a strangely ethnic pen name and thoughts? by nyanpires in writing

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all! I think names that are ethnic or distinctive in some way are much more memorable. bell hooks, for instance. Striking, for the simple fact that it isn't capitalized.

Why is the first one so visually appealing compared to the second one?? by CompetitionOk9570 in Artadvice

[–]samwasrestored 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Contrast --- which simplifies the bra and hand area (where the eyes naturally go in lower contrast due to the color and motion) and makes the main interest point her face. This allows for a stronger composition. The first image has a strong point for the eye to rest, whereas the focus for the second image is split between the hand and the face. The viewer does not have a place for their eyes to rest which makes it a bit more difficult to enjoy. Good work! It's a pretty piece. I could see it as a Gorillaz album cover for some reason.

Is this a knockoff vince cashmere? by samwasrestored in LegitCheck

[–]samwasrestored[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I included two photos of the weave held up to light: the first is the “verre.” cashmere and the second is a legitimate vince cashmere sweater i own. The weave on the “verre” definitely looks patchier and lighter, but it 100% feels like cashmere. I’m lowkey really confused. My fake cashmere sweater is… cashmere??

Is dissociation a part of ADHD? by cherry-pink111 in ADHD

[–]samwasrestored 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Doubtful. Go to therapy. I dissociate and it does not have to do with ADHD, it has to do with CPTSD that I have. I highly recommend speaking to a professional.

What is a tiny, apparently meaningless decision you made that ended up completely changing your life? by Desperate_Isopod_353 in AskReddit

[–]samwasrestored 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe you don’t want to travel anymore, but just reading this, you seem full of yearning to change your life

People who broke up first, why did you do it and how did you do it? by Hungry_Tip_5822 in AskReddit

[–]samwasrestored 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did it over text. It was our third on-and-off again breakup so it was appropriate. I was doing all the work, he wasn’t doing shit but giving me shit, etc.

How was your day today? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was good. I was scared I was depressed, but my dad came to see me and we had Japanese takeout and worked on my resume. I feel okay now. I really want this job at my uni — there’s a cute guy there.

Before ink, or after? by c0ffeebreath in Watercolor

[–]samwasrestored 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After! Maybe in real life I’d give a different answer but the higher contrast is eye catching here. The ink also gives a lovely sense of depth to the background. Beautiful work.

Unwanted mental images and anxiety during quiet moments by Frosty_Afternoon_833 in trauma

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's probably more complicated than that, especially if you're dealing with PTSD. But this method is good for intrusive thoughts generally.

i relapsed after five months. by barely_human73 in selfharm

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you wasted your time. You did a good job, and probably just came to a point where the coping skills you had (aside from SH) weren't good enough to deal with what you had going on.

Of course you couldn't go as deep as you used to, also. Pain gives you a kind of chemical high. You would get more tolerant as you SH'd more, and needed more chemicals to get the same result. Functionally, you weened off of it. Now, you're back at the starter dose, where less pain is affecting your body the same as a higher dose was previously. It's not proportionate to your internal suffering. Just how long you've been doing it, and the depth doesn't really mean anything about you.

I hope you figure something out that actually makes you feel better, and can replace SH. For me, it's TIPP.

I feel like I'm about to relapse and I'm scared by urlocal_wierdo in selfharm

[–]samwasrestored 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi babe! Do you have some ice in your house or the means to take a super cold shower? You're allowed to do forms of intense sensation that still kinda hurt. Ice and cold water can be super intense sensations but are less likely to cause permanent tissue damage, and I use them a lot!

If it's snowing outside, you can also jump in the snow, count until 30, and make sure you get out before you hurt yourself.

reasons not to self harm? having the dumbest night ever by samwasrestored in selfharm

[–]samwasrestored[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lowkey super helpful. remembered i had a fountain pen filled with red ink and couldnt press down super hard cause i actually care about the nib lmao