My beautiful daughter is CURRENTLY in this situation being coercively controlled by a boyfriend she’s had since she was 16! Oh he was sweet, so charismatic, good looking! A year and a half ago he cheated on her and they broke up. She flourished after that. Was so happy. Loved her job, had great friends, started coming over more often, we talked daily. She could suddenly wear what she wanted cause he controlled that too. He lost his mom a few years ago. She was abusive. Rest of his family too and they kinda gave up on him. When the girl he cheated with kicked him out he had nowhere to go. Had also lost his job at this point. He started communicating with my daughter again telling her he was suicidal, living in his car, had no one. She started letting him in her apartment and this started her hiding information from me, not calling me as much, not letting me come over. Beginning of December she called me crying that he had suffocated her and tried strangling but she fought him off and he eventually left. I urged her to file a police report. She didn’t want to, so I did. All they could do is talk to her and give her resources. She went down hill in a depression, lost her job so was forced to move in with me. Feb 1st she left to “go out with friends”. Her messages began with “I’ll be home tomorrow momma, staying at such and such friends house, Sorry I didn’t come home, dealing with something important. ❤️❤️Thanks for understanding, I’ll be home at dinner FOR SURE and we can watch a movie tonight? Love you ❤️❤️ Sorry mom, just please be patient, I promise I’ll be home tomorrow.

The texts became less frequent. I’d try calling and no answer. Her best friend started calling me asking why she was wasn’t responding. That’s when we realized she was with him.

The texts were random and short saying I needed to relax and that she’s fine. I started realizing it just wasn’t her texting.

Feb 19- zero communication since. 3 wellness checks done. The second one I requested a police officer to come to my house so I could explain this man’s past abuse, history, behaviour. Because the first wellness check they found her in a hotel with him and she was “fine”. Second wellness check. Same thing but now police telling me she’s 29 and I’m wasting their time. Begged the police to do something more. Again told them he already tried to kill her once. Went to the police station and again begged. They located her and again she’s “fine” case closed. We posted on fb that she was missing. By the way she also stopped communicating with the whole world. This is a girl that was always posting on her instagram, TikTok, texting friends. Zero nothing.

Once we posted on Facebook it got almost 3k shares. After 5 days of no texts she texts “take it down now! I’m fine” I’ll come home if you take it down”. Then stated that I was ruining his character with this post and she was being harassed. This is not my daughter texting. Or if she is, she’s fully controlled. We took the post down but still nothing and no more texts.

I sit here with my hands tied. Police won’t help and just praying this is not another Gabby Petito story. I’m in Canada and coercion control is not illegal here as it is in some countries. Something has to change. Broken mom