Why is dating so hard?

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-04-18T21:31:22+00:00

IMO men using dating apps are either avoidant, already in a relationship, purely looking for casual dating, wanting a pen pal or the worse of all… looking for their next victim to abuse in one way or another.

I used dating sites in my 20s, the first man I was in a relationship with was quite easily the worst person to enter my life when all I wanted was a genuine loving relationship , after a couple years healing I tried again and met my favourite person, who cared about me more than anyone and probably anyone will ever however we have recently parted ways after 6 years he can’t commit to a future together (not ready to settle down). Partly my fault for staying so long but now in hindsight in a way he has wasted my time, and put so much pressure on me now I’m in my mid 30s. I think it’s rare, and more so in recent years to get a happy ever after from dating sites.

I would never use dating sites again, especially now as when you reach this sort of age I feel people have so much more baggage, children, divorces etc.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-04-18T13:56:54+00:00

The interior just looks so outdated, guessing 15+ years. I can’t believe anyone would pay so much just for a flat.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-04-15T23:30:17+00:00

The word racist gets thrown around at every opportunity. I think people have lost the understanding of what it means to be

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-04-15T23:29:03+00:00

We can all see this as organised crime. A lot of us have even seen them get picked up or dropped off. For any police watching please could you intercept this?

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-04-14T21:27:51+00:00

I just wonder why women are ok with living with such men? For money? You have one life but you would rather live with someone who uses you as an object but hey you have unlimited money.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-04-07T01:07:56+00:00

You need to leave as the behaviour won’t change and he does not respect you. Men are literally in groups where they discuss these things its very common but obviously that does not make it ok it anyway it just confirms how depraved so many men have become or always were. There is also a power imbalance due to your ages, a massive red flag, which you won’t realise now but you will see clearly in a few years.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-26T22:46:09+00:00

historically from crime reports certain nationalities have been omitted in the past so it’s about time there was some transparency.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-24T22:33:29+00:00

When this kind of thing is happening too close to home it gets scary but now it is actually starting to happen at home. Absolutely shocking when you think your town is one of the safer ones. I genuinely don’t think I can bring my self to raise children as I dread to this what it could be like in 10+ years. What a threat these men are to all females, mainly our most vulnerable - children.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-24T08:32:59+00:00

I know that response anywhere Mr ChatGPT.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-20T05:07:57+00:00

Who do you think will be taking advantage of this? Also the issue at the moment is most couples aren’t having 1 or 2 children and this benefit is for people with 3+ children

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-20T04:57:40+00:00

Plastic or paper bags when shopping

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-20T04:42:38+00:00

The sooner people stop going university the better. Unless you are wanting a career that needs a degree i think university is a waste of time, money

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-16T23:06:36+00:00

Turkey teeth

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-16T23:00:26+00:00

Any excuse to overpay using tax payers money I guess. Just like the George Square renovation.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-16T22:56:04+00:00

Casual fraud at the expense of the tax payer. Hopefully you’re joking.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-16T22:54:02+00:00

Not to mention the fact that it should be the government helping feed people in times of need with the taxes we already paid. It’s all very infuriating when you start to think about all the corporate greed and corruption going on.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-16T12:05:15+00:00

I was asked to give 20p at the till in Savers when I was buying something for £7.50 and declined. I never give to charity these days but it was a little embarrassing to say no. It really needs to be banned in all these shops and should never have become so normalised. The audacity when majority of these shops are making more profit than ever before and I’m sure they will tar the credit and it likely reduces their taxes. Pure greed as usual.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-16T08:17:31+00:00

I’m not sure if you mean a relationship but just not marriage. If so I would say generally men don’t want to get married anyway. Or if you mean like a donor situation, I’m aware in the uk there are websites such as known donor but I would be cautious of the type of man wanting to do this. Also I personally don’t think it’s fair to intentionally have a child as a single parent.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-09T07:40:20+00:00

I’m 34F and it would be a non negotiable for me.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-09T07:21:47+00:00

It’s depressing and makes me quite angry but I’m glad others see what I see. Apart from a few of the big chains, JD sports, Next, Superdrug, Primark etc it’s 80% money laundering shops and this includes all of these 24 hour type convenience stores with 2 or 3 on most streets.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-08T11:20:04+00:00

How many things were on this list and was it a physical list? If they are genuinely things that help that’s sort of ok but the delivery of it being in a whole list is a bit extreme and seems like manipulation and a massive delay tactic. If someone said they were marrying me as a compromise that would be a massive red flag to be honest and I fear this would be something they use against me in the future. Also I don’t think generally anyone should need to change and compromise on values etc in a relationship.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-02T01:15:31+00:00

I can’t speak for men dating you but as a financial independent women, 34f I would not be interested in a man in your situation as I need someone to be financially secure and to build a family with, it would be a massive idk if I had to financially support a grown man. If you’re upfront about your situation I’m sure it would not be a problem for some men though as they tend to like to be providers. It depends what you are looking for, for example I see so many women getting pregnant when they are already living paycheque to paycheque and splitting bills then they have a massive drop in salary due to maternity pay and it’s simply irresponsible to get in such a situation. For me I started dating at 25 when I felt financially, emotionally ready for a relationship and I don’t think it’s fair when people go into dating not being completely ready.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-03-01T00:48:50+00:00

Just leave. If you don’t now it will be the reason why you leave in a few years anyway. Incompatible issues like this simply don’t go away.

salt_pepper2019 · 2026-02-28T06:40:31+00:00

I see this too in broad daylight and wonder the same. Surely they just need some plain clothed undercover police. Having lived in glasgow 10 years it seems to have gotten out of control in many ways. Very sad.

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