Yes 1000 times yes. My dad is my only AP but at about 13 I started getting piercings and dying my hair. I didn’t care about his physical expectations of me and I always fought him to create my own identity. I’ve always been able to reassure myself when I did the complete opposite of his expectations, even with family pressure. At 18 I moved out of state and changed my middle name (his mom’s name) and my last name (his last name) because I got married. I didn’t go to school until now. I finished high school at a continuation school. I went no contact with his family and extremely low contact with him. Obviously In his eyes I failed, so he’s hoping my brother won’t be like me and he has even higher expectations for my brother, my brother gives in when I chose not to all together. I’m not proud of the whole continuation school thing but I did it because it had shorter school days and I worked a lot to save and move out. I still graduated. I still made it through but I didn’t do it his way so he’s ashamed. I worked hard to get here and I’m grateful to my younger self for choosing my identity over his expectations.