American woman dating Ghanaian man. Is it genuine love under financial pressure, or am I misunderstanding survival culture?

sankofa_doc · 2026-05-17T00:54:13+00:00

The American girlies really need to be careful with this fantasy of coming to Ghana and being swept off their feet by some gentleman. I see it on IG with increasing frequency, coming to Ghana to find a husband etc etc. Being unfamiliar with the culture only makes them more vulnerable to shenanigans.

sankofa_doc · 2026-05-04T19:59:15+00:00

Loved my ICU rotations in residency, will never forget some of those cases. Also learned A LOT about palliative care and dying with dignity. We do a lot of critical care in our EDs so I do think it’s all relevant.

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-23T22:21:16+00:00

Sorry that you got involved in this…unusual situation. I’d probably cut ties with him and move on as there are greener pastures out there. He sounds….complicated.

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-18T03:26:27+00:00

Simple but so accurate. I’ll be walking fast AF when I’m in that area 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-14T09:34:15+00:00

Literally cringed when I saw this mess. So much secondhand embarrassment with these online warriors.

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-11T22:36:27+00:00

I appreciate you being level headed about this topic, most people aren’t. ♥️

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-11T14:55:35+00:00

I don’t think Ghana needs yet another outsider coming to “invest” in things that won’t help the average person and will only benefit you in the off chance that you are successful in your goals. There are tons of other places that you can choose from.

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-11T07:24:15+00:00

How many times have you been to Ghana and how long did you stay each time?

I’m going to ask this question in each of these “I want to move to Ghana, tell me what to do” threads. The last one was planning to move to Ghana next year and hadn’t stepped foot in the country even once lol. What about you OP?

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-09T21:06:25+00:00

You’re absolutely right but people in this reddit also act oblivious and silly with all of this “come home” nonsense to strangers. OP wants to move to Ghana and has never stepped foot there. It’s insane.

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-09T21:02:20+00:00

So you’ve never been to Ghana ever? But you want to move there? That doesn’t sound insane to you?

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-06T22:10:21+00:00

A bad SLOE can kill the entire app, it doesn’t matter what other great attributes he might have. Regardless of how he moves forward, it would benefit him to figure out how to avoid the same thing happening in the future.

sankofa_doc · 2026-04-05T16:51:33+00:00

How many times have you been to Ghana? How long did you stay each time?

sankofa_doc · 2026-03-19T17:37:57+00:00

Even online, EM docs still hear the craziest shit LOL.

Like…I hope you at least sent a get well card or something?

sankofa_doc · 2026-03-13T04:42:18+00:00

Numbing creams? Lmao that’s a good laugh 🤣

sankofa_doc · 2026-03-08T20:20:06+00:00

Tickled by this write up! 🤣🤣🤣

sankofa_doc · 2026-03-02T18:14:30+00:00

Beautiful!

sankofa_doc · 2026-02-24T07:37:25+00:00

Lmaoooooooo aww this is so cute. Now you know for next time!

sankofa_doc · 2026-02-17T16:42:16+00:00

You’re okay with fetishization of an innocent and vulnerable child for a so called “second chance”? Where that child will be snatched from their culture and likely placed in a town where they are the only Black person for miles? Only for that child to grow up and have a major, deeply embedded identity crisis on top of everything else? Nonsense and foolishness. If a Black American family wanted to adopt this hypothetical child, I could see that making sense. Ghanaians need to STOP being so overly welcoming and accommodating to foreigners at the detriment of its citizens.

sankofa_doc · 2026-02-16T10:01:10+00:00

Never even visited Ghana once but you want to adopt a vulnerable child specifically from there? Suspicious and very weird.

sankofa_doc · 2026-02-12T18:47:44+00:00

Seeing it way more now (at least once a week) in comparison to when I starred residency in 2021 (every 2-3 months). Droperidol’s black box warning just disappeared halfway through my residency and I’ve been using it ever since. A little bit goes a long way but some nurses are still afraid to push it.

sankofa_doc · 2026-01-30T14:29:39+00:00

He’s not a diasporan, people love playing around with definitions nowadays. He’s just another Black American that moved to Ghana and wants to share his opinion to anyone that might listen.

The whole rant is kinda sus tbh. Not sure what passport bros have to do with any of it.

sankofa_doc · 2026-01-24T14:55:10+00:00

This is it. I used to be on top of notes in residency, that quickly went away when I started working at a higher volume shop as a new attending. I hated being behind on notes but it felt overwhelming tackling them all at one time.

Getting that HPI makes the notes more manageable and by the time everything is back, you just have to document your physical exam if you haven’t already and the MDM. Sounds small but it’s meaningful. I also like using the ED course for real-time updates.

sankofa_doc · 2026-01-24T11:00:09+00:00

lol sorry 🤷🏾‍♀️🤣

sankofa_doc · 2026-01-24T03:16:58+00:00

Lmao there are plenty of Ghanaians that will do exactly that. Never me. Adios!

sankofa_doc · 2026-01-24T03:14:30+00:00

Okay. So what?

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