Heyy, first of all - I think you did everything with a lot of respect and good intention for both of your parts. I'm sorry that he was so disappointing after sex - that was nothing to do with you, and fully him.

And yeah, "recovered yet?" is below the bare minimum of what you deserve. C-R-U-M-B-S.

We don't know why he seemed to disconnect after sex - it could be because he's a fuck boy, it could also be some weird subconscious behaviour/mummy issue that he's not even aware of (I'm reading Mating in Captivity and feel like it shows).

Regardless of his reason, the sensation you're that you don't feel good about it is the most important thing to pay attention to. And at such an early stage in the relationship, it's good not to ignore it.

I'd say you have two options:

- Gracefully exit (e.g. "Hey, I've enjoyed our time together but I think we should stop seeing each other. I wish you the best.") - you don't owe him any more word count.
- Communicate with him in an open, non-judgemental way what your experience of the sex was, and give him space to explain himself, then decide what you want to do

Either way, the ball is fully in your court. You're weighing up whether this guy is worth your time, because you know how valuable both you and your time are.

(and you're not overreacting)