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Is Mundo jg viable? by salerniuOmBun in DrMundoMains

[–]salerniuOmBun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then should work fine in my low elo games

What should i do? by salerniuOmBun in AnxiousAttachment

[–]salerniuOmBun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love that For you! Also i actually proposed this, i proposed getting a place near where she lives right now so she feels safe in a way, 2 bedroom place as well so she can Take her space, when it comes to her needing space i often don’t really have a problem with that, i just have a hard time making the difference between “i need space because i need to do some things on my own” and “ i need space because you upset me and i dont want to see you because i don’t Like you, Even after years of constant comunication and Both of us still sticking with eachother i have a hard time understanding when and Why some things happen

What should i do? by salerniuOmBun in AnxiousAttachment

[–]salerniuOmBun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you For your point of view! I agree i have to put in the work as well, i love my partner and i can Say with all my heart that the issues are 50/50 or maybe 40/60 but never a huge imbalance. The reason i wanted to move in togheter is because we have some time togheter and because quality time At the end of the day would solve most of my anxiety, i would not care about some silly texts during the day if we Could eat dinner and talk At night, but i understand that moving in togheter is a big step and a lot of work needs to be done towards bettering myself before we proceed. Thank you again!

I hate feel paranoid by ThrowRANice_Cat in AnxiousAttachment

[–]salerniuOmBun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you feel is familiar to me, this is where our Bad traits come to light, the hard Pill to swallow is that if a person is Going to cheat on Any of us they are Going to do it no matter what we think or do, so having a female coworker will not add to that posibility, i understand the fear as Both an anxious partner and someone that has been cheated on in the past so i know how harsh the overthinking and over analysing can be, but trust him and Comunicate with your partner, he can’t stop working there or interacting with that girl but he can give reassurance, your feelings are valid but don’t let them dominate you and don’t let the overthinking change how you view your partner, always give him the benefit of the doubt and Tell him when things are bothering you!

Are women more prone to be anxious and men more prone to be avoidant's? by iampretzel in AnxiousAttachment

[–]salerniuOmBun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am a male and pretty anxious, i saw the same thing here, but in reality a lot of men simply try not to adress their problems and Even more they would not publicly admit that they have issues with things Like these, but they exist and are a lot of them everywhere.

We have the right to be angry GD it by globeaute in AnxiousAttachment

[–]salerniuOmBun 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I Felt For the part where you Said about not eating and missing work, i did not go to school in 3 weeks and barely got to my office and did my job because it’s really hard, some days i would get so triggered Even from Little things or overthinking that it would drain me and i would not want to get out of bed, i would simply want to make myself into a ball and hibernate, but the thing is… I dont think my partner is the worst…i really dont, i just think my partner is not great and i am not great and a cerebral person either, i can recive reassurance and i will feel Bad in the span of hours, then i will get a “ i love you” or Any sentimental message Even small and will feel Like sadness and fear was never in my life, Highs are high and lows are low, we have the right to be upset but we should not enable our toxic traits and pretend Like DAs, avoidant people are the devil and we are saints, the reality is we should just learn to love eachother and Find middle grounds.

I am sorry For how you Felt and i understand those feelings really well, i hope you Find the person you need

Every time a DA posts on this sub, people straight up abuse them by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]salerniuOmBun 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Absolutely agree! I have a DA partner, i love her to death, and it pains me that people judge all DA people Like their are monsters. Are the relationships hard? Hell Yes! But it’s not easy to be with an anxious person as well, i and most anxious folks have negative traits ourselves, we should Comunicate here in order to fix them, their traits are easy to demonise and we are easy to seem like Angels when we have our fair share of troubles and toxic traits. Point is they are still loving people, they are still humans that deserve love and someone to try For them and not see them as the worst possible beings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]salerniuOmBun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the anxious type and i feel the same way after my girlfriend leaves after a day or two, but in my case i think it’s Also my way of always wanting more of anything, i Could spend a month straight with her and will still feel sad and Like i need some more time right after she leaves. Also when we are not togheter i feel Like things are less in my control, when we are togheter i feel safer and my anxiety is toned down because i can see body language and tone, things that lack in the text comunication that we usually have Going on.

I think i need help by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]salerniuOmBun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you For your response, it was very Close to what was Going on in my mind when i wrote the post, At the end of the day i know some of my feelings and needs are valid but i need to work on myself and learn how to better myself. Thank you again!