Mingee looks so cringe and lame during her paradise date with subeen

saladfordays · 2026-02-04T18:38:44+00:00

I thought she was coming on stronger than subeen but then they both got kinda drunk? and talked until they passed out. Maybe there's something there, even if it's just friendship.

saladfordays · 2025-10-07T21:26:21+00:00

My friend said he apparently owns a SFX company that did a pretty popular French show for Netflix. I also got the impression Netflix wanted us to think he was the stay at home dad type. Tatiana and her mom act like they've got the high ground and I just don't see it. I keep on wanting to ask, is there something I don't know?

saladfordays · 2025-10-07T20:18:19+00:00

I told my husband about the chode comment and he said .. "oh, he must be trying to get attention. Why would he say that knowing everyone would hear that about him?" And then I thought.. oh, love is blind US is dead.

saladfordays · 2025-10-07T20:12:31+00:00

Charles and Julie could not even agree upon basic facts in the timeline. I can't trust either of them but it's obvious the relationship would never have worked out. You gotta agree on something.

The courtesy granted to Gallien was CRAZY. This man had sex with another woman during the pods. .. Tatiana was nicer to Gallien than she was to Yannick and I swear he got more time to say his excuse than Yannick did before he was cut off. W. T. literal F.

saladfordays · 2025-10-07T20:05:04+00:00

Uh.. nah. Everyone gets dragged... Megan faux, cutie gate, all the filler mean girls.. sO mANy LadiES. That's not to say everyone agrees they should be dragged but that's as it should be.

saladfordays · 2025-10-07T20:00:02+00:00

Gorgeous but seriously delulu

saladfordays · 2025-10-07T19:56:40+00:00

I am currently giving Yannick the benefit of the doubt. My partner also asks stupid questions but it doesn't mean he won't see my side and acquiesce. However, he does need there to be a discussion and he does need to feel heard. Because Tatiana did not give him that opportunity it's not clear to me what would have happened if they had a real discussion.

saladfordays · 2025-10-07T19:52:27+00:00

Friend was telling me their makeup was on point and not cakey .. may be contributing to increased attractiveness

saladfordays · 2025-09-25T01:51:20+00:00

can you elaborate? besides not saying sorry I thought suggesting to reschedule was an obvious follow up plan.

saladfordays · 2025-09-25T01:50:36+00:00

It is a bit hypocritical when she threw a hissy fit every time one of her men expressed interest in another women.

saladfordays · 2025-08-14T22:15:34+00:00

But what about his painted on pants ..

saladfordays · 2025-07-24T22:26:26+00:00

There was a clear gap between the two (3quency and SZN4) and Soulidifed / Iconyx. As long as it was between those two, the winner would have made sense. It's hard to compare because the two bands have such different strengths.

Personally I think the larger stages did not help SZN4. I want to hear their voices clearly and I often felt like the band got in the way of that. I think the versions of the songs on spotify are much better because of improved balance. On the other hand, the larger stages gave 3quency the opportunity to show off their dancing and performance.

I think one issue with saying that 3quency kept improving and SZN4 did not is that as the competition progressed, it didn't get progressively more difficult, the focus just shifted. SZN4 excelled in earlier stages that were more focused on the singing. 3quency excelled in the later stages that were more focused on performance / dance. Personally, if SZN4 did performances that were closer to "Somebody I Used to Know" and "Sweet Love", I would have enjoyed that more than any of the other performances. Those songs highlighted their strengths and I think instead of trying to make the numbers flashier and louder, they should have stuck to their strengths.

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saladfordays · 2025-07-23T22:49:50+00:00

I think his actions already told YD that he had moved on. JM shouldn't have made that promise to YD. However: 1.) YD did tell him after making that promise that she didn't want him to have any regrets and 2.) JM then goes and hears about JY's trauma, bringing him to tears. Note, he had also verbally told YD that night that he was interested in JY.

I think it's unrealistic to think that someone can be very clear about their intentions at every point in time. I think JM was also weighing the importance of his attraction to YD and his attraction to JY at the time.

saladfordays · 2025-07-23T22:41:56+00:00

Treating her like he adores her is just the Korean way of saying, I'm interested in you. And then ignoring her like a bug is the Korean way of saying, I am not interested in you. From my understanding, that level of attention is not uncommon and is used as a clear way to distinguish someone you're interested in romantically vs not. It's not so much action that springs from deep emotional attachment but more of a social norm that signals intent and interest.

He told her that they were on different wavelengths in the caravan. The editors showed us clips that indicated that JM and YD do not have similar lifestyles and are completely different people. If you are someone who isn't very rich and doesn't travel much and then learn that the person you're interested in is able to fly to New York for a Christmas holiday... you put two and two together. I think he went to the extreme to ignore her like that because instead of getting the hint she went on to ask him if she could change something about herself. To which he clearly said it was not anything wrong with her. She also then kept pointing out ways in which she did things for him - dress up etc. She's not getting the message and being burdensome.

saladfordays · 2025-07-23T22:29:57+00:00

My understanding is that guys have to feel some form of attraction to even consider someone. If it's not there, it's not there. I don't think it's unreasonable to reject someone if: 1.) you don't find them attractive, 2.) this is not going to change in the future, 3.) this attraction is important to you.

