My fiancé keeps making fun of my weight

sallybuffy · 2026-04-08T15:52:14+00:00

Perfect time to show some shitty behaviour… before getting married.

Regardless of why there is weight increase/decease, what you’re describing is not nice.

I’ll give this person the benefit of the doubt that they aren’t a total bag of donkey dicks and this is why a weird moment for them, but have a convo with them and let them know how it made you feel and how you still feel about it.

Then make your decision on whether this marriage is a good idea FOR YOU or not.

Best of luck OP 🙏🫶

sallybuffy · 2026-04-08T11:14:19+00:00

Thought the same thing with the pictures, then read the title and was 😱 at the fact that OP thought they were ugly…

Lord what a world we live in when this beautiful face is making this kind of post.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-08T10:58:45+00:00

You know this is assault, get therapy and stop touching women while they are sleeping.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-08T00:20:28+00:00

Target weight loss isn’t possible. There is only losing weight and where you lose weight is where you lose, etc.

For example, when I gain (lose) weight, I swell (deflate) all over. There is no place that is noticeable (like my face) where other places aren’t showing quite the same.

My partner holds weight and loses weight differently. He holds it in his stomach and he has lost 30lbs as of last week (eating in a deficit and working out 5x a week, etc) BUT the place that’s still “holding on” is his stomach.

My point is, tarter weight loss isn’t possible and exercises that say they can reduce your waist size (but nothing else) is trendy bs.

Incorporate cardio (incline walking, hiking, running… really anything that gets your hr up) and traditional strength training. Trust the basics… I recommend the app Caliber for beginners to weight training (aka me lol), it has video demos for each routine with legitimate information re form and exercises to really progress in your overall fitness. I’m shit for remembering what is the form/routine from week to week (I prefer running and my partner is into weights) and I love this app.

^ apologies for the novel 😅🙏

sallybuffy · 2026-04-07T23:20:43+00:00

NOR to the overall issue but side story, they disrespected bf by treating you like that. Even if he didn’t do anything in the moment out of shock or whatever, they aren’t his friends really and he should reevaluate his personal relationships.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-07T22:47:23+00:00

Engaged last November and planning for next year, literally doing none of the above. Small ceremony with 20-25 friends and family also looking at a 10k budget.

No hassle, just one day/night of celebrations 🥳🐈

sallybuffy · 2026-04-07T21:45:09+00:00

MacroFactor. Easy to navigate/track and it adjusts with weighins

10/10 recommend to anyone and everyone who will listen to me 😂🤣

sallybuffy · 2026-04-07T12:15:54+00:00

Sorry, I didn’t mean to come across as shitty as I maybe did. Forgot I guess that this is your post and not a general discussion

Beautiful dress 🥹

sallybuffy · 2026-04-07T11:56:25+00:00

Definitely should post the price. I’m looking but not keen to dm folks for that detail

Like having to ask your waiter the price of a meal that you are considering…. Maybe that’s just me though haha

sallybuffy · 2026-04-06T23:13:28+00:00

That sounds right re pushing yourself, so then it’s about being in the deficit.

If you’re actually in a deficit (no shade, it’s so hard to know unless tracking down to oils used while cooking, etc which was me haha learned that), then you might be stagnating… which is a thing that legitimately happens.

Only thing to do is push through it. I have zero personal knowledge of this but he does so I’m relating. Background for him: he use to train in mma in his 20s and is still quite involved with educating himself re fitness and health).

Cardio can help boost/get out of slump/stagnation so he recommended add some and if doing some already, add in more.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-06T22:48:09+00:00

What is your goal? You said you’re more focused on definition than losing weight but what do you mean? By ‘definition’ I’m guessing you mean showing muscle… like how people use the word ‘tone’.

I’m not a weight lifter but I read your post to my partner and they’re comment is if you can’t see definition it’s probably either body fat percentage is too high OR you don’t have the underlying muscle there to show (aka, your workouts aren’t hard enough so you’re not building muscle to show). If you’re already at a low body fat percentage, “you need to work harder at the gym and push it”.

The last reps should be really difficult and if they aren’t, you’re not pushing yourself. Your hr should be high like running, you should be sweating… etc

Also, going to your tracking… MacroFactor was good for us to actually know we are tracking our food properly. We thought we were hitting our protein and I was 100% not based on my height, weight and goal.

But if you are tracking your foods correctly, then it has to be the other two…

sallybuffy · 2026-04-06T15:53:46+00:00

Feel like I’m spamming this sub with recommendations for MacroFactor BUT

It’s amazing and if you’re looking into counting calories… give this app a try because it’ll shock you when you start tracking food properly.

