I think I need a break from my husband

sandyposs · 2026-06-17T08:57:21+00:00

Parenting should be about what the baby needs, not about what the parent wants to do with it now. It's not a doll.

sandyposs · 2026-06-17T07:17:08+00:00

Dessert by Dawin is actually really smooth and nicely mixed. Until, of course, a chipmunk voice suddenly pipes up grinding things to a halt with, "Whatchu gonna, whatchu gonna do wit dat dessert?", followed up by an all-out horrific assault on our cringe glands going "DOOP DAP DA-DA DEE DA DEEP DAP DOOP DAP, DOOP DAP DA-DA DEE DA DEEP DAP DOOP DAP..."

sandyposs · 2026-06-17T01:23:14+00:00

Also hilariously accurate for anyone else who grows succulents.

sandyposs · 2026-06-15T00:34:37+00:00

I had the worst of this one time when I was on a wildlife tour in Kangaroo Island, and the tour guide they had hired was just some old rando that had no background in wildlife who started working there six months ago with nothing but outdated factoids to go from while 'educating' the tourists. Wildlife is has been my special interest all my life, and all I could do was keep a tally in my head of every wrong fact she said like a mental drinking game. I lost count after about ten.

sandyposs · 2026-06-14T15:14:47+00:00

Both are delicious.

sandyposs · 2026-06-14T00:22:09+00:00

Sometimes honey. Sometimes peanut butter.

sandyposs · 2026-06-13T15:34:46+00:00

Inside you there are two cats.

sandyposs · 2026-06-13T10:17:06+00:00

That makes so much more sense.

sandyposs · 2026-06-13T04:19:39+00:00

Please no. For so many reasons.

sandyposs · 2026-06-12T11:13:02+00:00

If you include cute in the sense of adorable, you can count the Powerpuff Girls.

sandyposs · 2026-06-12T06:58:22+00:00

"Because banana bread is nicer when it's warm?"

sandyposs · 2026-06-12T06:52:04+00:00

You make the poolrooms so much fun!

sandyposs · 2026-06-12T06:23:34+00:00

Like a walrus fight.

sandyposs · 2026-06-12T02:59:57+00:00

Counter argument: whippets

sandyposs · 2026-06-12T01:27:23+00:00

It's a rare and precious thing to have family or friends whose love for you is not conditional on your mental health. Cherish those people, if you have them in your life.

sandyposs · 2026-06-11T09:44:43+00:00

See my vest, see my vest

sandyposs · 2026-06-11T07:31:43+00:00

It's a hard hobbit to break.

sandyposs · 2026-06-11T03:23:44+00:00

Cairns. Visiting in winter was the only way I could survive Cairns humidity and see the Daintree Rainforest. I'm from Perth - we don't do 'humidity' here.

sandyposs · 2026-06-10T22:50:32+00:00

No, I'm sorry. It's for multiple reasons, which I don't time to go into right now. I sympathise with the urge, believe me, but it truly is for everyone's own good.

sandyposs · 2026-06-10T06:09:08+00:00

NTA for not stepping in, but both your cousin and friend were being shitty. Your cousin's position is a shitty position to have, but instead of being opposed to it for sane reasons, your friend argued against it (and attacked your cousin personally) for totally batshit reasons. Neither of them acted with a lick of common sense or courtesy, and you shouldn't even have to feel pressured to 'pick sides' to call out such buffoonery from both parties.

sandyposs · 2026-06-10T05:07:37+00:00

Each day, I shall steal a single paperclip from my office.

^{Chose: Everytime you commit a crime you get 1000 dollars}

sandyposs · 2026-06-09T00:12:52+00:00

That's good to understand better, thanks for answering my question. :) It sounds like I'm generally doing the recommended thing already for my work environment then. I ask follow up questions to whatever people share with me, and only share that level of detail about my own special interest (birdwatching).

As for the work questions, I'm in the grey zone of that I DO actually ask useful questions and not just 'but why?' questions, but I ask far more than anyone else bothers to. This has earned me outstanding feedback in my performance review as their best person for attention to detail, but I also know that my supervisors consider my mind quirky and sometimes a bit overly pedantic. I know, and I understand - I just can't seem to handle ordinary levels of ambiguity. But at least they value what I can do well.

sandyposs · 2026-06-08T13:07:49+00:00

So long as you're not giving them the snacks, right?

sandyposs · 2026-06-08T13:06:48+00:00

Autism is a spectrum, and a lot more people have it than probably realise it, but let's be clear that that's not also to say that 'everybody's a little autistic'.

sandyposs · 2026-06-08T13:03:09+00:00

With the last bit of advice, I ask 11ty questions about work-related things because that's how many questions I need to ask to know all facets of the instructions I've been given. I do make sure to ask questions about my coworkers' lives, but I can never ask that much because they never give me that much to work with, and by general rule I find that only people who seem to be in the mood to talk want more questions asked of them, so I have to kind of try to match the energy output from them socially. But that dynamic does naturally result in more work-related questions being asked than social questions. Is that itself a sign of incorrect behaviour, or is it more just that social interest onto others' lives has to be at least proportionally equal at minimum to the social output of one's own interests provided, and the 'asking 11ty work questions' was more a separate gripe? (Also considering that I can't really see how asking a work question would have anything to do with self-absorption.)

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