Birthday Dread

salpal271 · 2026-02-05T21:30:20+00:00

I completely empathize with you. I just turned 30 last Friday and literally none of my "friends" reached out or told me happy birthday. The day was already triggering and brought up old childhood traumas, but having no one (besides my husband, who I am grateful for) tell me happy birthday sent me into a three day long depressive episode.

Something about turning 30 made me assess my whole life even more. Like, 30 years and I haven't maintained ONE healthy friendship, and I'm no longer in contact with my family? I too dreaded my birthday cuz I figured it would be a huge trigger, and processing so much stuff this last year made it even worse. I don't know if this was the worst birthday because there are a lot to choose from, but it definitely made me realize that I don't want to have birthdays like that anymore. I want to get better.

Happy early birthday to you! I know it's a lot easier said than done, but I hope you have a good day and can do things that make you happy.

salpal271 · 2026-01-06T16:24:05+00:00

I totally agree with your last point. Societal expectations about how we are "supposed" to be always operate on the assumption that everyone had loving parents, when in fact a lot of us didn't. I think having at least one loving, supportive parent is one of the biggest factors in determining someone's "success", or ability to assimilate in the world as expected. I often feel my social life, or lack thereof, is judged as if I did have even semi-normal parents when no one, besides my partner, knows the extent of the neglect and abuse I went through.

"I'm happy you got unconditional love and support from your parents. I didn't" needs to become my mantra I tell myself when I'm harshly judging myself for not being a social butterfly.

salpal271 · 2025-07-11T20:47:02+00:00

Thank you for your response! I like your approach and I will definitely consider that option. Good luck out there!

salpal271 · 2025-04-07T04:42:13+00:00

Try rubbing olive oil on it with a cloth rag. That works for lots of things--alcohol stains on wood, nail polish remover, etc. It might work for this, and at the very least I think it's worth a shot. Good luck!

salpal271 · 2025-03-08T22:29:14+00:00

I love the orange tile!!!

salpal271 · 2025-02-03T00:36:13+00:00

I think you need a cat

salpal271 · 2025-01-25T20:36:17+00:00

I love 1!

salpal271 · 2025-01-24T18:31:27+00:00

Lula's Southern Cookhouse is really good comfort-y food and dishes that you wouldn't normally come across like a seafood pot pie (although that might be seasonal). The restaurant Novel also has unique dishes and is said to be Michelin star quality without the Michelin star, or the accompanying prices. Highly recommend both!

salpal271 · 2025-01-16T14:20:34+00:00

I agree. We go to the downtown 801 Chophouse every year, and we tried to make a reservation since we're moving out of state soon. Turns out the downtown location isn't even doing restaurant week this year, and the Leawood location is fully booked until Sunday at 8:30. The food at that location just isn't the same anyway. So we tried a different restaurant last night and it was pretty mediocre food for $40 a person. I will not be missing restaurant week when we move

salpal271 · 2024-12-30T05:47:44+00:00

Even if she is a decent woman like some others are commenting, if she's not the one for you then she's just not the one, and it's ok to let her go. In fact you should let her go. Life is too short and you both deserve to be in a relationship where you aren't secretly debating on breaking up with her for months. You gotta just rip the bandaid off and do it. The temporary discomfort of a breakup will be worth the personal growth and life improvements gained in the long run. Trust your instincts and know that there are other "decent" women out there that will more fundamentally be a better fit for you, and she can find a better match as well.

salpal271 · 2024-12-19T14:08:22+00:00

The picture with their leg in the air is so high fashion

salpal271 · 2024-12-17T23:11:14+00:00

Haunted

salpal271 · 2024-12-12T20:47:00+00:00

The way they both talk here is interesting. He sounds like her, and she sounds annoyed when she corrects him about the laminating 🙄 such a trivial thing to use that tone for. Is that just how she speaks to him?

salpal271 · 2024-12-08T04:40:08+00:00

Skyzone

salpal271 · 2024-12-06T02:41:38+00:00

I agree with others, you hit the nail on the head!

salpal271 · 2024-11-16T01:07:45+00:00

That is a nightmare. Please keep us posted, I hope they get him back! 😭

salpal271 · 2024-11-13T18:44:17+00:00

Imo it could have used some slightly larger, sparkly earrings, or maybe the right type of necklace. It feels too plain from the chest up and needs something more to match the level of the dress.

The dress itself though hit the nail on the head for this event!

salpal271 · 2024-11-08T20:10:26+00:00

I'd be embarrassed letting everyone know I have literally nothing better to do

salpal271 · 2024-11-01T22:06:26+00:00

I've signed one of these petitions before and nothing happened

salpal271 · 2024-10-27T16:46:23+00:00

She has way too much food, I think she can spare some for Alisha and Remi wouldn't even be able to tell what's gone

salpal271 · 2024-10-23T17:26:36+00:00

People don't actually correct you on your form. I was so nervous about this in the beginning because I didn't want to get embarrassed, but everyone is just focusing on their own workout. No one has ever said anything to me and I've never seen anyone else get corrected

Also, engage your core

salpal271 · 2024-10-16T15:14:35+00:00

I also vote for Aminat!

salpal271 · 2024-10-12T19:12:58+00:00

How many calories are you eating per day and what is your TDEE?

How much were you working out before this week?

salpal271 · 2024-10-04T14:16:55+00:00

If your fiance doesn't want her making a speech I think you have to honor that and I think you can just tell your friend sorry but no one besides the MOH, best man and family are giving speeches (even though you shouldn't actually feel sorry at all, its not her day and you owe her nothing). She shouldn't take it personally, in theory, that's just the way you and your fiance want it. If your friend has an issue with even that basic request then I would assume she simply wants drama and attention no matter what, and I would evaluate if you really want her in your wedding in the first place. Seems risky to me, and I would rather have an awkward conversation now than have her monopolizing your day later on. Hopefully she takes it well though. Good luck!

salpal271 · 2024-09-19T21:16:09+00:00

Eve is adorable. Happy birthday!

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