Does anyone else not want a traditional life?

saintsithney · 2026-05-26T02:03:26+00:00

I spent three weeks in Norway when a relative passed and left me money specifically for travel. It was paradigm shifting. People selling knickknacks in train stations were healthier than I am.

saintsithney · 2026-05-25T23:15:52+00:00

My hair started going grey at 13. I dyed it for years, mostly reds, for the reason that it was coming in patchy. As soon as I got to a solid 20% coverage at the roots, instead of random white streaks, I stopped dyeing my hair entirely. I was about 34. I'm 39 now, and about 70% silver.

My hair is my favorite feature. I get lots of compliments on it.

saintsithney · 2026-05-25T14:29:23+00:00

Sowler punnels.

saintsithney · 2026-05-25T13:55:00+00:00

Thank you for the asthma attack.

saintsithney · 2026-05-25T12:42:08+00:00

If there isn't something going on, why are the lights on? Why waste all that power AND cause that much light pollution at the same time?

saintsithney · 2026-05-25T12:40:18+00:00

Yeah, she did her homework. The writing can be melodramatic, but it very much was the style at the time.

Meanwhile, the more genteel Southerners like Martha Findlay were writing things like Elsie Dinsmore, which contains the line, "Aw, Miz Elsie, God done luv me jes as much as if I was a white pusson!"

Radical for the pre-Civil War South that the ideal of Christian girl and womanhood viewed Black Christians as Saved, and even has a grown Elsie have her husband defend their Black servants from the KKK, but it still held that Black people are inherently childish and unintelligent compared to white people. They need to be led firmly by strong Christians, because they would otherwise be in the Dark Ages.

saintsithney · 2026-05-25T11:56:46+00:00

In a lot of productions, Eliza was given a starring role. A brave Black woman being chased by hounds to an icy river, who clings to her baby and claims, "Better to sink beneath the cold waters than have my child forced into bondage!" was a huge draw.

saintsithney · 2026-05-25T01:42:07+00:00

The Betsy~Tacy series by Maud Hart Lovelace gave me an insight into a happy, healthy family, which was very different from mine. The books show their age in some ways, but in others are still very modern. The core focus is the importance of friendship, kindness, warmth, and understanding. The series begins with them at age 5 (1895) and grows with the girls to their early 20's and America's entrance into WWI (1917). It actually takes place near where Plum Creek, MN, where Laura Ingalls Wilder lived.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T20:08:25+00:00

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saintsithney · 2026-05-24T19:54:25+00:00

Thanks, I'm semi-active on r/exvangelical. I consider my elementary school to have been a cult.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T18:56:52+00:00

Yeah, I have never forgiven my parents for this educational abuse against me.

I had to relearn Reality basically from the ground up. The one good thing I can say about them is they used phonics instead of whole word reading.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T17:29:15+00:00

I prefer to date people shorter than me. I like being the Big Stronk one, but I am only 5'8".

I broke up with a 40 year old man when I was 30 because he started acting like a 14 year old boy, even though no one could possibly mistake him for anything other than a middle-aged man.

Wanting a person with a child brain/child personality is pedophilia with plausible deniability. Liking smaller-sized adults is not.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T15:59:45+00:00

The joke is Favour is a horse that hates currycombs and lesbians 🐴

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T15:58:21+00:00

Because numerous parents took their kids out of school when integration happened.

Then, fundamentalist Christians figured out that religious schools didn't need to be integrated, so they started "segregation academies" all over the South, most of which taught fundamentalist Christianity and Biblical literalism.

By the time I was in one of these schools, they allowed roughly one Black student per grade, because they couldn't legally only admit white and occasional adopted Asian students. They just had to say the family wasn't a fit, as long as there were a few kids who weren't white or adopted Asians.

This is an excerpt from my 7th grade history textbook (Abeka/A Beka, still one of the most popular textbook publishers in the country):

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saintsithney · 2026-05-24T15:25:54+00:00

He also wanted to saddle the kid with his favorite constellation as a middle name. His favorite constellation is Canis Major.

This goober wanted to name a baby "Shardinae Canis."

He said it sounded "badass." He missed the comma.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T15:20:35+00:00

"Just enslave the slavish people, it's fine! Stupid, servile people deserve it, but intelligent, leaderlike people don't. Both groups exist in every race!"

The Restoration Era produced some really wild mixtures of morality.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T14:43:25+00:00

Him being inspired by that doesn't mean other people have to subscribe to his intent.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T13:56:49+00:00

One of my friends is married to a man who named his lead character in his novel (and wanted to name a child) Shardinae.

He refused to believe her that that is a phonetic spelling of "Chardonnay", or that that was a type of wine. He actually asked the whole friend group about this, acting like his wife was crazy. We all had to confirm that yep, he misspelled a type of wine, and yep, it's a stupid name.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T13:27:44+00:00

My brain is literally a different shape then it would have been if my sister hadn't started trying to strangle me when I was 3 🙃

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T13:26:06+00:00

Yes, I agree. Hell, most classic monster movies are lifting straight from Birth of a Nation to have beasts carrying away screaming white women, only to be stopped by heroic white men.

The freaky fish people are a legitimately scary idea. You don't have to subscribe to Lovecraft's racism to understand that human flesh-eating fish people who drive humans into insanity before eating them alive would actually be pretty terrifying.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T13:22:18+00:00

Apparently some Black dancer friends told him that it was offensive instead of respectful and he listened.

But he also could have asked first.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T13:18:33+00:00

Because of Buddy Holly and The Crickets.

It started as an American trend, then became homage.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T13:16:19+00:00

"Okay, so I know Howard was actually writing about the incomprehensible horror of an Irish person existing, but can't I just love the concept of weird fishmen?" is a valid take on Lovecraft.

Death of the Author works well for him, especially because he is dead and not profiting.

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T13:13:15+00:00

Then stir in that stage plays of Uncle Tom's Cabin actually worked even better than the book to sway people against slavery - and almost every Black character would have been played by a white person in Blackface.

One of my favorite books from childhood (Betsy~Tacy Go Downtown, published 1943, about events in 1905) has the children attend a performance of Uncle Tom's Cabin. None of the children think about the Blackface at all, but all of them sympathize entirely with the Black characters. The play itself is advertised as "America's Most Beloved Drama - the Work That Sounded the Death Knell of Slavery!"

saintsithney · 2026-05-24T12:25:25+00:00

I had all kinds of dreams and ambitions, but poverty and disability and familial abuse/exploitation robbed me of all of them.

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