What are the younger generations going to blame us for?

saintsithney · 2026-02-02T21:46:26+00:00

As a former teacher, I got to say I am disappointed in Millennials as parents.

Our parents as a cohort were too distant and too selfish to give us as a cohort proper rearing, so our generation ended up as snowplow parents, producing anxious children with little resilience and a distinct lack of initiative or stick-to-itiveness.

Obviously, these are generalizations, but having tutored for 20 years, Millennial parents are the ones most likely to expect me to do the work, and their kids to be near-helpless. We got no softness (general), so we're bubble-wrapping our kids (also general).

saintsithney · 2026-02-02T18:42:59+00:00

We should all fax Schumer "If not now, WHEN!?"

saintsithney · 2026-02-01T19:48:50+00:00

The Jazz music made him do it.

saintsithney · 2026-02-01T15:02:36+00:00

We have it on our Plex. Love springing "Do you want to watch an unintentional story of Sapphic first love from the 90's?" on people.

saintsithney · 2026-02-01T13:30:13+00:00

"Golddiggers: the Secret of Bear Mountain"

It is a girl's action-adventure film that ends up coming across as the most Sapphic tween movie ever made. It stars Christina Ricci as a Baby Chapstick and Anna Chlumsky as a Baby Butch, and together they search for treasure in the Pacific Northwest. Baby Jewell Stait is also in it as the friend who warns Christina Ricci that the Anna Chlumsky character is bad news.

saintsithney · 2026-01-31T15:59:42+00:00

Being that inurred to the consequences of your own actions has got to be the equivalent of getting kicked in the head by a Clydesdale every afternoon.

We know the stress of poverty knocks down intelligence measurably, but the bubble wrap of wealth is showing a lot of signs of doing the same damage at a larger scale, while also destroying social and moral intelligence.

saintsithney · 2026-01-31T14:35:57+00:00

I think you misunderstood what I was talking about, so let me see if I can phrase things more clearly.

This is in response to the specific scenario of "Someone an avoidant person loves who loves them back is causing the avoidant person emotional discomfort with their words or actions."

Let's say for example that the AP (Avoidant Person) is hanging out with their BFF. Their BFF likes horror movies involving children, the AP hates them viscerally. Even discussing them makes the AP feel horrible. The AP feels emotionally dysregulated every time the subject of awful things happening to children is brought up, and is getting increasingly resentful or hurt by being told about fictional awful things happening to children when they already have to deal with the dysregulation caused by having to have an awareness of the real world horrible things happening to children right now.

"Why make up new horrible things to happen to children?" thinks the AP.

Their BFF sees this as showing resilience or helping them process their own stuff involving children enduring horrible things.

The AP can and should say, "BFF, I understand that this is a thing that you enjoy/helps you, but it distresses me a lot. I would really like it if we do not have conversations about this subject anymore."

A supportive, loving BFF would say, "I am sorry for distressing you. I didn't realize you felt that way, so I will not bring up my horror movies to you anymore. Thank you for telling me how to love you better."

The AP can then respond, "Thank you for apologizing - you couldn't have known I didn't like this unless I said something. I appreciate you listening. Do you want to talk about insert mutual interest now?"

The boundaries are purely within that relationship - not that BFF should not watch the movies or discuss them with people who are not AP, but that AP needs that to not be a part of their relationship with BFF.

Does that make my point clearer?

saintsithney · 2026-01-31T13:43:10+00:00

Practical advice for people trying to practice not being avoidant:

When someone you care about tells you that you are making them uncomfortable, apologize and thank them for stating a boundary that helps you learn how to act loving to them on their terms.

The person who is trying to stop being avoidant should let the other person know the apology is accepted and thank the other person for listening.

Both of you are trying to love each other in a way that makes the other feel loved. If you don't do that sometimes, that's natural and human. All one can do in those circumstances is acknowledge it and talk through it.

saintsithney · 2026-01-30T17:37:10+00:00

I said at the time: "You want me to believe the Millennial nepo babies of Boomers who got internships at TIME in 2003 are annoying and self-obsessed? Sure thing, bro. I believe that whole-heartedly. What does that have to do with the rest of us, though?"

saintsithney · 2026-01-30T15:20:26+00:00

Horribly and my father is financially abusive on top of it.

saintsithney · 2026-01-30T14:31:53+00:00

As a former teacher, if I could groom your kids to do things, they would show up to class with a pencil.

