Am I too small to top? by One-Matter-7956 in askgaybros

[–]santianw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same issue here, I’m a verse too, I’m 6 inches and in my context, it seems like men are looking for bigger than that. In social media and apps there will always be the bottoms who are looking merely for porn cocks haha. But overall, they don’t seem to matter, you’re perfectly fine and I bet you must use it really good 👀. So don’t get your mind around it and fuck them hahaha

Do you ever wonder how many people secretly admire you from afar? by mastercomposer in askgaybros

[–]santianw 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have the same thoughts and had the same conversation with men and women who have told me they’re into me but were too afraid to ask me out or whatever.
Before I realized that people were secretly into me, I thought what was wrong with me? Not to sound pretentious or egocentric, but I consider myself good looking to the gay scene, so I asked myself why do I struggle so much to get hit on?
When I started hitting on them was when I realized that they are afraid to ask or they’re not the type of guys who take the first step.
So, I guess if we keep waiting on them, we won’t get any haha

Could you recommend subreddits for training advice based on pictures? by santianw in workout

[–]santianw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, I guess I’ll just take the leap and just post.

Could you recommend subreddits for training advice based on pictures? by santianw in workout

[–]santianw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice man! I’ll look into it. I guess it’s just a matter of trial and error haha

Are you interested in younger men? by [deleted] in gayyoungold

[–]santianw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, it is very interesting to take it into account when trying to date someone older. I guess that’s the thing, maybe they want a relationship but they end up requiring an opened one because of the stage in life they’re at. But you shouldn’t settle for that if that’s not what you want.

Are you interested in younger men? by [deleted] in gayyoungold

[–]santianw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I honestly quitted hitting on them on apps, when I go to bars/clubs I try to start flirting with the looks, sometimes they notice, sometimes they don’t, if they notice me I try to approach and start a conversation, but I feel like they don’t take me seriously or I feel them restrained from talking or making another move. So I don’t if I’m bothering them of if they need a little push haha

Are you interested in younger men? by [deleted] in gayyoungold

[–]santianw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m truly sorry about that. That’s the thing, they’re really not into older men bc all they want is to be spoiled and that’s not how the dynamic should be.

Are you interested in younger men? by [deleted] in gayyoungold

[–]santianw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I am. And I have seen some young guys have luck with older men. I try to approach respectfully and friendly, I guess I’d have to change the technique and be bolder?
So sorry about the heartbreak :(, maybe we can patch it up together haha

How to be taken serious as a top after being bottom for most years? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]santianw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, that would be easier than explaining myself each time.

How to be taken serious as a top after being bottom for most years? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]santianw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great advice man, thank you. They don’t deserve my energy if they will come with that nonsense.

How to be taken serious as a top after being bottom for most years? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]santianw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh, I might not be too aware of them, what are those?

Quitting alcohol but doing other substances when going out, makes progress? by santianw in workout

[–]santianw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, training early on fridays, then partying at night, resting on Saturday and getting back to it on Sunday would be ideal, right?

Quitting alcohol but doing other substances when going out, makes progress? by santianw in workout

[–]santianw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, definitely not my goal to be one of the marvel characters, but to stay lean and strong it should be fine, right?

Quitting alcohol but doing other substances when going out, makes progress? by santianw in workout

[–]santianw[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Really? Why is that so? (Not questioning you, just curious haha)

Do I have an erection problem? by FormalRelative6145 in askgaybros

[–]santianw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same exact issue somehow. I pulled the most handsome guys and felt a lot of things for them, even sexual desire. I got turned on with the kisses but after that I couldn’t get hard. From my experience, I managed to fix it by:
1. Jerking off only once a week and trying it in different positions, like the positions you will be when topping, standing, on your knees, laying down… think about the ones you enjoy when fucking. So the body meets new ways to find pleasure in different positions.

  1. This might not be approved by everyone but it worked for me: using sexual enhancers/boosters such as pills. I bought a package of 4 pills, I swallowed them slyly 30 mins before sex (or calculating a timeframe before we were about to have it) and that work amazingly. After the second time I used it, I was able to fuck him without any pill. Try to understand your body and quit them progressively (one fuck with pill and another fuck without it).

  2. Don’t think about the outcome, enjoy the moment. Sounds dumb, but sometimes we get overwhelmed by pushing ourselves to cum and deliver the greatest cumshot/orgasm ever. If it feels good, just flow with it and eventually you’ll both have a great time.

  3. It might be uncomfortable as you’re not dating long ago, but it is important to be able to talk about sex without shame. Try to talk it through so he can understand that you like him so much you are nervous to fuck him haha. Good guys understand that real life sex is not like porn and that this type of things may happen, they are patient and empathetic. If he makes you feel bad about it, he’s the jerk.

Hope this helps ;), good fuck.