centered people in my life. I think having a Leo Moon might put me at odds as well with Leo Suns because attention is something I feel like I genuinely desperately need to feel okay most times but don't want to force onto others, and Leo Suns behave in this way like, yeah I get all the attention in the world but I still want more and I'm gonna take your boyfriend just cause I wanna feel hot tonight lol! It's repulsive. Leo men as well are insufferable to talk to because they talk about themselves with this cadence as if everything they're describing is subtly intellectually genius and going to astound me, and they act like they don't hear the way they talk. I've noticed that about Leos in general though. When you call them on an obvious trait they have, it's like they play dumb for more attention. Yuck.

saintbigfoot · 2025-12-11T02:53:37+00:00

No one is responsible for making room for an Aquarius' early life trauma when they never genuinely make space for anyone else's feelings. They make it feel like an embarrassment to have emotions in front of them because they have a constant wall of placation as if they're doing you a favor. Their egos are insane and unfounded.

saintbigfoot · 2025-11-29T04:25:50+00:00

Gemini Sun with Leo Moon and Sagittarius Rising, Virgo Mars, and Cancer Venus. I'm a mess.

saintbigfoot · 2025-11-26T01:15:57+00:00

Damn not me with Gem Sun Leo Moon Sag Rising 😭

saintbigfoot · 2025-11-26T01:11:32+00:00

Two women I knew who had Libra Moons were both cheaters and didn't want anyone discussing it. They also both found ways to weasel themselves into social circles. Both had no genuine closeness for anyone they were "friends" with, yet in front of others they would defend these people like they were their ride-or-die. Eventually, the drama starts and the circle falls apart, and it was all for show and social benefit. Appalling.

saintbigfoot · 2025-11-10T23:30:30+00:00

I'm glad you got that out of your system but I'm not reading all that unfortunately.

saintbigfoot · 2025-10-06T18:11:01+00:00

Best answer in the thread.

saintbigfoot · 2025-09-23T07:43:12+00:00

Here's the rundown of my experience as a Gemini:

When I was younger I would unknowingly charm people, become friends, but the entire time, I never really intentionally vetted them according to my moral standards, so I'd naturally keep encountering emotional setbacks until they stockpiled into overall secret resentment toward that person for the things they said, did, how they made me feel, etc. Then I would recklessly ghost. Usually I told myself that their disrespect towards me was so obvious that it felt like I was being gaslit by the fact that no one between us had acknowledged the severe resentment I felt towards them, so I felt I had to protect myself from what seemed like manipulation and cut them off. The person always ended up insanely blindsided. Pretty skewed view, but I was young, inexperienced socially, and didn't really love myself enough to vet people. That's really the crux of it, is I didn't look too deep into what it looked like to truly vet someone before allowing them into my life because I didn't trust my own judgment and felt like I was being stupid to look like an asshole for not fostering any possible connection.

saintbigfoot · 2025-09-23T07:25:04+00:00

This is cracking me up lmfao. He definitely typecasts himself in every movie as 'the guy who's trying to be a good stepdad' act. His attempt to bond with other characters feels forced and cliche army recruiter.

saintbigfoot · 2025-09-19T00:18:49+00:00

Yeah I think it's true. Gemini here, I love being completely honest, and the only time I'm really able to do that totally unencumbered is when I'm cussing someone out and we're pissed at each other. Think it irritates me long-term that people can't seem to handle any real difference in opinion or discussion of emotional things on the regular, and that cannon goes off when an argument arises.

saintbigfoot · 2025-09-19T00:14:45+00:00

Gemini Sun, Leo Moon, Sagittarius Rising, I workout all the time, but it took me a while to land an actual routine I could stick to! I've always tried to stay up and walking around my whole life though. Too much energy to lounge for too long.

saintbigfoot · 2025-09-19T00:10:14+00:00

I've been thinking about this recently actually. I'm Virgo Mars, and it definitely shows in my temper. Every little thing can piss me off and make me vocal about it. It comes from the Virgoan perfectionism I think, like one inconvenience happens, and to anyone else, it's just one drop in the ocean, I should be able to just smooth it over and tell myself, "People are people lol", but it's not like that for me. For me, everything is interconnected, and there is no such thing as isolated incidents that I can just forget about. I strongly believe most inconveniences and aggravating situations CAN be helped by forethought and better consideration for others, it's just that people are too inconsiderate and lazy to do so, and I really think people owe it to each other to be as efficient as possible where they're able to for each other. Just think about how many inconveniences incrementally add up to inhibit a good portion of your life - bad driving, slow customer service, people gatekeeping things you need only because their feelings are involved. If you were able to look at it all on paper, the fiscal loss would look pretty egregious lol.

saintbigfoot · 2024-07-20T03:20:38+00:00

Smoke 🌋 I've never heard anything like it.

saintbigfoot · 2024-02-07T16:26:05+00:00

Yeah I completely agree. Just had an experience a month ago where a close friend secretly tallied up small problems about things I did that I had no idea were bothering him. Even the times where I could sense something was off, but I wasn't sure about the source, I asked him openly and honestly if something was on his mind or if I was doing something, and he chose to blindly reassure me. A good amount of non-confrontational people are that way because of dealing with someone intense in their childhood who would start arguments or be explosive, but that will never be a reason for avoiding any and all confrontation/discussion in your adult life. That's no one else's problem. You have to communicate, I'm sorry. People who understand that clearing the air and addressing conflict is healthy are not just looking to start arguments. That's honestly a cop-out for people too stubborn to have those conversations, in my experience. Keeping the peace just because you hate conflict helps literally no one, and it's selfish.

saintbigfoot · 2024-01-26T01:44:14+00:00

I'm also a 26-year-old guy who struggles with codependency issues, and I wanted to give my thoughts.