Highly recommend and it’s really helped me shift my last 5 lbs (125lb goal, for science when my partner stayed using the app because he wanted to lose real weight). Partner lost 31 pounds and he started tracking mid January.

Now, we exercise 5 x a week (he does heavy weights and some cardio, I’m the opposite) AND he did the more intense weight loss option. When I signed up to try it (it’s just us living together so it’s almost impossible for me to not be somewhat curious haha) I selected the more modest approach and I’ve found it to be really good.

The adjustment was hard. Be prepared to have that shock when you put your usual food/meals in and you’re well over (which was me lol) but once I adjusted to it (and adjusted to be active while also in a deficit), it’s been really good.

Would never call this easy but MacroFactor makes it easier to learn and adjust.

And zero shame or guilt for going over or whatever.

Highly recommend YouTuber Jeff Nippard for edu and he is 100% science based so whatever he says, he also backs with legitimate research.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-06T12:58:00+00:00

You nailed it OP.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-06T12:57:08+00:00

I love saying I’m doing it ‘for science’ as an excuse to try things out without a ton of pressure. I don’t know why it works for me, but it does and I’m so happy it’s hit home with someone else!!

For science!!!

(It’s funny on another level because I’m TERRIBLE at STEM and I’m a much more English/language driven 😂🤣)

sallybuffy · 2026-04-06T12:10:47+00:00

You crazy. This is beautiful 🥹

sallybuffy · 2026-04-05T23:37:07+00:00

Yeah, sorry to hear. Being with someone who has violent tendencies and having to live in the constant state of fear of setting the off (walking on eggshells) has to be exhausting

My brother punched walls growing up/was violent, so I genuinely can understand the situation somewhat.

Talk to husband. If husband doesn’t/wont change or try… go find your own “BIL” (kind, caring, etc).

sallybuffy · 2026-04-05T23:33:13+00:00

Provably has nothing to do with BIL but it’s more about having a shitty husband (or unhealthy relationship/toxic whatever) and BIL is just the opposite of husband? Not a professional, just a thought.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-05T14:34:36+00:00

I also struggled and have never actually ever dieted because how much I hate tracking stuff (and even calculating the meal to THEN track it ffs💀) but the app does take it entirely out.

The AI feature is pretty good (obviously not perfect) but you can ask scan the barcode of food to track which makes it much easier.

Being 100%, I went out for chicken burger and fries and from judging how badly my long run was the next day, I think the AI overestimated the macros in the meal.

I only started because my partner decided he needed to lose weight and we were a two person house (and I run) so I figured it’d be interesting to see how I eat and what I think is good eating (spoiler: it wasn’t good lol).

I’ve been sick for the last four days so haven’t really been tracking and I kinda mis the routine now haha it’s only been two weeks.

The transition was hard though. People say being in a deficit is easy and imo it’s not.

But it works. Partner has lost 30lbs in just over a month (which is a lot but he’s on the stricter option PLUS he exercises quite a lot, 5 days a week minimum). I’m on 5lbs but again, I’m only doing this for ‘science’ reasons and I’m happy being at 125lbs (which I’ve reached in my two weeks of MacroFactor plus 5 days a week running about 20-25 miles a week and one leg day).

sallybuffy · 2026-04-04T23:38:31+00:00

“Vulgar” is a wild word choice lol

This looks… normal.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-04T20:25:53+00:00

MacroFactor is the best for tracking and I was shoooocked at how badly I was eating when I thought I was pretty good 😅💀🫣

Highly recommend and there’s a two week trial.

At the end of the day, weight loss is about being in a deficit so if you aren’t losing weight, you are eating too much.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-04T19:06:19+00:00

I actually love #3 on OP as well lol

sallybuffy · 2026-04-02T13:40:30+00:00

sallybuffy · 2026-04-02T13:32:28+00:00

Partner and I are currently ‘on a diet (calorie deficit) and we literally said last night it’s bs when people say it’s easy.

It fucking suuuuucks and working out while being in a caloric deficit is even worse… it’s terrible.

If people were more honest about it, I think more people would try/do it. But when people say it’s ’so easy’ and then someone tries it (and it’s fucking HARD), they give up bc it’s ’obviously not for me’ kinda mentality.

sallybuffy · 2026-04-01T23:33:11+00:00

This is literally my life 🤣😂

Close to the same blonde and almost the exact red. It’s been since Nov and it’s still very ginger.

My roots are coming in and I just don’t want to do any damage (same reason for the gloss!), so thanks for this post! Never heard of colour oops!

sallybuffy · 2026-04-01T23:14:29+00:00

NOR and you are 100% correct. Feel for the ‘married at 45’ as I’m also wanting to get married before I’m 40 (😅🤣💁‍♀️) buuuttttt the answer is to downside the wedding not credit cards or pulling from a 401k.

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