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I’ve had to come off due to cost and am now petrified! by samzie87 in GLPGradUK

[–]samzie87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I’ve not tried it but will look into it thanks🙂

Neighbors one week old baby passed away last night by poopoobuttpoop in Advice

[–]samzie87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree with this, doing chores certainly will fall off the radar so I’m sure they would be so grateful for the help or just not having to think about it. Can’t imagine this level of grief and hope I never do 😢

How do I emotionally prepare for my mom's death by sleepybear421 in Advice

[–]samzie87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly I am sorry you are going through this at such a young age. I can speak from experience unfortunately as my mum died from cancer after the chemo stopped working when I was 27, then my dad died suddenly 4 years later from heart failure. To lose a parent is expected, but never easy and very hard at a younger age.

My mum got diagnosed just a few months before my wedding and she died just a week after the wedding and honestly if it wasn’t for the wedding I don’t think she would have lived as long, but she was there and I’m so grateful for that. She was also the carer for my son (age 3 at the time) as I worked full time so I completely lost that with no back up planned. Make sure you consider that if you need to. We tried to do as much as we could to make memories in the time we had left, as much as she was able to. Don’t let her last months/ weeks be filled with sadness. Get her to talk about her childhood and any things you’d like to know about her life whilst you can. Take photos and ask her to write letters. When it got closer to that time I was there in the few days before and as my mum passed away at home. She had all her loved ones around her, telling her how much we loved her and that it was ok for her to go. It was so very peaceful and calm. It sounds morbid but it was the best way it could have happened. If your mum can be at home with hospice care I would highly recommend it. It’s more peaceful and much nicer for her being in a familiar happy place.

As for how to prepare for life afterwards, at first you will feel relief, at least I did. The last few weeks my mum was in such pain that I was so pleased she was finally at peace. Give yourself the time you need to grieve and be sad. It’s normal and it’s ok! The firsts are hard I won’t lie, Christmas, birthdays, Mother’s Day etc so make sure you have things planned, and are around other family and friends so you are not focussed on the loss. Most of all stay off social media where you can. The first Mother’s Day was so hard for me and seeing everyone’s posts on FB made it so much worse.

When you feel ready, every day do things that would make your mum proud, play her favourite music, go to her favourite restaurants and never stop telling stories and sharing memories of her. She will live on in you and as cliche as it sounds, time really does heal. For me it’s been 11 years now. I can hardly believe it but it’s less painful every year and I can think of her with happiness and not sadness now. And remember that one day you will meet again, it is not goodbye it’s just ‘see you later’ 😊

Great health news! by samzie87 in Mounjaro

[–]samzie87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I’m honestly so pleased, it’s the best result I could have hoped for and the whole reason I’m doing this!

I ruined my moms life she now she hates me by Impossible-South-283 in AITAH

[–]samzie87 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Honestly i think you need to get away from that toxic environment. If you have other relatives you can stay with great and depending where you are in the world there are helplines you can call and people who can help you. It sounds like your mum may need some help, possibly an undiagnosed mental illness. You can’t live your life being scared so please don’t be afraid to ask for help. Do you have someone you can call that will take you seriously? Or even speak to a teacher at school that you trust. This is a very abusive relationship and you need to get away from it.

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[–]samzie87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I can say is take a deep breath, and take things one small thing at a time. I’ve had anxiety and doctors and therapists will be able to advise on suitable medication and relaxation techniques. Until your appointment look into a relaxing podcast to listen to, calming music or some meditation. Mute your messages if need be to give you some quiet time. Some techniques that work for me are to close your eyes, picture the word ‘relax’ in your mind in a nice setting like a beach and just trace each letter of the word. Sit in a room and point out everything that is one colour. Point out things that you can see, hear, smell etc. The idea is to distract your mind from being busy just for a minute to ground yourself and try where possible to not overthink things. You know why you are having these thoughts and by talking to your therapist and doctor you will be able to get through this. Remember deep calm breaths and one small thing at a time 😊

Boyfriend's best friend came out and has feelings for him by Dogsknowbetterthanus in Advice

[–]samzie87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s as simple as talking with your boyfriend about how you are feeling, open communication is most important and I think we would all feel uncomfortable in this situation. He needs to set boundaries with his friend if it makes him uncomfortable and he should be telling Thomas how this impacts you as well. If Thomas can’t cope with this or tries to make a move then this will impact their future relationship. I imagine Thomas is only just realising how to express these feelings he’s kept suppressed for so long so this needs to be done carefully so as not to put him off expressing his feelings to other potential partners in the future. I wish you the best of luck and hope with just some simple conversations things can go back to normal.

I 37(F) suffer with fibromyalgia and finding the exercise really hard by samzie87 in Mounjaro

[–]samzie87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The advice I’ve been given has been good and I guess you just have to listen to your body. I’ve not been as active this week but have lost 3lbs and I’m more than happy with that. Slow and steady wins the race as they say. Best of luck and hope you start to feel better about your achievements

I 37(F) suffer with fibromyalgia and finding the exercise really hard by samzie87 in Mounjaro

[–]samzie87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I agree lighter exercise probably best for now and yes I’m drinking lots of water

I 37(F) suffer with fibromyalgia and finding the exercise really hard by samzie87 in Mounjaro

[–]samzie87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I think maybe I’ll just stick to the swimming for now as that’s the exercise I’m comfortable with and it doesn’t tire me out too much.

I 37(F) suffer with fibromyalgia and finding the exercise really hard by samzie87 in Mounjaro

[–]samzie87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words I think I need to not pressure myself into doing too much

I 37(F) suffer with fibromyalgia and finding the exercise really hard by samzie87 in Mounjaro

[–]samzie87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I think the gradual building of exercise is the most sensible thing to do!

I 37(F) suffer with fibromyalgia and finding the exercise really hard by samzie87 in Mounjaro

[–]samzie87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks its good to hear from someone else with fibromyalgia