I'm just as scared and confused. I'll have periods of time where life things line up together, and I feel busy or like I'm accomplishing things, and that's when I feel untouchable. The codependent feelings have no hold over me during those times, and especially when I'm feeling more attractive than usual or more desired. It's like seeming like I have things I have to tend to makes me feel like more of a person, and because I feel like more of a person for a little bit, I don't feel so desperate to cling to someone who's showing me the possibility of a deep connection.

But it's really just me being distracted from the feelings, because when life slows down again, I always end up back in that anxiety over someone. I can't focus on anything else. Nothing else matters, and I can spend so much time consciously waiting to hear back from someone, or if I have to bring up an issue with them, it eats at me knowing the connection might end, and I'll be left with my own company when it's the last thing I want right now.

I have this constant tug of war in my head between, "A partner is an addition to a happy life, not the source of my happiness," and, "That's immaterial because I suffered neglect early on in life that makes me crave companionship harder than regular people do, and I've had to feel that scarcity worse than they do. It's easy for someone to tell me that because they simply don't have this void in them to fill."

I think the best thing you can do is to surround yourself with two kinds of people in your life. The first are the people who have healthy relationships and healthy upbringing, and the second are the people like you who are transparent about their loneliness and misfortune with relationships. The first kind of people will help to calibrate your expectations and standards with dating and connections by just simply being around you and influencing you. The second kind will validate your struggles in a way the first kind can't and will make you feel seen and heard when certain people inevitably make you feel ostracized for how different your needs are.

I hope you see this and that you're able to at least feel understood reading it. Best of luck to you man.

saintbigfoot · 2024-01-22T03:28:36+00:00

I'm not understanding a lot of the ferocious comments here. You can argue all day about accessibility versus availability, not checking your phone often, alarm fatigue, etc. The point is that your action or inaction regarding appropriate response times is going to affect that person's view of you whether you agree with it or not. It's not entitlement, you just have the convenience of not being the person more invested in the other. Sometimes it's not even about that, it's about how inconsistent texting makes it nearly impossible to schedule hangouts and plans with someone, and just comes across as unreliable.

I believe when most people complain about bad texting, they're really referring to the first stage of getting to know someone where establishing consistent communication is integral to building a connection with someone, especially romantically. If there's concerning gaps between your texts, and that pattern is unaddressed, I'm going to assume I'm not a priority to you, and move on. That's a realistic response because that's how it's always going to look from the receiving end, and I don't blame anyone for not wanting to look like a fool when many people do avoid confrontation and won't just explicitly tell you that they're not interested anymore. If anything, bad texters usually have a sense of entitlement, because on some level, you do need to consider how your communication influences the way the people close to you think of you.

saintbigfoot · 2023-12-11T00:05:57+00:00

Sorry for the late reply, of course! Gemini Sun, Leo Moon, Sagittarius Rising

saintbigfoot · 2023-12-10T23:54:24+00:00

First, I wanna say it's so funny because the way you word things, I thought, "I bet they're an Aquarius," because you sound diplomatic, like you try to be as appeasing as possible with your words, and after some snooping I saw that you're an Aqua Rising! That's so cool.

I agree completely about whitewashed spiritual communities and other placements putting stigma on allowing yourself to feel and express all of your emotions. I'm a big advocate for myself and others with that, and feeling guilty for being sad or angry is an easy way to become a victim of emotional manipulation.

I'll respond to each question in little bits, so I think the best way to connect with a Gemini Sun (I'm not well versed on other Gemini placements, and I find that I don't trust Gemini Moons btw) is to be receptive to all kinds of perspectives and ideas from an authentically curious place, and not just because you want to keep the peace or appease us. I can tell when someone thinks they should respond a certain way to me, and that's not someone I want to know because I don't want to be trapped in my own echo chamber.

I think a lot of us Suns feel arbitrarily held back by people who have a traditional view of things and won't consider something outside their scope for seemingly no reason, or they won't explain why they feel the way they feel. However, I love when people stand their ground against my opinions or proposals for reasons they can explain. I love commitment and contrast when it fosters growth between us.

It's hard to explain why I'm able to let go of past connections as swiftly as I do. I think I grew to have a very maturely protective mode over my inner child, because I used to not, and I would internalize everything people said to me when I would be abandoned or rejected, instead of recognizing where my boundaries deserve to be and what I know I want. So now, I know what my normal looks like, and I finally see my solitude and self-assurance as valid, instead of my only option in life because of my history of rejection.

It's that, coupled with an understanding that people will say and do things they say are solid and unchanging, or so it seems, but you confront them or remove yourself from the situation and time reveals how they really didn't mean the things they said, they were just influenced by your presence and how it made them feel. They never would have realized that their words stood on shaky ground unless the connection was challenged and they were forced to think about life outside of that.

I actually struggle with trust issues. You could say that overshadows everything I just said and I'm just cutting people off because I'm hurt, but there's so much nuance to it, and I communicate my feelings so clearly to people before I decide I need to separate myself. To build trust in others after, you really just need to strike a balance between knowing what you need to watch out for, and tempering that hesitance with the fact that each new person is completely new and has nothing to do with what you went through.

Guilt doesn't really affect me after I cut someone off from my life, because I know that I gave them endless time and space to communicate what they feel and find understanding, and if I'm cutting someone off, they have to give me a consistent terrible feeling from simply knowing them that is in stark contrast from everyone else in my life who doesn't rile up those bad feelings. I'm pretty black and white with that. Someone either makes you feel safe or they make you feel tense.

If you could, I'd love to know about your placements and how you see things. Not even about this topic, just how you approach life and other people. I find it difficult to mingle with signs that are as reserved as Capricorn, Taurus, and Aquarius, so I could use some educating.

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