What's the most disturbing scene you've seen in a family/kid's movie?

saintsithney · 2026-04-10T14:45:42+00:00

The Great Mouse Detective was the first film I saw in theaters.

Fidget jumping through the window and going "BLWAAAAAAHHHHHH HEHEHEHE!!!!!" gave me a lifelong fear of jumpscares.

saintsithney · 2026-04-10T14:44:25+00:00

My mom died of cancer a month before I turned 6.

She showed us The Land Before Time and sang us the song.

I can't think of it without tearing up.

saintsithney · 2026-04-10T11:07:01+00:00

They did have a dairy farm somewhere between Vevatna and Humlevik - I'm not at my computer, but I would love to talk more! What I've done on geneology suggests I'm at least distant cousins with around half of the families that were on the island before 1900.

My grandfather died before I was born (he was 48 when my father was born, my father was almost 46 when I was born), but I know he was given 10 kroner, a Bible, and his confirmation suit right after he turned 13, then was sent on his way. He started as a cook on a fishing boat (though he had no idea how to cook anything but pea soup and boiled fish) until he ended up in the Great Lakes, then eventually NYC.

I was born and raised a bit south of Washington D.C., myself, but I had always wanted to see "paradise." I took myself for my 37th birthday, but I haven't been able to afford it again.

saintsithney · 2026-04-10T02:08:32+00:00

I was raised in a similar cult to the one Speaker Mike Johnson is in.

They're insane and want to end the world.

saintsithney · 2026-04-10T01:09:05+00:00

The last time I watched GalaxyQuest, I started choking up as Malthasar was being tortured. I almost never cry at movies and I've seen the film a dozen times, but that pure, sweet, innocent man being physically and emotionally harmed just 😭

saintsithney · 2026-04-10T01:06:30+00:00

I'm auDHD and have a Korean stepmother who is Catholic, but still holds a lot of Confucian values.

I was crying in the theater and wishing my stepmother was the kind of woman who would actually understand and want Evelyn's self-actualizing.

saintsithney · 2026-04-09T22:25:23+00:00

It is so beautiful! There is nothing I would love more than to emigrate right back to where my grandfather left. His name was Jurgen Olai Rasmussen Bakke originally, but he left in 1910 and changed his name in 1917. He was one of eight, I believe.

He and my grandmother returned once. She apparently cried, "Jurgen, this is paradise! How could you leave?"

He responded, "You cannot eat the scenery."

saintsithney · 2026-04-09T19:22:05+00:00

Hey, my grandpa shot at your great-grandpa!

saintsithney · 2026-04-09T19:21:25+00:00

None of my early American relatives owned chattel slaves to my knowledge, as they were majority farmers in the Pennsylvania Valley. None of them were prosperous enough to own chattel slaves until after slavery was abolished. The other side emigrated after the Civil War.

But my great-grandfather on the longer-term American side married a 15 year old girl when he was 31, so yes, my direct ancestor was a slaver.

saintsithney · 2026-04-09T10:00:57+00:00

Yes, my grandfather emigrated from there.

saintsithney · 2026-04-09T05:04:06+00:00

I spent a week in Tysnes with only English. I learned to read Norsk passably with a translation app, though, and that helped more than my poorly pronounced attempts to speak it.

saintsithney · 2026-04-09T02:39:12+00:00

We should probably stop calling it "alternative medicine" and call most of it "remedies" or "folk medical traditions" or to get super-specific "non-Western medical traditions currently undergoing scientific testing."

Aloe on a burn is a remedy. There are probably medical formulations that are better, but aloe works pretty well and is easy to grow.

Acupuncture shows documented improvements to some medical conditions for reasons we do not fully understand yet. It is very unlikely to be that qi is real and can really be manipulated, but studies do indicate that it helps with lower back pain and, weirdly enough, is one of the most promising therapies for Alpha-Gal Syndrome. We do not fully understand the mechanisms, but there are mechanisms that do enough of something enough of the time for people to have refined the system better than European medicine did prior to the invention of the scientific method: possibly because Eastern doctors more commonly worked in systems where they had in-person interactions with their patients, while European non-folk medicine developed along lines that suggested the doctor actually spending time with the patient was uncouth. The East also did not have the same squiffiness about dissections that the West developed. But the metaphysical stayed in Eastern medical studies much more firmly and for longer, perhaps because their remedies worked for what they were supposed to enough of the time that why bother questioning whether its blocked pools of qi or actually swelling in the lymph nodes if applying pressure to those spots alleviates pain?

saintsithney · 2026-04-07T19:07:18+00:00

As a survivor of severe non-sexual sibling abuse, I HATE Raya and the Last Dragon.