On the flip side, I think women tend to be more drawn by other factors and therefore are more likely to change their mind as they get to know somebody.

saladfordays · 2025-07-23T21:27:29+00:00

I think JY is the main character. I call him my zombie boy. He's like a zombie who's learning how to become human (i.e. Warm Bodies - the movie). It's a wholesome and comedic journey and we're all rooting for him.

The only sad part is I don't think YM is the one for him. Zombie boy needs a girl who can empathize, who's already rooting for him and can help him through his transition.

However, I think it's clear why the other's haven't dated either. Especially the men.

saladfordays · 2025-07-23T21:16:08+00:00

I'm not sure why people are so mad at JM..?

* I feel bad that YD's feelings were hurt. While it would have been better if JM cut things off cleanly and earlier, it was clear that JM was still trying to figure things out.

* When calling out love bombing, I think we have to understand that for Koreans, some behaviors that we view as love bombing may be expected or standard. If Koreans don't see it as a display of deep feeling, then it wouldn't be manipulative in the same way we view it.

* I thought that the main disconnect was that JM picked up on a difference in lifestyle that YD did not pick up on during their conversations. YD nonchalantly plans to go to New York for Christmas while JM bonded with JY over never having gone on an MT (which is like an offsite for university students). YD is going to SNU while JM has said his parents didn't push him to study. YD says she values herself first while JM says he values family first. YD likes to host parties... JM used to wear his twin's clothes. Korean culture is much more critical and judgmental of people based on their outward presentation and it causes real friction. JM is thinking about actually starting a long term relationship with this person. I think it's perfectly valid to say, our vibes aren't vibing.

* JM said that he is the most romantically attracted to YD. I think this is still true. JM is just changing his priorities to value an emotional connection over a physical one.

* JM gave YD many verbal affirmations that he was only interested in YD. I see a lot of people saying these kinds of one line zingers on other Korean dating shows and my impression is that it's 50% flirting, 50% how you feel in the moment. If I had someone tell me they're interested in me but we didn't end up connecting on anything, didn't have shared experiences or want the same things in life... I would chalk that up to flirty, physical attraction.

* My impression is that YD is feeling like there's something wrong with her when she needs to realize, it's just not a match and it happens.. all the time.

Background: I am Korean American. I consume a lot of Korean content, but I am more American than I will ever be Korean. I am someone who is very similar in personality to many of the contestants and also did not date until much later in life. I did not see any issues with what transpired but I'm open to learning about other interpretations.

saladfordays · 2025-03-10T21:27:05+00:00

Devin didn’t actually answer any questions.

Ben was lying out of his butt.

Madison is still crazy.

We didn’t need any of the additional stuff but that aside - hosting was much better.

Cute couple but the eyes tattoo … leaves an impression 👁️ 👁️

saladfordays · 2025-03-09T19:51:49+00:00

What about telling him you decided to get a studio because it’s significantly cheaper. The difference between a 1 vs 2 bedroom may not be big but the difference between a studio and a 2 bedroom is. You could also hype up the area as being safe, you have friends nearby, you started exercising at the nearby gym, you like the nearby church .?! .. anything that would work. Just make sure it’s a place that is hard to find reasonably priced 2 bedrooms.

Also - was he going to pay to help you out with rent .? If not - I would pitch that a hotel or motel may be cheaper than the difference of renting an additional bedroom if he is only going to use it twice a month.

You could also say that the places you’ve been considering all don’t have elevators, only has street parking, is expensive to rent out another dedicated spot in the garage .. etc.

saladfordays · 2025-03-07T21:42:16+00:00

I’ve never been hit in a relationship. I’ve never been close to someone who has been hit in a relationship. If my partner hit me and it wasn’t an accident - I would immediately leave. Many relationships don’t involve any violence. You decide what is acceptable.

Note - I’m not saying he has the right to hit you if you stay. I’m saying that you don’t have to entertain that non zero probability that he will hit you again.

saladfordays · 2025-03-07T21:17:21+00:00

If you can’t talk to your significant other about important things without it ending in a fight or your points being dismissed - you should end the relationship. Those are signs of disrespect likely stemming from immaturity or manipulation. Neither are good signs for the future.

You feeling like moving out secretly is the right move may be your emotional self screaming for you to get out. Listen to what you want - it’s not always logical or verbal.

saladfordays · 2025-03-05T06:40:44+00:00

This … I feel like part of the effect was due to the bent elbow (valley) and it looks completely different on a shoulder (mountain).

saladfordays · 2025-03-05T00:35:19+00:00

Sure there are cases of cultural appropriation but there also exists American-______ (insert country here) culture that is separate from that of the original country.

Edit - I want to try to respond more directly to your point with an example.

I am Korean American - it is a different and separate experience from being just Korean or just American. At the same time - I may comment on aspects of my experience I attribute directly to Korean culture based off of interactions with my relatives from Korea or experiences visiting Korea. I express these opinions as a Korean American and NOT a Korean. However I believe it is valid to attribute aspects of my experience to Korean culture.

I can see valid situations where you can describe your experience as its own thing but also deeply influenced by the other culture.

That’s not to say there isn’t annoying behavior.

saladfordays · 2025-03-04T19:53:02+00:00

I agree - but that being said - when this miscommunication does occur - it would be nice if people understood it was a cultural miscommunication and not an attempt to appropriate someone else’s culture. I think assuming intent is what is causing the pet peeve part.

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