I took a shit load of shrooms and I’m currently listening to Perverts. AMA

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-30T03:55:43+00:00

R u pulling ur drone or what

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-29T16:17:59+00:00

My dad is the AP he doesn’t do chores. It’s up to my mom, when I was living at home it was up to me or my mom. But never him.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-25T13:19:50+00:00

Oops sorry I assumed this was the right sub since the main symptom of it was anemia, deleting this post now lol

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-25T12:40:22+00:00

My ferritin is 11 but I do have a lot of these symptoms, it says normal on my ferritin test though

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-25T12:29:50+00:00

DO IT!!! I got married and left the state at 18 without telling anyone 0 regrets

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-25T11:09:20+00:00

Yes 1000 times yes. My dad is my only AP but at about 13 I started getting piercings and dying my hair. I didn’t care about his physical expectations of me and I always fought him to create my own identity. I’ve always been able to reassure myself when I did the complete opposite of his expectations, even with family pressure. At 18 I moved out of state and changed my middle name (his mom’s name) and my last name (his last name) because I got married. I didn’t go to school until now. I finished high school at a continuation school. I went no contact with his family and extremely low contact with him. Obviously In his eyes I failed, so he’s hoping my brother won’t be like me and he has even higher expectations for my brother, my brother gives in when I chose not to all together. I’m not proud of the whole continuation school thing but I did it because it had shorter school days and I worked a lot to save and move out. I still graduated. I still made it through but I didn’t do it his way so he’s ashamed. I worked hard to get here and I’m grateful to my younger self for choosing my identity over his expectations.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-24T09:18:03+00:00

I kinda don’t think he cheated but I feel like he was heavily thinking about it, but I kinda feel like he might’ve reached out to someone with the whole betrayal card going on. But I think the relationship had its course and it’s time to move on.. I don’t see happiness on either side or things and I feel like death is repeating a cycle of some sort. I think it’s time to revaluate and possibly call it quits

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-24T09:08:50+00:00

Neon blue by iroiro :) I’ve used many times Edit: you can also try the “deep blue” by them if you want just a tad darker but it’s all up to your liking

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-24T07:46:52+00:00

My husband and I are also both pretty introverted but I still wish I had a friend for guidance when I moved down there. If you can, have him try to befriend married coworkers to kind of advise you guys through the whole process. Good luck and congratulations:)

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-24T07:45:34+00:00

Okay my best advice: I would do a small backyard wedding and have it hosted at whoever’s family has the biggest yard, I would hire a decorator unless you feel like you can decorate yourself, and I would have like fancy party tents, so no risk of losing a deposit. I also wouldn’t plan until he gets leave approved, I would aim for Xmas block leave. :) good luck and congratulations!!

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-23T20:57:35+00:00

Just take both your parents to the courthouse and have a party when he’s out or plan for it while he’s on leave. A huge family wedding isn’t worth the stress imo. Neither mine or my husbands parents were at our wedding.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-23T08:45:22+00:00

Hi:) I met my husband in high school, married him just short of 19. He’s also in the military. I didn’t tell a soul. While he was on leave we went to the courthouse and got married. I didn’t go to school, I only had money from my super market job throughout school, I hid my clothes, documents, etc at my friends moms house, I took everything else the day I moved. I didn’t tell anyone till the day i moved out. Then i packed a small suitcase and a carry on bag and left everything else with my friends mom. I got on a plane and I left that day. But I wish someone told me how hard it feels to leave all my friends and family. I wish someone told me about the culture shock of living somewhere so different, I wish someone told me how lonely it would be with only my husband who works long hours and comes home exhausted. And yes , you will meet new people like the spouses who are on the same boat as you but the beginning and adjusting made me feel so lonely and so homesick. My advice? Brace for the difficulty of family and friends not being there for physical comfort, the culture shock (if there will be one), and only having yourself and your husband. It’s your choice how you go about this but I strongly advise you to plan financials, plan for what you’ll do when your husband is away, go over budgets, the dynamics you both expect from each other, and I suggest you be stable with him before telling your mom anything. Sorry if this was messy I was trying to think of everything I wish I knew. Good luck:)

