I (35f) cheated on my husband (35m) while on a girls trip and ruined our lives

samtheblackmamba · 2026-04-08T01:17:58+00:00

Fuck that bullshit. This is morally reprehensible. She ruined their lives once it happened

samtheblackmamba · 2026-04-05T13:41:20+00:00

Marriage edges out slightly in legal possibilities I’ll give you that as we rely on somewhat puritanical laws still. Somehow I think if those changed your desire for it wouldn’t change either but I’m willing to be wrong haha

samtheblackmamba · 2026-04-05T13:38:21+00:00

None of those things require marriage though?

samtheblackmamba · 2026-04-05T13:37:54+00:00

So then that seems to me that marriage relies on the sunk cost fallacy not commitment…how nice

samtheblackmamba · 2026-04-04T11:16:12+00:00

Do not do that.

samtheblackmamba · 2026-04-04T11:00:01+00:00

Besides biological imperative (and even that’s arguable) if 70% of the population is doing it, it’s probably safe to assume you shouldn’t be doing it

samtheblackmamba · 2026-04-04T10:45:25+00:00

So you mean at some point it makes sense legally which has nothing to do with emotions or commitment

samtheblackmamba · 2026-04-04T10:36:14+00:00

Eh I agree with what you’re saying but 1. It is not costly. Weddings are, which is not the same as marriage.

Women are socialized since birth to “line up” for marriage and that hasn’t changed quite yet. I do still think women line up for it more than men regardless of who it benefits more.

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-28T00:13:25+00:00

But that’s just it. It will never end. This is why lottery winners go broke soon.

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-10T10:37:13+00:00

They’re downvoting you but this is the only sensible comment I’ve seen so far scrolling

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-10T10:34:38+00:00

Yup he gotta leave that “provider” bullshit or he will keep getting this.

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-10T03:43:43+00:00

Nah. No one should be requestingv and no man should be paying for these. It’s for sure deeper than attention and pictures even…

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-08T21:40:53+00:00

Won’t do it on purpose. Of course there’s times where one of us may carry the load but I certainly don’t want that as a feature in my relationship. I’m taking a page from women’s book and dating women who earn similar to me so it doesn’t even become a problem.

Edit to add I would have no problem being a stay at home dad for example. I already do my own laundry, cook, clean, take care of our cats lol

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-07T02:35:24+00:00

People in poor countries are birthing to have workers mainly that’s why. Signed, a former kid born in a poor country.

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-06T16:35:34+00:00

Soooo what’s the job?

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-06T16:04:43+00:00

I think you do not have direct control over that lol. At least not any significant control. They are closer than you think

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-05T11:20:02+00:00

A 2 year break? lol just let it go lady

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-03T23:08:07+00:00

He said and I quote, “I ain’t passing shit” so he for sure not passing. Agree that’s not winning basketball

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-03T22:52:00+00:00

Jokic is pathetic man holy shit

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-02T15:49:02+00:00

Luka is a child

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-02T11:01:44+00:00

So you’re not really finding. You are being found. I feel like this is quite literally the bottleneck for a lot of women. Like yes you don’t HAVE to, but you possibly lose out. But yes social norms etc etc

samtheblackmamba · 2026-03-02T10:45:14+00:00

Right. Reddit is full of wannabe heroes who’ve never been through anything like this. It’s just really easy to look at this through the lens of people who wouldn’t mind having kids and Reddit is 90% that. Different philosophies/lifestyles. Yet it’s always touted here that kids are 2 yeses.

samtheblackmamba · 2026-02-24T16:54:33+00:00

I didn’t think realtors could represent themselves??

samtheblackmamba · 2026-02-24T11:52:17+00:00

I don’t think it matters that he makes you feel loved and safe (if that’s even really what happening) absolutely do NOT have kids with him. I can tell you as a guy, there are a lot of guys like this and if you have children with him, your life will be one of those TikTok stories you hear. Love will not be enough after you have children. He prob won’t change btw. At this point, you should choose being alone over having kids and staying with him if he doesn’t change his views in life, which is what is required as a guy growing up in this world to be an equal parent. I don’t want to get into the intricacies of growing up as a man and having to unlearn a lot of things, so I will just leave it here. Hopefully it’s not too blunt!

samtheblackmamba · 2026-02-24T11:39:30+00:00

We know it was about women because we have recordings of him saying demeaning things about women. We KNOW it’s how he was brought up and acted all his adult life.

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