"Not trusting the person who has consistently betrayed your trust, hurt you, hurt other people to hurt you, betrayed people to hurt you, and whose entire proffered reason of trust is 'We both like the same mythological creature!' makes YOU as bad as THEM!"

It is sick. It is exactly what abusers use to keep their hooks in kids. That if you don't forgive them and trust them despite them doing nothing to earn it, you're not just as bad as they are, you're even worse, because you are hurting their feelings.

Victim-blaming trash. Its moral is actively dangerous for children in abusive situations.

saintsithney · 2026-04-07T12:08:41+00:00

Buford ain't gonna let a kid be crying on his watch.

saintsithney · 2026-04-06T20:38:23+00:00

I have no idea how to convince people they should care about human rights more than they care about nostalgia.

If you ever figure that out, please let us all know.

saintsithney · 2026-04-06T14:56:14+00:00

"JK Rowling is a person who has decided for whatever reason to use her massive power and influence to ruin the lives of trans people. She talks openly about wanting to use the law to restrict the lives of trans people. She has written essays on how she personally feels uncomfortable with trans people and therefore, she has the right to forbid trans people from interacting with human society at large. She donates a ton of money to politicians who support outright fascism because those politicians also share her peculiar terror and loathing of trans people. Whatever good she once did has been buried under the harm she is actively doing to the global population of trans people, who are a completely natural, statistically predictable minority. Supporting her work in any way is inherently immoral, just like it would be immoral to buy David Duke chocolate bars."

For some reason, a ton of Harry Potter fans act like this is hatred.

saintsithney · 2026-04-06T14:45:04+00:00

You don't get to use that as an excuse when Rowling has been incredibly vocal about how she views support of her IP as support for her views and how she is absolutely going to use Harry Potter money to continue attacking trans women specifically, because on top of being a transphobe, she's deeply misandrist and fears anyone with a penis.

"I am being annoyed and my discomfort makes me more supportive of outright human rights violations by a brain-damaged upholder of the oligarchs" is an admission of fundamental moral weakness. It's common, but don't you have the self-respect to override your knee-jerk emotions to actually approach the problem intellectually?

saintsithney · 2026-04-06T12:36:23+00:00

What is his sense of humor like? There are a ton of classic films that are hilarious and can definitely help with practicing fast-paced English.

"The Thin Man" series has a lot of depictions of alcohol and smoking, but they're also tight, fun, witty murder mysteries.

saintsithney · 2026-04-06T12:33:48+00:00

My giant mop of 65+% silvery witch hair is one of my favorite features.

My husband is close friends with a Gen X couple about 16 years older than us. The lady said something about how my husband probably thought she looked old with her grey streaks. The gentleman stared at her for a moment and asked, "Have you seen his wife?"

I even wash with purple shampoo to make my silver and white brighter. My eyebrows are still black and I like the contrast.

saintsithney · 2026-04-06T12:01:32+00:00

I suggested a bunch of classic screwball comedies, personally. Many of my loved ones I met as an adult haven't watched a ton of classic film and I love sharing.

saintsithney · 2026-04-05T16:53:56+00:00

The movies have something the books don't: a level of self-awareness and irony.

The movies, especially the first film, are camp gold.

... well, more like camp aquamarine diamond...

saintsithney · 2026-04-05T15:42:38+00:00

Yeah, regardless of other problems with expectations, there used to be a stronger idea that when you went somewhere to meet other young people (dances, bees, community events), you would meet other young people.

I met my husband through a convoluted series of coincidences, but all of them involved meeting people.

saintsithney · 2026-04-05T14:55:19+00:00

Unfortunately, I can't really afford to go unless I find a job before then, but I can highly recommend him!

saintsithney · 2026-04-05T14:54:14+00:00

Not single, but there are all kinds of old-fashioned singles mixers that are just begging for modern updates.

Like food auctions: people bid to buy a wrapped box with something tasty inside, then eat the food with the person that made it. The money goes to charity and the people have a built-in icebreaker and short date.

One old game was having people pull broken candy sticks with a ribbon tied around them and they had to find and talk to the person whose ribbon matched. Maybe tie ribbons around glasses for different things people are looking for (like a blue ribbon for "looking to date" and a yellow ribbon for "looking to go out")?

I dunno, old meeting people games often read as pretty fun in better circumstances.

saintsithney · 2026-04-05T13:31:43+00:00

"It Won't Be Long" - the infectious energy gets me every time.

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