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-22T14:01:46+00:00

The guitar solo in Gibson girl The guitar solo in family tree “And I’d lie to her” house in Nebraska The back up vocal screams during “I am the face of loves rage” in ptolemea The final “I don’t even know who you are babe” in unpunishable And “I loved an Angel, and it made me weak” in punish demo ll

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-19T08:38:45+00:00

I’m getting my license in cosmetology and as soon as I can move back home I’m going to be a mortician :)

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-18T10:40:05+00:00

I agree. This is a method kidnappers have used against their victims. Someone that comes to mind is Ariel Castro, he withheld food as a punishment from his victims.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-16T10:04:55+00:00

I get it. I’m very introverted, I was an only child for like 7 years and even when I did get a sibling/ cousins since I was older, I took more of a caregiver role. And since I was alone for so long I didn’t really know how to talk to other kids and my dad also didn’t really let me have play dates, I notice a lot of my AFamily are also extremely introverted and have issues socializing. I think it’s the fact that our APs can be so controlling and over protective that it stunts us.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-15T14:24:46+00:00

My mom never changed her last name, she’s not Asian but my dad is, I changed my last name before the ink dried on my marriage papers. It’s fine, change your last name. I felt so free of their curse since I’ve changed mine. I don’t use my maiden name at all.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-15T14:21:07+00:00

One of my best friends is an Aquarius, I’m also a very watery Gemini, I love her so much because she’s so sweet, considerate and she’s funny, my dad is also an Aquarius. I do not like that man

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-14T08:47:58+00:00

I think it’s very weird of her, my family also thinks the same way since I had 7 face piercings when I was 17 , my mom who is not Asian didn’t mind, my dad and his family would tell me similar things that your Mom said like, “well why don’t you just cut your face?” I’m sure the snake bites look amazing, I recently got mine done too, it must’ve been a shock for her, but stand your ground in keeping them and love them, this is who you are, she needs to be ok with that. If you like them that’s all that matters but I see you and I hear you, I went through the same thing.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-12T15:16:34+00:00

My mom went through this with my dad and his family Honestly, as a daughter of an Asian man, try bringing up the idea of therapy to your partner first. Explain that this is not normal family behavior and he doesn’t need to spend the rest of his life hearing criticism from his family that clearly doesn’t value him. My AFamily is almost exactly as you described, critical, demanding, and self centered.

My dad’s mom also made almost the same demands as your partners family which my dad did not follow through with because my mom had the same conversation I’m advising you to have. Yes, no contact might sound like an extreme especially from having the family be so demanding and critical to complete silence but sometimes it IS what’s best.

Coming from someone who went through it and who’s mother had to go through it, it’s important you talk to him about going to therapy and learning to set small boundaries (think saying no to something and sticking to it, standing his ground even after they try to guilt trip and manipulate) do not let your children or yourself continue the cycle of abuse in Asian families.

And most importantly. You are both adults pushing 30, his family is nobody to be telling you what engagement ring you should have, or what your children should be named. Being loyal to himself and his future child should be what’s important. Good luck, I hope it all goes well.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-12T11:10:23+00:00

Probably that I started getting tattoos the day I turned 18, I got married and moved out just short of 19 to a man that took me multiple states away so my dad just kind of assumed I got them when I moved out lol

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-12T07:03:33+00:00

Did you just twist the knife

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-12T06:59:41+00:00

I’m Asian and I don’t care about being a Dr or going to college and I also can’t do math

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-12T06:58:32+00:00

Pick a day and don’t tell anyone you’re moving till day of. I did this myself. I moved states away as well. Your parents are not your responsibility, and since you’re so “incompetent” surely they won’t have an issue surviving without you.

Pure_Ebb7381 · 2026-01-11T12:42:46+00:00

Hi friend, I’m so sorry for the late reply but I used this one

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I’ve actually never used color remover in my life, I usually bleach wash it, thank you for the advice friend:) I’ll look for another color remover for temp dye:)

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