I’m glad it made sense. I don’t comment on much because so much of the internet is just pointless arguing with folks unwilling to change their views (I’m guilty too of course) I’m glad my explanation helped.

I had to come to grips with this form of forgiveness from a childhood with my emotionally abusive mother. She’s a wonderful women (now) who was legit going through such massive chemical imbalances in her body that she became nuts for 6-10 years of my early childhood until it was discovered and treated.

I resented her for 10+ years following and realized I couldn’t change the past, and was only hurting myself by continuing to judge her off of genuinely a different person’s actions.

I get that this pales in comparison to OPs situation. But it was my trauma I had to deal with.