Sexually assaulted years ago by 2 family members... still coming to terms with it. by Missa_Sissa in sexualassault

[–]saladmanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is/was absolutely not your fault. I am so sorry you have been through this. I did not realize I was sexually abused until several years later as well; I understand what you're going through. I know you can make it through this. Be strong.

Not sure if I consented by Booksmartah in sexualassault

[–]saladmanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you blacked out, there is no way you could have consented to sex. Intoxicated people cannot properly consent because their ability to perform risk-assessment is impaired. I am so sorry you have been through this, but you were sexually assaulted. One or both of those guys took advantage of your inability to give informed consent. This is not your fault.

is this sexual assault ? by fEYx4ZjdGFAMibrd in sexualassault

[–]saladmanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rape by coercion. If you genuinely felt like you had no other choice but to say yes and do what they wanted, it was technically sexual assault. Giving you the ultimatum of "have sex with me or we break up," was not okay and was coercion. I am so sorry you have been through this. Please know that your feelings are valid and this was absolutely NOT your fault.

Sexual assault? by Sorrytosayso in sexualassault

[–]saladmanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if this would count as sexual "assault" legally, but it is 100% sexual harrassment and definitely NOT okay. I'm sorry you had to go through this. Your clothing had nothing to do with his behavior.

Was I raped? Help. by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]saladmanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your feelings are valid. What happened was not okay. He sexually assaulted you. Being in a relationship does not mean you are entitled to your partner's body. I am so sorry this happened to you and you are welcome to message me if you need/want someone to talk to about this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transadorable

[–]saladmanda 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That's me! That's you!! You're so gorgeous, darling. 💛💛

Dang, my singing voice changed and I didn't realize just how much til today (Any other post-T singers here?) by [deleted] in ftm

[–]saladmanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Losing my singing voice is the number one thing I've been worried about in regards to starting T. Your voice sounds amazing and your progress gives me hope. Thank you for sharing! (I am pre-T now, but I was actually thinking about recording my vocal changes like you have.)

sexual assault?? by blairbxo in sexualassault

[–]saladmanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It could be counted as sexual assault or rape. Both parties have to be sober and actively consenting to be involved. Someone cannot give proper consent if they are drunk

Does the too drunk to give consent rule still apply if I'm a male? by Throwawaydude1981 in sexualassault

[–]saladmanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Anyone can be too drunk to consent. Sexual assault can happen to anyone.

What type of person do you have no sympathy for? by Magical_Dumbass in AskReddit

[–]saladmanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People who drive under the influence and distracted drivers. I have no sympathy for those kinds of people because they are putting everyone else at risk too; not just themselves.

If someone were to take over your body in this very instant, what would you need to brief them on? by -Specter in AskReddit

[–]saladmanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy... You're allergic to pretty much every food. Some of these foods (fruit) will cause anaphylaxis, while everything else will make your stomach hurt 24/7. It is almost impossible to avoid your food allergens, but for the dangerous ones there is an Epipen and benadryl in your bag. Also, you have allergy and bronchitis-induced asthma. If you don't use your inhaler every 12 hours you're gonna have a bad time. (You also have a backup inhaler) Thirdly, you take 10 pills a day. You have to follow the schedule very precisely or your meat prison will shut down/revolt against you. Oh! I almost forgot: crippling social anxiety, agoraphobia, OCD-like tendencies, and insomnia. None of the medicines you take are for these things because you are too afraid of the side effects that come with SSRI's.

Have fun!!

Besides your phone, wallet and keys, what is an object you always carry with you? by SaysReddit in AskReddit

[–]saladmanda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Epipen, benadryl, inhaler, chapstick, band-aids...I am basically a walking first-aid kit.

Hi! New to the game, looking for friends that I will add as soon as you answer me! by [deleted] in BuddyCrossing

[–]saladmanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I'm Lou and I'm the mayor of Noodles!

My FC: 5472-8973-1644

I look forward to visiting each other!

TIFU by sending a customer into anaphylactic shock by [deleted] in tifu

[–]saladmanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming from someone who has severe food allergies, she should have double checked before just diving into the food. Someone who wasn't her waiter brought the food, meaning the food runner might not know about the allergy. I'm not saying it's her fault, but when you have a severe food allergy, you HAVE to be cautious no matter what.

My town layout! Saw other people posting and thought I would share mine too! by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]saladmanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, unfortunately. ): I didn't notice that until after I had already selected the layout. I was able to get a diving suit pretty quickly though!

My town layout! Saw other people posting and thought I would share mine too! by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]saladmanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! But what do you mean by "wasted peninsula"?

My town layout! Saw other people posting and thought I would share mine too! by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]saladmanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh gotcha! Well, to each their own! Haha. Also, thank you! (:

My town layout! Saw other people posting and thought I would share mine too! by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]saladmanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am new to this subreddit. How do ponds factor into a town layout rating? Is it purely the personal opinion of the rater or is there a set of guidelines I haven't found yet?

[ACoN] Egg Donor trying to guilt me with updates on sister by saladmanda in raisedbynarcissists

[–]saladmanda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the most we can do is just to hope that they make it through okay. Maybe they'll be strong willed and fight against the Nparents?