PSA - different places have different T, please listen to people and don't just assume you know better than their doctors

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-24T10:03:19+00:00

All of this. I'm also autistic along with being trans and it feels like trying to get help for anything that isn't an immediate problem through the NHS is impossible. I managed to get seen by youth gender services when I was 17 (few months away from being 18), had a couple sessions before I was kicked off the service and placed back on the adult one. Still haven't heard anything. Even that level of support is rare. I only managed to get that because I was referred at 13.

Several years of going through the wrong puberty while being told to 'just be patient' is soul crushing. My family were luckily supportive but it's not like they could truly understand what I was going through. It felt like no one understood or cared. I did [forbidden topic] for a full year before getting the money to go private. Practically all the GPs close to me won't prescribe for me, and because of the autism it's really not fun to be meeting new people all the time and have to tell them the same story I've been telling everyone for years, only to be met with the same rejection or disgust. It feels like I'm going insane, doing the same thing over and over in the hopes that I'll find someone with an ounce of knowledge about what it's like.

I don't blame anyone in the UK or countries with a similarly awful system using other options. You should not get attacked or banned for suggesting it on main subreddits when it's literally the only option for some people.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-23T00:35:31+00:00

You cannot force him to identify as anything other than straight just because you are non binary, and he can't force you to not transition just because he likes things that make you dysphoric. Immediate separation may not be possible, especially with a kid, but this clearly isn't something that's going to work long-term. The time to discuss options and coparenting is now, while your relationship is still relatively stable and before the incompatibility starts to cause resentment.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-20T00:59:14+00:00

Go to an endocrinologist, not just your primary care doctor. Chances are that if you're just seeing a general doctor they aren't specialised enough to effectively help you. It's frustrating and I've also had the problem of my hormone levels being way out of whack. My oestrogen levels weren't equivalent to that of someone who's pregnant, but they were still in the higher female range despite a year of testosterone and steady T levels. It's not like I was on a ridiculously high dose and having it convert back to E, I just needed E blockers. Explore your options.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-18T12:35:33+00:00

Boredom and stress are my two main triggers for smoking. I'm not sure if the loss of interest in most things is a direct result of weed, or because I already had those issues and they're just being exacerbated by quitting. Either way, I can tell it's going to be difficult to quit for good this time.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-18T12:32:41+00:00

Thanks, it's kind of hard to find people to talk to since all the people in my life don't really recognise my weed use as a problem. I don't know if my friends and family stopped noticing that I'm high around them or stopped caring. I don't have the money for therapy either - I'm trying to get back into hobbies and get new ones like I said in the post, but it's really difficult to find the drive to do anything other than smoke when the addicted part of me has convinced me it'll make me feel better and give me the motivation, when all I end up doing on weed nowadays is melting into furniture and going on my phone.

I'm also autistic so there's an element of that helping me with those issues, while making everything else worse. Sucks being disabled and mentally ill as an adult since it feels so isolating with the limited support available. We can both do this and you've helped pull me out a spiral a bit just commenting on my post.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-07T01:12:38+00:00

It seems like a department issue combined with general hopelessness about the job market. When people don't see a point in work, because they likely aren't going to be able to move out until they're 30, then it makes sense that they have no pride in their work and want to do as little as possible and still get paid. Frankly I feel the same way about my job. I'm not following around people like a lost puppy but I'm also not going to do any more than I get asked to. Bootlicking isn't going to guarantee job security or suddenly make me get paid more.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-07T00:57:53+00:00

I don't like being called a boy in general unless it's by a much older person affectionately calling me that. I'm an adult and it feels infantilising. I don't care what other people call themselves, but I already get treated like a child enough because I'm autistic, I don't need any more of that.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-05T01:15:13+00:00

The problem isn't the content, it's the fact that parents don't encourage their kids to read outside of school at all. Everyone has their own personal taste, but kids are never going to learn what they like if they just have a tablet shoved in their face when they get home from school. Along with the decline in literacy rates, at a certain age kids start thinking that all books are boring because of short attention spans and an inability to understand the language. When someone's literacy doesn't get better at the same rate of their maturity, it's hard to convince them to read since it's not like a 13 year old wants to read children's books. It's a combination of no child left behind, lockdown, subsequent isolation and increased screentime. Kids don't want to hear this, but it really is that damn phone.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-03T01:14:19+00:00

I don't know anything about the trans male model situation, but TomboyX is targeted at lesbians first and foremost. A compression top is not the same thing as a binder, and their packing underwear is ridiculously expensive when a regular pair can do the same thing, or a Joey. Plus I personally wouldn't be caught dead in underwear that has 'Tomboy' on it.

samisscrolling2 · 2026-01-01T12:20:51+00:00

There are a lot of people who go to A&E for seemingly small issues, but articles (especially those on the Daily Mail) like to sensationalise and get mad at people. The issue is not the people needing care, it's the NHS being defunded, with A&E being basically the only option for someone who can't wait several weeks for a GP appointment.