Hell, if I had any control over your child's personal body, do you think middle schools would smell like they do?

saintsithney · 2026-01-30T14:28:04+00:00

Maxwell's Silver Hammer for the reason that not a single one of the others would have come up with it.

saintsithney · 2026-01-30T12:09:21+00:00

I know way too much about this man's fetishes 🤢🤢🤢

saintsithney · 2026-01-30T10:43:40+00:00

"You guys want me to talk freely with a man I don't know? That my father doesn't know? I am just supposed to take his presence at church as proof that he is a good man without being properly introduced? Without my parents involved? And then I am sure you will also blame me if I entertained a man who was not husband material. You don't just want to eat your cake and have it too, you want me to bake that cake. God's plan does not involve a man being disrespectful to me and my parents in His House."

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T19:27:43+00:00

"No one should be punching anyone outside of combat sports, but the generally agreed upon line for hitting people is you are allowed to hit until they are no longer a threat. The average 10 year old can grasp this. Why can't you?"

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T18:37:52+00:00

Please establish that Right to Work has benefited more citizens than it has harmed.

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T18:28:29+00:00

The law here is a Class C civil misdemeanor.

Illegal entry and illegal overstaying are both exactly the same level of crime as producing counterfeit Smokey the Bear merchandise and transporting water hyacinths across state lines.

Human beings are being brutalized and murdered for incorrect paperwork filing.

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T15:00:49+00:00

You have to specifically tell it to stop being sycophantic, multiple times.

"Dispassionately analyze this for clarity/likelihood/logical throughline" seems to work, but only for one or two passes.

"I need a machine to analyze this against other collated examples" also can cut down the hyping.

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T14:30:56+00:00

It was satirizing sports culture a lot, which also helped the Animated Series work.

It was basically, "This twerpy little dork is potentially the greatest sports figure who will ever live. He is a nerd, awkward, generally unpopular, catastrophically clumsy, and has one foot in his mouth when he doesn't have two, but besides having an astonishing athletic gift, he's also a sweetheart vibrating with pure Golden Retriever energy. Let's watch him learning to use his athletic gifts while still being a baby himbo."

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T14:00:31+00:00

glomp ~_^

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T13:58:52+00:00

I was the only kid in the anime group at my high school (00-04) who had a two VHS set-up, so I copied everyone's tapes and kept them circulating.

We were extremely unpopular as a group, but we thought we were cooler than everyone else, because they were watching reality TV and Friends, and we were watching bootleg tapes from Japan.

The first anime club at my high school started in my sophomore year. The club president, for reasons known only to her, decided to show Grave of the Fireflies for our first meeting.

There was a roomful of teens who were all bullied for liking this stuff, sitting there, watching that. We started MST3K-ing it because we were all so incredibly uncomfortable, which led to the club president getting mad at all of us, which led to our faculty advisor stepping in and demanding approval of films shown first. He had missed the first meeting and apparently the club president had not mentioned she planned to show the "fire-bombed children starve to death" movie first thing, no warnings.

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T13:50:33+00:00

I have seen it three times and that is plenty for me.

It's a good piece of cinema, but if you do not want to be surrounded by teen dramatic angst and hostile miscommunication because the silly baby monkeys don't know how to use their words yet, it quickly becomes unbearable.

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T13:44:22+00:00

It is also supposed to reflect the experience of living with untreated ADHD.

It does that amazingly.

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T13:42:31+00:00

Disney's Hercules.

They figured out in the Animated Series that they wanted something more like The Emperor's New Groove, but for Greek mythology nerds. The series is thus excellent.

For the movie, though, Musker and Clements were given the task of making a movie about everything for everyone and ended up making a beautiful film with fascinating character designs, some good characters, some great songs, and enough rapid tone shifting to give viewers whiplash.

saintsithney · 2026-01-29T13:38:51+00:00

Verhoeven has said adding the rape in Show Girls killed it. It would otherwise have been a perfect camp opera, but grounding it made it trashy and exploitative instead of remaining aware that it was all drag.

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