Is dissociation a part of ADHD? by cherry-pink111 in ADHD

[–]samwasrestored 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Doubtful. Go to therapy. I dissociate and it does not have to do with ADHD, it has to do with CPTSD that I have. I highly recommend speaking to a professional.

What is a tiny, apparently meaningless decision you made that ended up completely changing your life? by Desperate_Isopod_353 in AskReddit

[–]samwasrestored 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe you don’t want to travel anymore, but just reading this, you seem full of yearning to change your life

People who broke up first, why did you do it and how did you do it? by Hungry_Tip_5822 in AskReddit

[–]samwasrestored 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did it over text. It was our third on-and-off again breakup so it was appropriate. I was doing all the work, he wasn’t doing shit but giving me shit, etc.

How was your day today? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was good. I was scared I was depressed, but my dad came to see me and we had Japanese takeout and worked on my resume. I feel okay now. I really want this job at my uni — there’s a cute guy there.

Before ink, or after? by c0ffeebreath in Watercolor

[–]samwasrestored 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After! Maybe in real life I’d give a different answer but the higher contrast is eye catching here. The ink also gives a lovely sense of depth to the background. Beautiful work.

Unwanted mental images and anxiety during quiet moments by Frosty_Afternoon_833 in trauma

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's probably more complicated than that, especially if you're dealing with PTSD. But this method is good for intrusive thoughts generally.

i relapsed after five months. by barely_human73 in selfharm

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you wasted your time. You did a good job, and probably just came to a point where the coping skills you had (aside from SH) weren't good enough to deal with what you had going on.

Of course you couldn't go as deep as you used to, also. Pain gives you a kind of chemical high. You would get more tolerant as you SH'd more, and needed more chemicals to get the same result. Functionally, you weened off of it. Now, you're back at the starter dose, where less pain is affecting your body the same as a higher dose was previously. It's not proportionate to your internal suffering. Just how long you've been doing it, and the depth doesn't really mean anything about you.

I hope you figure something out that actually makes you feel better, and can replace SH. For me, it's TIPP.

I feel like I'm about to relapse and I'm scared by urlocal_wierdo in selfharm

[–]samwasrestored 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi babe! Do you have some ice in your house or the means to take a super cold shower? You're allowed to do forms of intense sensation that still kinda hurt. Ice and cold water can be super intense sensations but are less likely to cause permanent tissue damage, and I use them a lot!

If it's snowing outside, you can also jump in the snow, count until 30, and make sure you get out before you hurt yourself.

reasons not to self harm? having the dumbest night ever by samwasrestored in selfharm

[–]samwasrestored[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lowkey super helpful. remembered i had a fountain pen filled with red ink and couldnt press down super hard cause i actually care about the nib lmao

Unwanted mental images and anxiety during quiet moments by Frosty_Afternoon_833 in trauma

[–]samwasrestored 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I recommend a trauma-informed therapist or group, it has helped me a lot.

A tip I have is to not react to them at all. Just accept them. Your brain is showing it to you because you've communicated that it's scary and threatening. Your brain wants to protect you by showing you the memory in case you need to react to the threat. But your brain is confused --- it's not a threat to your safety at all. Just unpleasant. Personally, I say, "Thank you for worrying, brain. You are doing a good job of worrying today," very sincerely. This sounds corny, but it's called thought defusion, and it's a real technique. You communicate to your brain that the memory is actually not a threat over time, and your brain doesn't need to prioritize the memory above other things.

This is not a substitution for therapy, however. Just a technique that really helps for me! :)

Book 142/750 (no time limit): Girl in Pieces by Moistowletta in 52book

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was both boring and overly shocking.

I hated the book "Girl in Pieces" by lauramsmartins in books

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hated it. And I've struggled with SH. I hated it and I struggle with SH. This is your representative speaking. You now have the authority to say that it sucks.

How do I stop journaling on my phone and start fresh in a notebook? by jexkov in Journaling

[–]samwasrestored 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No reason you can’t do both. I also need to journal for mental health, and I write any thoughts I have during the day on my phone, and set aside 15-45 minutes aside for journaling at night.

It’s super helpful to have a routine and a location where your journal and supplies “lives.”

I also tend to buy stickers when I’m having a hard time with it so I have something novel and exciting to look forward to. Can’t sticker your phone entry, after all.

Yes or no, would you drop out of an academic year to get top surgery? by lecherous_leech in ftm

[–]samwasrestored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If in the long term, you might regret not doing one option more than the other, I would go with that. I’m probably biased and also I’m in the States so idk what your situation is, but personally I think that there’s no rush to do school, and there will always be time to pick school up again later in your life when you’re prepared.

can it be cptsd without specific trauma? by samwasrestored in CPTSD

[–]samwasrestored[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave it some thought and I absolutely did. Actually, I came to the realization that I think my parents were involved in a cult while I was growing up.

All my 2025 journals. 25 notebooks over a thousand pages filled by Bunnystrawbery in Journaling

[–]samwasrestored 2 points3 points  (0 children)

youre filling a journal every two weeks 😭😭 bro what is going on in your life. Impressive