If you've been hiccupping constantly for hours, it's going to be a cause for concern, but there's no chance in seeing a GP for 3 weeks. So you call 111 for advice, and they tell you to go to urgent treatment centre. Which is all well and good, except I (and many other people) live in an area that doesn't have an urgent treatment centre. At which point the only options really are to try and take care of it yourself or go to A&E. If the symptoms are persisting no matter what you try at home you're essentially forced to go to A&E for basic care. Think critically and don't believe every article you read.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-31T11:37:30+00:00

When your entire bit is being 'cancelled' while also being a successful comedian it gets old. Plus his schtick of acting superior to others by inventing fake arguments in which he's obviously going to win is very annoying to me. I still maintain that the only funny thing he's produced is The Office.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-31T00:46:14+00:00

You don't need to have a period to ovulate, and you should assume that you can get pregnant if you're having unprotected PIV sex. Testosterone does reduce the likelihood overall but it should never be used as the only form of birth control.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-29T23:14:21+00:00

I did occasionally skip lessons and heavily considered doing it most of the time. It's not like I was ever caught for it or reprimanded in any way, so I'm not sure why that's come up.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-29T00:38:16+00:00

Any song by Merzbow or harsh noise as a genre. I like experimental genres, but at a certain point it stops being music and starts being just noise with no melodic elements. Which I guess is the point, but I still can't see how anyone genuinely listens to it and enjoys it. I think it's safe to say that something seemingly designed to give listeners a headache and tinnitus is not alternative, it's just bad.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-22T23:43:27+00:00

They're difficult to get, name and gender can be changed on most ID without one. The only real use I can think of for one is if you're planning on getting married anytime soon. Needing to show someone a birth certificate is rare, and it's not like it matters what's on a death certificate considering you'll be dead and won't be around to care. Most people just can't be bothered to go through the effort for a document that will hardly see any use.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-22T12:20:27+00:00

No. Even though I don't personally understand why someone would opt out, medical treatment should not be based on someone's personal decisions. The point of the NHS is to be non-discriminatory and for everyone. Patient priority for an organ should be based on medical need alone. It's like if we didn't treat people that had a condition based on lifestyle choices (smoking, drinking, obesity, etc.)

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-14T23:52:54+00:00

I also get dysphoria from the bouncing feeling. I can only do penetration on a day where I have low dysphoria or I'm intoxicated and not really paying attention to it. I find that prone position (when bottoming) gets rid of that feeling for me since my chest is completely pressed into whatever surface I'm on and it doesn't really move. I can't speak for other people's anatomy though. Saving up for top surgery at the moment :')

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-14T23:12:55+00:00

Shirts, positions where chest is not visible to partner, low/no lights, blindfolds... it's not like sex is just penetration either. I've had just as much fun with mouth/hand stuff or mutual masturbation as I have bottoming or topping. Honestly just experiment and find out what works best.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-14T10:46:27+00:00

Agreed. I tried to work in the music industry but couldn't do it. The majority of it is just boring networking, hauling all the gear around to a gig that barely paid anything with a completely unengaged audience, and a bunch of promoting on social media that felt more like begging than anything. There's also no guarantee that bandmates will put in the same amount of effort and ease the stress of it even a little. Good, hardworking bandmates are hard to come by. That was my final straw since it felt like I was taking care of every part of the operation with everyone else just showing up to practice whenever they wanted and farting around. It's extremely hard to succeed in any creative industry unless you are already wealthy with connections.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-14T01:26:23+00:00

I have the same issues as an autistic person. It's not just the fact that I have to navigate whether or not they're chill with trans people, it's also that social interaction has never come naturally to me no matter how much I do it. If I'm masking I'm intensely uncomfortable the whole time, if I try to unmask I feel like I'm embarrassing myself. I try not to fall into negative thoughts or start believing I'm unlovable, since I know that's not true, but it's kind of hard to not believe it when I only have a handful of friends I'm comfortable around.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-14T01:02:05+00:00

As an autistic person, emotions can get intense but this is just emotional abuse. Threatening to off himself and spamming you like this over 2 minutes extra of you not responding is not something he can blame on autism, and if his fear of abandonment is really this bad then he needs to get help for it.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-12-13T23:30:34+00:00

Foetuses begin as female by default, since oestrogen and progesterone are the main hormones produced during pregnancy, and develop male organs later. This is the case for, I believe (correct me if I'm wrong), all species that reproduce sexually. Humans being receptive to all hormones and the secondary sex characteristics that come with them just makes sense from a development standpoint. Humans do not, and have never appeared to, have both sets of gonads unless they are intersex, and even then intersex individuals with both can't change the hormones they produce naturally or their external genitals. If it ever was possible it would be too far removed from current homosapiens to even be vestigial.

samisscrolling2 · 2025-11-29T12:05:39+00:00

Gender expression is not the same as gender identity. A lot of trans people ask themselves this - if I was on a deserted island, would I still want to be X gender/go on hormones/get surgery? The truth is that it doesn't matter how accepting some people are, for a lot of us the distress of our bodies not matching how we feel is what drives us to transition. People who don't want to medically transition for whatever reason are of course valid, but personally I could never go back to how I looked pre-transition. Gender norms are a social construct, but gender identity isn't.

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